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Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/9/2010 9:02:54 PM   
AcademyForSlaves


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Status: offline 		Are you looking for a Mistress or slave who'll play daily, weekly, or for an hour or two, or are you hoping to find someone who wants to live the lifestyle 24-7 fulltime?

Are you living one of these ways (play or 24-7) but wish you could live the other way but can't because of your life circumstances (ie work, family, marriage, location)?

What are those reasons why you can't live it the way you wish you could?



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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/9/2010 9:09:38 PM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

Are you looking for a Mistress or slave who'll play daily, weekly, or for an hour or two, or are you hoping to find someone who wants to live the lifestyle 24-7 fulltime?


I'm looking for one man, and one man only, with whom I will build a romantic relationship, where the intimate dynamics will revolve around domination and submission.

quote:

Are you living one of these ways (play or 24-7) but wish you could live the other way but can't because of your life circumstances (ie work, family, marriage, location)?


I am single at the moment.

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What are those reasons why you can't live it the way you wish you could?


At this time, I haven't found a suitable local partner to embark on this journey with.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/9/2010 9:17:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		24/7....as long as real life stuff like work and health are not compromised.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/9/2010 9:31:43 PM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: slavekal

24/7....as long as real life stuff like work and health are not compromised.


I agree with the caveat kal, though it always amazes me that we have to specify it.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/9/2010 9:38:29 PM   
GYPSYMAMBO


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I like to be me 24-7 and as a result I am dominant..24-7..
I do not fem-dom 24-7...I am simply me..a leader and organizer..a dominant women who "takes over" for the higher good..
 
I had 4 sub"husbands " over a period of 20+ years..yes..2 at a time..one for 20+ years..
I wish to LOVE and LIVE THIS LIFE WITH A SUB 24-7 aghain/...I wish to have him with me 24-7..
 
I do not like sessioning..few can serve in sessioning..
and usually want me to SERVE their fetishes.
 
I HAVE HOWEVER HAD SOME GOOD INTERACTIONS AFTER MUCH DISCUSSION..on an on-going but non -binding "daily" relationship..no pun intended..
A relationship based on respect and mutual desires...
 
GM

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/9/2010 9:58:21 PM   
oldrworthlesssub


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

I'm looking for one man, and one man only, with whom I will build a romantic relationship, where the intimate dynamics will revolve around domination and submission.


^^What she said, although change the man part to Woman part for me...hehe :)

What a beautiful way to put it LadyAngelika!


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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/9/2010 10:02:52 PM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: oldrworthlesssub


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

I'm looking for one man, and one man only, with whom I will build a romantic relationship, where the intimate dynamics will revolve around domination and submission.


^^What she said, although change the man part to Woman part for me...hehe :)

What a beautiful way to put it LadyAngelika!




Thanks... I want to call you by your handle but I have an issue with calling you worthless, but even more with calling you old as you are my age according to your profile. And I am not old!! ;-)

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/9/2010 10:06:02 PM   
oldrworthlesssub


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: oldrworthlesssub


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

I'm looking for one man, and one man only, with whom I will build a romantic relationship, where the intimate dynamics will revolve around domination and submission.


^^What she said, although change the man part to Woman part for me...hehe :)

What a beautiful way to put it LadyAngelika!




Thanks... I want to call you by your handle but I have an issue with calling you worthless, but even more with calling you old as you are my age according to your profile. And I am not old!! ;-)

- LA


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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/9/2010 10:20:03 PM   
ThatDamnedPanda


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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

Are you looking for a Mistress or slave who'll play daily, weekly, or for an hour or two, or are you hoping to find someone who wants to live the lifestyle 24-7 fulltime?


I'm not interested in "play" at all. All I'm looking for is one sweet, well-balanced, intelligent, mostly-positive dominant woman with a sense of humor and an intriguing outloook on life, to love, serve, and obey until death do us part - a committed life relationship constructed around the framework of an ownership-based dynamic.



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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves
Are you living one of these ways (play or 24-7) but wish you could live the other way but can't because of your life circumstances (ie work, family, marriage, location)?

What are those reasons why you can't live it the way you wish you could?


I'm missing the most important ingredient - the dominant woman. I need to remind myself to keep working on that.


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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/9/2010 11:00:30 PM   
SthrnCom4t


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Status: offline 		I am just me, and Otter is just Otter...24/7. Our dynamic is one in which power exchange is natural. I like to nurture and have things done a certain way....he is happiest when taking care of others. When together, the rest of the world melts away. We 'play' at certain times, but the dynamic is ALWAYS present. We are able to live the way we want, all the time, because of the very difficult choices we've made, which ultimately have let us be together. Unfortunately, the small town where he has his business, wouldn't approve of the TG aspect, so we save that for nights with friends at home, and weekends out of town.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/10/2010 3:50:32 AM   
Missykink


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Status: offline 		We started out just having a mutual love for play sessions rather than lifestyle.  Over 3 years it's become something that we both want on a more day to day running. 



