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Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/5/2004 6:53:06 PM   
ringlets


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Status: offline 		Where does Yyour deepest pride come from?

i am meaning in the lifestlye. For example for a sub/slave it might be in tending to their Dom/mes needs before the Dom/mes has to ask for it?

Or for a Dom/mes...say knowing that the sub/slave has grown and it is because of the things They have taught them?

What have Yyou experienced in the lifestlye that gives Yyou the greatest pride in Yyourself or Yyour significant other? or both?


Have a great evening and may Yyour night be filled with many smiles,


ringlets
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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/5/2004 7:02:23 PM   
theroebabe


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Status: offline 		hmmmmmm there are two types of pride i am thinking of.

The first and good kind comes from a job well done in general. Not topping from the botom for instance, where instead of saying for example i would like to go here, i instead offer some various choices and let him decide. And if he picks the thing i most wanted it makes me feel as if he knew it and wanted to give me that gift.

The other is an internal pirde that a lot of subs have i think and it maybe foolish pride, the pride of not safewording. And learning trust and hoping and praying the dom can see that he has pushed you to your almost breaking point. Not sure if this is good or not but i think its an internal pride. Roe

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/5/2004 7:22:18 PM   
Laura


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Status: offline 		My deepest pride has nothing to do with BDSM or partners. It's a personal thing, a change I accomplished all on my own.

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/5/2004 7:26:14 PM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: Laura

My deepest pride has nothing to do with BDSM or partners. It's a personal thing, a change I accomplished all on my own.


Much like Laura, my pride rises above the BDSM world to something greater. It's about overcoming my own limits, my own demons and getting one little step closer to enlightment.

- LA

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/5/2004 10:25:41 PM   
proudsub


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Where does Yyour deepest pride come from?


Mine is doing things that make my Dom proud of me.

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/5/2004 10:38:31 PM   
smilezz


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Status: offline 		My pride comes from my strict beliefs first and formost. The Pride i have within my relationship with Thorns comes from the person i not only am, but the person i have become because He is the best part of me.
I find extreme pride when i glance across a room and see Him looking back at me...or Him sitting in front of the computer typing...i happen to walk by and His eyes follow my every move. I find pride in the Man i met years ago and the Man He has become today.

~smilezz~

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/5/2004 11:32:07 PM   
LadyShoshin


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ORIGINAL: ringlets

Where does Yyour deepest pride come from?

i am meaning in the lifestlye. For example for a sub/slave it might be in tending to their Dom/mes needs before the Dom/mes has to ask for it?

Or for a Dom/mes...say knowing that the sub/slave has grown and it is because of the things They have taught them?

What have Yyou experienced in the lifestlye that gives Yyou the greatest pride in Yyourself or Yyour significant other? or both?


Have a great evening and may Yyour night be filled with many smiles,


ringlets

Two things, having over the years earned the respect of my peers and being able to mentor new subs and in special instances, introduce them to the best Dom/mes our community has to offer so they can experience things I may not feel competant in or may be a hard limit for me, but not for the sub.

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/6/2004 5:49:37 AM   
MistressDREAD


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Where does Yyour deepest pride come from?
i am meaning in the lifestlye



I can name five right off the top of My head:

The day I was told that I had been choosen
by My first Dom to be wed to Him in an
arrange marraige with My parents at 15.
This relationship lasted 27 years till His death.

When I was told that there would be a second
Dom entering My life to strenthen and secure
Our Poly Family and the realization that the
Trust between Me and My First Dom had been
complete enough for Him to make such a choice
15 years into Our marraige and FC. My second
marraige to this Dom lasted 15 years concurrent
with My Other Dom till His passing as well. yes Im
a Widow twice, and I was blessed. We gained Our
respects from Our Peers by Our actions and Living
Our Alternate Lifes out in the open.

When I was choosen this past March to be the Online
FC to My Current Gorean Dom. He has brought Me much
pride and joy in a tense time within My Life and for this
Ill be forever greatful.

Raising My children as I had been raised with in a BDSM
and Poly Culture and continued on a Family Heritage of
several Generations with in My Familys structure.

When My parents gave Me My first slave whom had
been there since the day I was born. He still lives and
serves Me and assists Me in running My Homes in the
absence of My Doms and when I am far. He does this
from a wheel chair now and he is over 65. He has a lifelong
contract with Me and has served Me in every capasity a
slave can serve. My pride of him is shown in the name I
carry as My trademark and registered pen name and
name I use online in the name of My slavedread.
I had asked My slave of all the things he felt were of
value to him what did he think was the thing most of
value aside from Me and My Family to him and he said
his surname and from that day I took his name and have
used it to show My pride in him. you can beleive that
he feels it a great honor that I carry his name in all that
I do every day and he knows that every time My name
is mentioned and used that it makes Me think of him.

Of course these are just five of Millions but they are
Ones that spacifically address My Lifestyle and Living
and My choices that are not vanilla related and not
only address My real life but My online life as well which
completes Me as a Lifestyler. JMO

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/6/2004 6:53:40 AM   
subbiejenn


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Status: offline 		Making my Dom happy -- seeing that little grin when i have pleased Him. I take pride in everything i do for Him and always want to do it at my best because i know He will know if i did not.

my deepest pride i would think comes from being the best submissive for my Dom. Knowing i satisfy Him in everyway... and i know i have when i see it in His eyes, hear it in His words and feel it in His love.

