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RE: Do Past Issues Make BDSM easier? - 3/22/2006 6:26:14 PM

sweetnessforsir

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It occurs to me that I am the sum of everything I have experienced in my life. The bad and the good. This is true of folks in mainstream lifestyles as well. It helps me to believe that the "damage" that has occurred to me has only brought me closer to who I am . . . but this may be a naive belief.

Everyone has a story, and everyone has a "cross" to bear, but we are all fundamentally do the same thing. We are trying to get through each day with a snatch of happiness and some satisfaction. It looks different for everyone, but it is just as valid.

The person who had those bad experiences will always be me, but I am no longer the person who experienced them. I have changed and grown and learned along this path.

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RE: Do Past Issues Make BDSM easier? - 3/22/2006 7:13:00 PM

HoosierScorpio

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From my own experience I have come across allot who has been abuse seeks this lifestyle because this is all they know and they deserve to be treated that way. That is far from the truth and I have been about to show them is not the case for they have value. I think this lifestyle can teach trust and it allows you to grow into some one stronger.

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RE: Do Past Issues Make BDSM easier? - 3/22/2006 8:01:14 PM

KittenWithaTwist

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I don't think that the hardships of my life made it easier or harder to find a partner. I simply had to find someone I was comfortable with (true of everyone, I think) and someone I could trust (again, true of everyone imo). I didn't bring my past to the table when I first spoke to my partner, but it came up eventually, and still does from time to time.

I definitely needed to have my partner's support and love before I could pursue my relationship with him, but I think I would feel the same way if I had not had the past that I have.

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RE: Do Past Issues Make BDSM easier? - 3/22/2006 8:34:27 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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I concur with sweetnessforsir....Though I have not experienced abuse from the hands of my loved ones..I had experienced scarring from the highschool experience.As stated we all have baggage..It all comes down with how any one person finds it best within them to handle it.Does it make BDSM easier?...Somehow IMO I do not think so.Does it make BDSM harder?..again I dont think so..It is all individualized.........nothing you can wrap up into a grouping....be well...tempting

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