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Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 1:57:38 PM   
liketobeBlues


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Status: offline 		Maybe I'm not awake enough yet, but I've read a couple of posts today that really got me thinking ... when did it become an automatic bad thing to be a "begging-to-be-fucked-dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch"?

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:00:24 PM   
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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:01:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: liketobeBlues

Maybe I'm not awake enough yet, but I've read a couple of posts today that really got me thinking ... when did it become an automatic bad thing to be a "begging-to-be-fucked-dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch"?

~ Blue ~


What posts were you reading? Why do you think most of us are here, to be Mother Theresa?

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:03:01 PM   
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If it's socially acceptable to say when you walk up to a group of strangers in a restaurant, it's probably not going to cause a stir here.  YMMV.


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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:04:14 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		First off - i am NOT dirty - i shower every day
and i don't like to be covered in cum
and i am not a bitch - but sometimes i play one online!

as for the rest - i take the fifth!

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:05:14 PM   
wisdomtogive


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quote:

ORIGINAL: liketobeBlues

Maybe I'm not awake enough yet, but I've read a couple of posts today that really got me thinking ... when did it become an automatic bad thing to be a "begging-to-be-fucked-dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch"?

~ Blue ~


Hello Blue
I will answer just for myself. When it is coming from Sir, there is nothing wrong with it. Perhaps when it is coming from a very close friend and used as a joke, there is nothing wrong. When it is wrong is when any dom feels they can do that to any submissive. When i see that i just label them ignorant and not anyone i want to get to know. Also to use it as a generalize statement about/towards s-types is another mark against them. I cant take anyone serious who talks like that to someone they don't know or in broad statements, since they really look /represent junior high, high school boys...am an antique here:)

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:05:46 PM   
mc1234


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Status: offline 		I'm not sure what you're reading, but I don't think it ever became an automatic bad thing.

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:07:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: liketobeBlues

Maybe I'm not awake enough yet, but I've read a couple of posts today that really got me thinking ... when did it become an automatic bad thing to be a "begging-to-be-fucked-dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch"?

~ Blue ~


I think I've missed something here... but if that's all a person is, then I can honestly say I'm probably not going to be very interested in them. If that what someone other than Valyraen is calling me... I'm probably going to knee them in the balls because I'm not theirs to call names.

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:13:27 PM   
liketobeBlues


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

What posts were you reading? Why do you think most of us are here, to be Mother Theresa?


I certainly hope not!

~ Blue ~

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:14:26 PM   
Drifa


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Status: offline 		I think it's just fine, as long as it's something you and your partner enjoy.

Where this gets problematic is when some complete nub-head gets on the internet and my first interaction with him (it's always a guy) is an email saying: "Get on your knees and beg me to fuck you, you dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch!"  Yeah, right. How about introducing yourself and getting to know me for about 20 seconds first? Or better yet, read my profile before you send me this sort of thing.

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:18:47 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		Those things are not bad things. The problem comes in when you have become one dimensional and only see people as able to take care of all those filthy little needs of yours or not. I am sure there is more than one facet to your personality. Others feel the same way. The concern lies with forgetting that people are human beings and not fantasy fulfilling robots. As long as you are still treating people like actual people and behaving like one yourself, I have no trouble with anyone being the filthy, cum hungry, skanky, little, sub slut whore that they are!

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:18:53 PM   
Jeffff


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quote:

ORIGINAL: liketobeBlues

Maybe I'm not awake enough yet, but I've read a couple of posts today that really got me thinking ... when did it become an automatic bad thing to be a "begging-to-be-fucked-dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch"?

~ Blue ~



Well I'm pretty sure my Mom wouldn't like it. As far as I know, she doesn't post here.



Jeff

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:30:23 PM   
osf


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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 2:34:35 PM   
bellagg


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ORIGINAL: liketobeBlues

Maybe I'm not awake enough yet, but I've read a couple of posts today that really got me thinking ... when did it become an automatic bad thing to be a "begging-to-be-fucked-dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch"?

~ Blue ~


Bad thing??? why would that be a bad thing?

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 6:10:28 PM   
liketobeBlues


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Status: offline 		I love walking up to someone near and dear to me, putting my lips close to their ear, and letting the most profane things drip from my lips to slither across their skin seeking deeper and darker places ... Would I yell those words across a diner full of families? Just not cool in my world ...

