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RE: on-line relationships - 3/22/2006 11:10:12 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I know of several on-lime Ld relationships that have woredout great.  I also however know of some that could not take the strain of seperation.  It really depends on the people involved and how that handle the distance and strain of seperation.

For myself that would not work i need to see my Masters handsome face feel his touch.  That is just me it will be different for others.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/22/2006 11:26:52 AM   
GateKeeprsJewel


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I met Master online but within a very short time, we did a face to face meet. I lived about 4 hours from him so commuting was our only option till we decided the relationship was to go further. In the times before I moved here, my urges to serve him were quite intense and knowing I couldn't be there constantly made them just that much moreso. Please note that when I say serving, I'm not speaking of sexual needs or bottoming aspects. I'm talking about things I could do to please him that were above and beyond the 'kink'. He came up with an excellant idea. I would go to a Domme friend's of ours house and do little chores for her, in his name. It made me feel like even though I wasn't able to be with him as much as I'd have liked, I could still make him happy. It was a win- win -win situation. The Domme would be happy to help out her friends ( and get things done around the house that she really didn't have time for), Master was happy because it showed him just how powerful my devotion to him could be and I was happy because I had a way to serve to him,even if only by proxy. This lasted for about a month or so, until I finally relocated. That was six years ago and it's part of our relationship that I'm very thankful for.

jewel

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/22/2006 11:42:26 AM   
justjill


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Status: offline 		I know of several online d/s and M/s relationships that have worked. I know of many regular relationships that have worked from meeting online. From what I have heard that the big thing is that both are committed to moving toward a real time relationship and there is a steady progression.

There are good and bad points to where and how you meet anybody. One of the positives I have seen by meeting people online that there seems to me more openness in talking about the important subjects of a relationship and more honesty. This is of course after you have weeded through the people who will write anything to get you, but then again that goes for being in a bar as well.

I wish you great luck.


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RE: on-line relationships - 3/22/2006 1:40:32 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Master and I met online and we are happily living together now as Master and slave and husband and wife.

The chatting phase was very difficult and frustrating, if it wasn't moving towards us meeting, I couldnt have invested myself in it. The only thing that stopped me going completely insane when those slave urges started pummulting through my body, mind and emotions (yet the reality was I was sitting alone in a room) was the thought of meeting.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/23/2006 8:36:40 AM   
Cristalin


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Status: offline 		in my corner of the world being divorced is ashame...having a child without being married is also something that makes you a "black sheep "...my co-workers ( all females) consider oral sex as a form of highest perversion...why i am telling you all theese?...to make you understand that there are very very slim chances to find somebody local...i have to rely on the internet to find like-minded persons

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/23/2006 2:17:57 PM   
tendergirl


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Status: offline 		My Dom and I live 300 miles apart.  we met on collarme in December, spent New Year together and are back and forth up and down Britain by train every fortnight or less.  We are also engaged vanilla now and it looks like He will move in with me over the summer.

It has been hard and sometimes, the active D/s has to be shut down or i just cannot cope.  We had a bad scene (for me) last weekend and before we could work it all out, off He went again on the train. We agree to let vanilla take the lead (we both have kids, jobs etc) but know in the future that our D/s relationship will blossom. We use the vanilla life to organise our D/s one.

So we went from meeting online, to long distance relationship.  It has been 4 months now and it looks like we might just make it.

love from tendergirl

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/23/2006 2:27:04 PM   
MHOO314


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cristalin

how many chances has an on-line relationship, a very long distance one to develop and grow and became effective in real life too?...does anyone live in such a relationship?...


It was 5+ months before I got to see the boy for the first time, when we did we knew it was right----he lives 3000 miles away, I saw him mid March because I sent for him to meet Me while I was travelling--I will see him again end of April---and he is eventually going to move here--so yes it can happen, and I don't always agree that if it doesn't go real time in a few months it never will--- we all worried over littlepita and her Joe- 10 months before they went rt and they are very happy----so it can and does happen---not as often as we'd like though---

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/23/2006 5:16:24 PM   
liltess


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Status: offline 		I met my Master on collarme just when I was about to quit searching.  We have been together for 3 months already, I live in kissimmee and he in Tampa which is close but not that close, we talk on the phone daily several times, email, and see each other on weekends when ever we can but there are times when we don't see each other for months.  yes things get tough when I crave his touch but Master knows when I get to that point and sends me some sort of task which just brings me closer to him on the D/s relationship we have begun to built, not to mention eases the anguish.