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/6/2004 2:55:32 PM   
NoCalOwner


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ringlets

Where does Yyour deepest pride come from?

i am meaning in the lifestlye.

Or for a Dom/mes...say knowing that the sub/slave has grown and it is because of the things They have taught them?


That's close, but I cannot teach in a vaccuum. I'm incredibly proud of my slave, but all I can do is to instruct, I can't force anyone to learn. I feel very good about the lessons I have offered, but I cannot claim credit for what she's done with them. She was an amazing person when I met her, and I think that she is even more of one now. So my pride will always include not only what I have done with her, but that someone like her would see something in me worth submitting to.

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/7/2004 12:55:00 PM   
playfullkitty69


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Status: offline 		For me, it is just to see the smile on the Dominants face when i have done something to please him...whether it is completing an assignment or serving him in any way. or just by making him laugh.

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/7/2004 3:12:09 PM   
Destinysskeins


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Status: offline 		Greetings,

Well, my pride in the Lifestyle and in the vanilla world run parallel. In the Lifestyle i take pride in the fact that i have fulfilled more of my previous Dominant's wishes/needs/desires/fantasies than anyone has had in the past. i also pride myself on the fact that i pushed beyond what i thought was possible to do simply in an effort to better support and assist Him. My pride in the vanilla world runs much the same course - i'm fulfilled in knowing that those close to me see me as a giving & nurturing person that is quick to lend an ear or a hand and very slow to give voice to negativity in regards to them. i take pride in the fact that i set higher standards for myself than i do for those around me simply for the sake of better enabling myself to help others. In short, i guess i'm kinda like a good hunting dog - i'm loyal, i always come when called and i'm always trying to get to that bird faster each time!

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/7/2004 10:56:13 PM   
ShrewWhisperer


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Status: offline 		I'm proud of the fact I've trained 11 slaves....saddly the next one will be the last one, I'll have a full coven and it will be time to hang up my spurs....which I can go to 11 households in this country and be welcomed in as father, brother, master and friend. Somewhere along the way I musta done something right.

I can still see the 11 girls who I took and I did my best with, and now see 11 women who are in control of themselves who can make the best choices for themselves and who don't seem to go through the endless angst I see in other people.

and its really nice to know if someone killed me, there would be nearly a dozen avenging angels.

I've never been a marrying man and my own family is too small to have made it into my generation, so its nice to know there are places where I can call home...that I built with my own talent. I'm proud of the parents they are now...they've ended the cycles handed down to them by their own sire & dame, on a tombstone it won't mean much I suppose but I'll go to god with a nice set of reccomandations...as long as there's not a spelling test, I'm in!

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/8/2004 1:50:29 AM   
wetrope


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Status: offline 		As a dom it isnt easy to admit but I take pride in having learned when to stop before she gives the caution word, when to go on to things I dont necessarily enjoy but she likes such as being pulled by her hair and tossed arouond, when to add new toys that she will enjoy and not necessarily me, and how to slow down and smell the atmosphere of a scene and not be too conserned with the next step. Ok I'm a pussy!! Also take pride in a new pain position I've never seen in the bdsm world, one that takes her to the brink everytime. What i'v learned is miniscule in comparison with how my sub has grown in so many areas of her life, some learned through teaching, others through just being together.

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/8/2004 4:49:06 AM   
MistressDREAD


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a wetrope pussy MASTER
sounds exCITING!

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/8/2004 5:02:35 AM   
FatherMichael


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Status: offline 		dude, dunno who told you that you were a pussy, but don't buy into it....

90% of the people online are bullshitters, they knock off the ugly parts of history and retain the stuff that makes 'em look good. Treat everythign like you treated 3rd grade and eventually figured out the players from the ones you had to really be careful around to the ones who were worth being friends with.

to put it another way....the only voice that matters is your own, and if you think you're a pussy maybe you have a problem, but don't get mired up in being better than another dom cuz he might do it different, he might do it different, but that don't mean better. if you can protect your sub, keep her content, and live a life you can have some pride in, you're doing it right.

okay I'll go change out of my cheerleader outfit now. :)

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/8/2004 5:16:28 AM   
MistressDREAD


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Status: offline 		Isent it interesting Michael how different gender Dominants
read into words differently?
I took His words as a show of His pride and in sum kind of way His admitance into His Masterful actions and feeling for His posession
were in sum kind of way wrong hence His admitance to being sumthing
other then a Dom whom must always show strenth and He not feeling
that showing compassion of need as being a strenth when it actually is.
They were not wrong hence My saying how attractive a pussy Master not
Dom was..................~smiles~
Jah how I so adore Our weirdnesses!!

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/8/2004 6:40:26 PM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		Within oneself. Pride is pride. It doesn't have the lifestyle associated with it. You are who you are period.

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/8/2004 7:11:13 PM   
MistressDREAD


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quote:

Pride is pride. It doesn't have the lifestyle associated with
it.

maybe for you sub it doesent have the lifestyle associated with it
but for Me My Pride like My Lifestyle is a total part of Me and has EVERYTHING to do with it and Me. JMO

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RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? - 9/8/2004 7:58:18 PM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		That is exactly what I said dread. You said the same thing I did. It is within you and who you are. You were born within the lifestyle, therefore that is who you are.

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