How do you inspire

How do you inspire (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress

Message

Acer49 -> How do you inspire (1/8/2010 12:06:17 AM)
It has been suggested that both male and female dominants share similar issues. What is it that you say or do that will inspire a submissive to wish to be with you as opposed to your fellow dominant?

MarcEsadrian -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 1:14:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 It has been suggested that both male and female dominants share similar issues. What is it that you say or do that will inspire a submissive to wish to be with you as opposed to your fellow dominant? Now do you really expect that intellectual property to be given up so easily? In all seriousness, it's not a recipe easily written out within the scope of a message board. And while I say that, there are very obvious basics that count, if one thinks about it well enough.

LadyAngelika -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 4:26:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 What is it that you say or do that will inspire a submissive to wish to be with you as opposed to your fellow dominant? I don't see this as a competition but rather a compatibility issue. So the whole point of trying to get them to be with me rather than another is moot. As for I can do to inspire them to stay with me? Respecting them, trusting them, caring about them would be a good start... - LA

MasterFireMaam -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 6:39:09 AM)
It's not a matter of, "Stay with me because I'm better," it's a matter of, "Be with me because you are led to do so." If they leave for someone else, oh well. It's not a competition about who it better, its a discernment about who is right for their life, even if just for "right now". We do recognize, however, that taking the love interest aspect out of it makes this attitude easier to have. Even then, love isn't supposed to be a competition in Our eyes. Master Fire

Venatrix -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 6:53:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 What is it that you say or do that will inspire a submissive to wish to be with you as opposed to your fellow dominant? Oh, I don't bother with sophisticated rubbish like that. I just club 'em over the head and drag 'em back to my cave. It's never failed me yet.

Kana -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 7:05:25 AM)
Sheeesh Saying has zip to do with it. It's not about what I say, it's a touch of what I do, and a whole lot of who I am. The only time people lie is when their mouths are open. Me, I listen with my eyes.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 8:02:39 AM)
What MasterFire said. And Venatrix! [8D] I am dominant all the time, but I am not EVERYONE'S dominant. I inspire trust by being trustworthy. I try to be a good person, a good daughter, a good friend, a good leader... and those who want to follow me, do.

Lashra -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 8:27:55 AM)
There is something in me that touches something in him that brings about his submissiveness. When asked what this was he said it was my quiet confidence, my ability to lead and to make decisions, my aggressive sexiness and my ability to say exactly what is on my mind. In short he desires to be with me because of who I am and not the label that I wear. I am sure since we are all individuals that you are going to get many different answers, but this one best fits us. ~Lashra

LaTigresse -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 8:32:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 It has been suggested that both male and female dominants share similar issues. What is it that you say or do that will inspire a submissive to wish to be with you as opposed to your fellow dominant? By being the best ME I can be......if someone does not want to be with me, they are not for me. I am not going to pretend to be their fantasy image of who they, or anyone else, thinks I should be.

Icarys -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 8:46:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Venatrix quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 What is it that you say or do that will inspire a submissive to wish to be with you as opposed to your fellow dominant? Oh, I don't bother with sophisticated rubbish like that. I just club 'em over the head and drag 'em back to my cave. It's never failed me yet. Grunts in agreement.[:D]

hardbodysub -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 8:46:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Sheeesh Saying has zip to do with it. It's not about what I say, it's a touch of what I do, and a whole lot of who I am. The only time people lie is when their mouths are open. Me, I listen with my eyes. Saying, using language, is an action in itself. It doesn't replace other actions, and may be less important than "doing", but communicating obviously has more than "zip to do with it".

hardbodysub -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 8:51:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 It has been suggested that both male and female dominants share similar issues. What is it that you say or do that will inspire a submissive to wish to be with you as opposed to your fellow dominant? I tend to agree with several respondents who said that they are more interested in compatibility than competing with other dominants. On the other hand, I believe that such compatibility includes a sub being inspired in some way by the dominant, whether it's something that the dominant says, does, or is. If this inspiration is absent, what we're left with is dominants constantly whining that they just can't seem to find any real subs.

LaTigresse -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 8:55:07 AM)
Not to mention...........competition? Pullllllllleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeezzzzz!!!!!!!!!!!! If someone does not want to belong to me, I sure as hell am not going to chase them down to try and convince them they should!