We have spoken about moving together but right now Master leaves the door open waiting for me to come which will happen.  LDR can surely happen if you have chemistry and want it bad enough.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/23/2006 7:09:26 PM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

quote:

ORIGINAL: Cristalin

how many chances has an on-line relationship, a very long distance one to develop and grow and became effective in real life too?...does anyone live in such a relationship?...


It was 5+ months before I got to see the boy for the first time, when we did we knew it was right----he lives 3000 miles away, I saw him mid March because I sent for him to meet Me while I was travelling--I will see him again end of April---and he is eventually going to move here--so yes it can happen, and I don't always agree that if it doesn't go real time in a few months it never will--- we all worried over littlepita and her Joe- 10 months before they went rt and they are very happy----so it can and does happen---not as often as we'd like though---


i am glad you posted this.  i have known people who have waited very long periods of time before meeting their One face to face.  It seems to me so many assume "online relationships" mean all they do is have cybersex or phone sex.  While i agree that face to face contact is irreplaceable and can not be equalled, true relationships can indeed be developed through endless hours of discussing the deepest aspects of oneself.  i see my Master one or two weekends a month, and sometimes very short visits in between.  Does that mean i'm "free to do whatever" in between visits?  Does it mean i do not serve him unless i am in his presence?  Does it mean my mind is not constantly, 24/7 on him in some way or another?  Does it mean i do not live for him and incorporate him into every part of my life?  Hell no.  What it means is that i have come to love to ache for him constantly, because that lets me feel him.  It means i miss him every moment we are apart, even when we are speaking, because i long to smell him, taste him, feel him, breathe him.

So for others who live a greater distance apart, we do a disservice to take away from them by downplaying what they may actually feel in their hearts.  It is true i know of way too many people who might not take their online relationships so seriously, but to clump everyone into one heap and label them the same seems a bit unfair to me.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/23/2006 7:20:39 PM   
liltess


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

quote:

ORIGINAL: Cristalin

how many chances has an on-line relationship, a very long distance one to develop and grow and became effective in real life too?...does anyone live in such a relationship?...


It was 5+ months before I got to see the boy for the first time, when we did we knew it was right----he lives 3000 miles away, I saw him mid March because I sent for him to meet Me while I was travelling--I will see him again end of April---and he is eventually going to move here--so yes it can happen, and I don't always agree that if it doesn't go real time in a few months it never will--- we all worried over littlepita and her Joe- 10 months before they went rt and they are very happy----so it can and does happen---not as often as we'd like though---


i am glad you posted this.  i have known people who have waited very long periods of time before meeting their One face to face.  It seems to me so many assume "online relationships" mean all they do is have cybersex or phone sex.  While i agree that face to face contact is irreplaceable and can not be equalled, true relationships can indeed be developed through endless hours of discussing the deepest aspects of oneself.  i see my Master one or two weekends a month, and sometimes very short visits in between.  Does that mean i'm "free to do whatever" in between visits?  Does it mean i do not serve him unless i am in his presence?  Does it mean my mind is not constantly, 24/7 on him in some way or another?  Does it mean i do not live for him and incorporate him into every part of my life?  Hell no.  What it means is that i have come to love to ache for him constantly, because that lets me feel him.  It means i miss him every moment we are apart, even when we are speaking, because i long to smell him, taste him, feel him, breathe him.

So for others who live a greater distance apart, we do a disservice to take away from them by downplaying what they may actually feel in their hearts.  It is true i know of way too many people who might not take their online relationships so seriously, but to clump everyone into one heap and label them the same seems a bit unfair to me.



well said ownedgirlie, I do just like you incorporate Master in everything, even when I go out to lunch with someone I am to call him and ask permission, so I agree just because He does not live with me  does not mean I can do what ever I wish until we meet again. and yes to clump is very unfair to those that are making it work .

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/23/2006 8:01:31 PM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		We were online for 10 months and never met face to face until he came and picked me up on March 2nd and took me to our new home. We are incredibly happy and very much in love and having a wonderful time exploring our D/s. We didn't do much in the way of D/s play or training while online, because we knew fairly quickly we would be moving to real life and wanted to save it. We take the D/s slowly now because we are adjusting to so much and I have a kid that has to come first and feel secure in her new home and enviroment. I do feel that he is the one for me though and that we will last. *Prayers said and fingers crossed!*

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/23/2006 8:11:49 PM   
kyraofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cristalin
how many chances has an on-line relationship, a very long distance one to develop and grow and became effective in real life too?...does anyone live in such a relationship?...


I do...

