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crouchingtigress -> RE: new to being a sub (3/23/2006 9:41:08 AM)
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In a nut shell I do not believe in a model of using corporal punishment for behavior modification in a long term relationship. (works fine in a scene though).
If a sub of mine chooses to disobey we discuss it, and often the "punishment" is me withdrawing D/s from the dynamic, and it is then his choice to obey or not, but i have not lost any ground because i have kept the D/s a privilege in his mind and have have not trained him to disobey to get his needs met.
I have found the threat of going vanilla be the most powerful deterrent. The second best is the words "you have disapointed me, pet"
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