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sappatoti -> RE: Fighting nature. (1/6/2010 5:17:32 PM)
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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl
So this begs a new question. One i wont poll. in my mind, such men, or women, who like to impose pain and need the victim to fight back... would they not be viewed as submissive to those needs, and, if so, who is the truly dominant one in that relationship?
i suppose i could word that better.
If you need your partner to attempt to top you in order to get off, have that sense of dominance, or feel in power, who is on top?
The way I see your question (which I understood pefectly, btw), I'm thinking the dominant is still the one in charge. S/he instigated the situation, causing the submissive to act in that way. In order for this to happen to the dominant's expectations, the dominant would need to know what buttons to push within the submissive to garner his or her defense. Doing so gets the submissive to respond to the dominant's whims.
As I wrote in my post, I never had an ounce of satisfaction or pleasure from fighting. Zero. In fact, I was disgusted with myself for having to resort to such actions. In your hypothetical question, since the dominant would absolutely be deriving pleasure from being pummeled while the submissive may or may not be doing so, the dominant once again is getting serviced.
I have read about how some dominants actually like to be the bottom, not the top, in a physical relationship. I think your hypothetical question would be an example of just such a relationship.
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