I met my Lord in a chat room in early November 2004.  In April of 2005, we met and started a face to face relationship.  We have had our issues and struggles, but we are committed to each other and to making our relationship work.  We are a very happy, healthy poly family. 

It's possible.. not easy, but possible if both are committed to it.

Knight's kyra 

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/23/2006 9:34:49 PM   
DragonNphoenix


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cristalin

how many chances has an on-line relationship, a very long distance one to develop and grow and became effective in real life too?...does anyone live in such a relationship?...


My sister was Handfasted with her husband on Feb 2, 2006.  They started as a long distance on-line relationship.  He was living in England and we live in Washington state, is that long distance enough for ya.

1st Girl Phoenix

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/24/2006 2:19:52 AM   
Rayne58


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cristalin

how many chances has an on-line relationship, a very long distance one to develop and grow and became effective in real life too?...does anyone live in such a relationship?...


Master and I have been together in r/l for just over 2 years now. We met on an erotic story site in 2002 as friends first and then about 9 months later we began to grow closer. He lived in Sydney Australia and I in New Zealand, in a small rural community a bit like yours I knew nothing about D/s but I knew I'd always had a submissive side to me. We met face to face 5 months after our relationship developed, and I moved to be with Him permanently 2 months later. We are going to be married sometime this year.

If you both want it badly enough, yes it can happen. Master is unable to travel because of His health, so it fell to me to be the one to pack up and move. Communication, honesty and trust are key. Good luck

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/24/2006 2:41:20 AM   
allyC


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ORIGINAL: Cristalin

how many chances has an on-line relationship, a very long distance one to develop and grow and became effective in real life too?...does anyone live in such a relationship?...
 Hello, Cristalin.  :) Any relationship (whether begun online or up close in person) will have the success and longevity equal to the effort and compatability of the people involved.  If you meet the right person online and you both work hard toward making that relationship work and toward making it a tangible, offline thing, then you chances of succeeding are very good.   I met my owner in early 1998 online.  Due to various obstacles, (including a 2000 mile distance between us) we were not able to meet in person until several months later but we communicated via telephone for several hours per day, every day.  We learned so much about each other in these times of pure communication.  Before I even laid eyes on him, I felt that I knew him better than I had ever known anyone. To make a very long story short, I have been beneath his hand for nearly 8 years now.  It is the strongest, most incredible relationship I have ever known and my heart still pounds in my chest when I hear him come home from work in the evening.  *smiles*  It may have been luck that caused us to meet but the success and longevity of our relationship is owed to conscious effort, communication, compassion, and love. I wish you the very best of luck, Cristalin, and hope that everything works out for you as you want it to be. Well wishes, Cav's ally

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RE: on-line relationships - 4/24/2006 12:28:01 PM   
wolfslave1


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Status: offline 		My master and I met online...we talked for 4 months before we met real time. We continued as an LDR for 3 years, me flying to him or him to me before we finally moved in together. We have lived together now for 1 1/2 years and it is wonderful. Of course there was a adjustment period. Being a submissive to your Dom for a weekend or week is a LOT different than 24/7. Good luck to you.... 

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RE: on-line relationships - 4/25/2006 5:07:19 PM   
OnlyHis


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Status: offline 		Online can work if there is a lot of communication and the commitment is there to make it work.  I have been with Master almost 5 years and we are right now 1800 miles away. I am from Ontario Canada and He is from Colorado. We have had several visits that ranged from two weeks to 8 months and now are working to getting me a visa so i can move to be with Him.  There are times things can be very discouraging but you both have to work on the obstacles that are put in your path.  Takes loads and loads of patience on your part and on His.  But it can work.



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RE: on-line relationships - 4/25/2006 5:48:07 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I was watching Good Morning America and they were talking about online dating vs real world meeting and then dating. The "experts" said "only" one in ten online dates leads to a relationship of any significance. I thought that sounds better than my "real world" average...lol

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RE: on-line relationships - 4/25/2006 5:53:43 PM   
OnyxGoddess


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Status: offline 		lmfao...well i have to disagree with their statistics.  I married my online romance.  Go figure.

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RE: on-line relationships - 4/26/2006 8:05:58 AM   
Amaros


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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I was watching Good Morning America and they were talking about online dating vs real world meeting and then dating. The "experts" said "only" one in ten online dates leads to a relationship of any significance. I thought that sounds better than my "real world" average...lol


Exactly, gotta love experts - a statistic like this is difficult to assess without putting it into context - how many 'offline' dates lead to "relationships of significance"?

One in ten is better than I'd have guessed, and the real interesting thing to me is that it involves people who probobly would have never met otherwise.

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