LadyPact -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 9:18:25 AM)
I think it would be rather difficult, as well as time consuming, to sit down and attempt to reveal the way that I inspire. Not that I wouldn't enjoy the project at some time. The problem is that I would have to find some way to condense all of the discussions, experiences, feelings, nurturing, and everything else that happens within a dynamic and try to convey that somehow here for you in written words. Even if I could, My theories on doing so wouldn't be universal. Some methods work better for certain individuals rather than others. There's no way to carbon copy it. I've had experiences in My life where people reacted automatically to Me. They felt submissive energy within themselves when they met Me and felt that they received a type of Dominant energy from Me. That I can't particularly explain. Call it chemistry or whatever terminology works for you. It's something that just happens. Taking that initial impression, however, and turning it into inspiration on some level, you have to find that compatibility and connection. A history between two people begins at the moment you meet and carries on from there. Each and every time, it is unique because there will always be the element of variation. One will never be like the next and you have to use what works on a case by case basis. As for competition, like some other folks have mentioned, I don't participate in it. Either a submissive is the right fit for Me, and Me for him, or we aren't. I know that I'm not for everyone and I don't want to try to be. Though I will say, when it works, it's a pretty good thing.

thetammyjo -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 10:57:34 AM)
I don't compete with others, I'm simply me. If "me" works for someone, then cool, perhaps they'll work for me and the other members of my household as well.

PeonForHer -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 11:38:00 AM)
I feel pretty sure that the 'right' one for me wouldn't have the first clue as to how she inspires me.

GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 11:49:33 AM)
OP: I have been a leader all my life...ppl automatically gravitate for listening..problem solving..guidance and more. I am deeply grateful for this. I "take over'..wheather in a cafe..grocery store..party..job or event. I do this with confidence..warmth and respect. I live my life DOMINANTLY... When I search for submissives...we may have commonalities.. and enough outside interests to BUILD a relationship. The qualities I have may inspire ANY man to wish to be with me..; they may not. We may click..we may not. There are many variables for insipration.. I hope I inspire MANY...not just a submissve man.. IN keynote addresses I seek to inspire.. I wish for people to know they can rise above adversity to live with purpose. I wish for ppl to know their own soul essence and realize their gifts and potential. If this way of being INSPIRES a submissive man who I also wish to be with to want to be with me..then we are off to a good start.. I do know that when I have(sub) "husbands"..they are inspired by a deep bond..of safety...knowledge with confident decision making..respect..love..being cherished for who they are..support in endevours..building of strength areas they have to walk proud being the best HUMAN they can be. I wish to extract from them all their best qualitites and expand and magnify them for MYSELF and for them GM

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 1:41:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 It has been suggested that both male and female dominants share similar issues. What is it that you say or do that will inspire a submissive to wish to be with you as opposed to your fellow dominant? Nothing. I am just myself. I'm not interested in "inspiring" a submissive to be with me. It sets up an impossible situation, fraught with unrealistic expectations, in which I'm somehow expected to superhumanly "inspire" a sub to bestow the "gift" of her submission on me. Fuck that noise. Either we're compatible or we're not. If we are, then no inspiration is needed; the person I am all day, every day is enough.

Icarys -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 2:08:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 It has been suggested that both male and female dominants share similar issues. What is it that you say or do that will inspire a submissive to wish to be with you as opposed to your fellow dominant? Nothing. I am just myself. I'm not interested in "inspiring" a submissive to be with me. It sets up an impossible situation, fraught with unrealistic expectations, in which I'm somehow expected to superhumanly "inspire" a sub to bestow the "gift" of her submission on me. Fuck that noise. Either we're compatible or we're not. If we are, then no inspiration is needed; the person I am all day, every day is enough. Bingo.

AlexandraLynch -> RE: How do you inspire (1/8/2010 3:12:34 PM)
People who have dated me have said that I am a fun personality who is clearly calm, knows what she wants, and intelligently articulates that. I am reasonably attractive and have a few outstanding features that catch peoples' eyes. I'm very passionate about everything I do, and I think that attracts people who enjoy that in their lives. I'm not the dominant for someone who doesn't want their life to go beyond work and who's on American Idol. I am an interesting person, and so I attract interesting people.

Page: [1]

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.03125