I don't particularly take kindly to being called "bitch". However, I am perfectly fine with being told I'm a twisted bitch by people that have seen me play publically. They are two very different things even though the word is the same.
The first is clearly meant to bait, insult, degrade or escalate (those are the goals I can think of off the top of my head, I'm sure there's more). The second is something entirely different. I don't even necessarily think it's always a respect or awe thing. Sometimes it can be something as simple as ... That was very cool thank you for sharing it with me.

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/9/2010 9:05:06 PM   
cagliostro


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Status: offline 		As with most things it depends on the person.  Some people say things like that proudly, or stand proud of their SO for saying so.  I personally don't like using those kinds of terms, but that is rooted in my conception of them.  I have a friend who very proudly states she's a slut, but I won't call her such.  Because of my personal beliefs. 

I'm guessing that you read a number of posts that use the terms negatively, and haven't seen positive ones.  I've read many times the "slut for one" principle.  I've known people who love being someone's bitch.  It is out there.  To each their own right?  I feel like it just comes down to whatever you personally believe.  You don't like the term bitch applied to you.  Ok.  Fair enough.  If we were talking I wouldn't use that word.  Just like I've known people who don't like the word black, so I used African American.  He felt degraded by black, so I didn't say it.  Others are fine with it. 

I guess I should say, too, that you can never account for everybody.  Personally I think there are a lot of people who get off on putting other people down.  Maybe those were the posters you saw.  Who knows. 

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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/10/2010 3:54:22 AM   
julietsierra


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Status: offline 		I am not Mother Teresa, but I'm not really fond of the phrase myself.  I mean really. If I beg for this and then he does it... is he doing it cause I said so? Or cause he wants it?  Just who is in charge here anyway?!

And if he's calling me that name - well.... talk is cheap. It's kinda like NIKE.... "just do it!"

Thankfully, I know that if I ask for anything, it'll be the last thing I get... so... begging-to-be-fucked-dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch" would pretty much be... counter-productive. So, even if that sounded like a fun thing to do... I'd never be begging my Master for it.

On the other hand, letting him know that whole "begging-to-be-fucked-dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch" thing might be an interesting idea... might be something I'd consider.lol

But seriously, like others have said, if my Master called me this... that's one thing. If someone else did so, I'd walk away thinking him to be nothing more than crude and juvenile in his behavior.

I wondered for a minute if I'd do as someone else here said and kick,hit,slap him for his comments, but I quickly decided I probably wouldn't. That would be reducing me to his level and well... I wouldn't expend that much energy on someone like that.

juliet


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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/10/2010 6:17:12 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

My general rule of thumb:

If it's socially acceptable to say when you walk up to a group of strangers in a restaurant, it's probably not going to cause a stir here.  YMMV.



I know some pretty sleazy restaurants.  Just sayin'. 


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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/10/2010 6:29:38 AM   
tsatske


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Well I'm pretty sure my Mom wouldn't like it. As far as I know, she doesn't post here.

Jeff


Never know, Jeff. After all, I am someone's Mom. I am, in fact, the Mom of some adults of the young, hip, cool generation, at least one of which has an alternative sexual identity (bi and TS), and another one of which has left strong clues that he may have OUR alternative sexual identity. Well, yours, actually, not mine - i see know evidence that any of my three sons are a submissive woman.

but their mom is here, so why couldn't yours be? (And I have to say, everytime I see a profile for a TS with a picture of her dressed, and she has a certain shape of face, and the right color hair, i check her local. If i ever find my son here - well, the thought just squicks me to no end. Not him being here or using this site, but my finding him.)


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RE: Words and intent ... - 1/10/2010 6:42:47 AM   
pompeii


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ORIGINAL: Drifa
(it's always a guy) is an email saying: "Get on your knees and beg me to fuck you, you dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch!"  Yeah, right. How about introducing yourself and getting to know me for about 20 seconds first?


I didn't call her a "begging-to-be-fucked-dirty-cum-covered-slutty-bitch"; I called her a "begging-to-be-fucked-lovely-cum-covered-slutty-bitch"!
Does that make it better now?

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