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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/10/2010 4:48:42 AM   
MsMillgrove


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Status: offline 		I am a dominant woman 24-7. I define myself as a matriarch but that's not a category avail here. I like having a family. And not necesarily living with me, as my adult children don't live with me. Some of the sweetest men I have met want a 24/7. I could feel sad that I cannot provide it. Instead, I'm happy to encourage them or help any way I can, because they deserve that dream.

I look for subs who want to serve (I mean help me with things, not lick the pussy) and reward them for good behavior by exploring their fantasies or kinks in my own time/style. There are those who aren't ready right now for a 24/7, due to career goals, social skills, transitioning, school, whatever--we fit together nicely as we work towards their eventual goal. My youngest little one wanted to learn how to get past a first date, she'd never been able to establish a relationship. Now she's found that "special someone" after a lot of hard work on both our parts. So I am more like "aunty" now, getting updates and giving advice occasionally. I'll always be her mistress, but now she has someone who can fulfill her kinky needs who is appropriate to her age and lifestyle. That's success to me, it makes me so proud of her.

"Sessions" are only time for me to hone a certain skill and are easy to arrange...with play partners. I especially like older ex-doms as they can help me improve technical tools-skills. The subs who are part of my family online and offline--all have different roles and duties. They rarely interact with one another, but they are aware of "who is who", aid each other sometimes, and are never jealous because I juggle time carefully, so that we all stay happy.

It's how I've arranged my life as a domina, but I don't think it's very common as not many of the many lifestylers I know have set things up in this way.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/10/2010 8:10:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am not looking right now, but when I do, it will be for a 24/7 relationship.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/11/2010 8:24:32 AM   
hardbodysub


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Status: offline 		Just play isn't quite enough for me, as that seems a bit too artificial. 24/7 the way most people seem to think of it is a little too much, as career and other vanilla obligations don't really allow it, and I'm also not willing to give up control over all aspects of my life, domestic or otherwise.

My ideal is an undercurrent of femdom that is 24/7, but the tangible enactment being under some constraints that allow us both to achieve our other life goals. In much of our time, we would go about our business as normal vanilla people, but she would have the power to decide if and when to "flip the switch" and assert her dominance. She is in control of if, when, where, and how we "play", if it can even be called play at that point. That doesn't mean that she does all the work and planning, etc.; all I mean is that she gets to decide what she wants, and the main goal is her pleasure. There may be a need for each of us to have some "veto power" (something I view as hard limits that you don't know about until you reach them), at least until we get used to how things work.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/11/2010 8:26:54 AM   
hardbodysub


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ORIGINAL: Missykink

We started out just having a mutual love for play sessions rather than lifestyle.  Over 3 years it's become something that we both want on a more day to day running. 




That is the progression that I imagine would be most likely to lead to the ideal for me as well.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/11/2010 8:36:51 AM   
hardbodysub


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I look for subs who want to serve (I mean help me with things, not lick the pussy) and reward them for good behavior by exploring their fantasies or kinks in my own time/style. There are those who aren't ready right now for a 24/7, due to career goals, social skills, transitioning, school, whatever--we fit together nicely as we work towards their eventual goal.


I think this is a great way for subs to get some experience. Who can realistically jump into a 24/7 all at once? Your requirement of service, and the use of reward for good behavior on your terms is good training, and I think will help to prepare newbies for what is to come if they aspire to 24/7.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/11/2010 8:43:30 AM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

Are you looking for a Mistress or slave who'll play daily, weekly, or for an hour or two, or are you hoping to find someone who wants to live the lifestyle 24-7 fulltime?

Are you living one of these ways (play or 24-7) but wish you could live the other way but can't because of your life circumstances (ie work, family, marriage, location)?

What are those reasons why you can't live it the way you wish you could?



To start, I have to say that I am always a Dominant woman.  My collar that I put on him is always on him, whether he is here or across the globe.  Ownership doesn't start and stop because he walks through the door.  Mentally, he is always owned.  I don't consider My collared sub any less collared when he is deployed anymore than I consider Myself less married when My husband is deployed.

I don't really consider Myself as looking.  I already have two males who are a part of My life.  If someone else should come along that would fit into our poly household, that would be great.  If not, I'm just as content.

I do, and always will have additional play partners.  I engage in S/m for the fun of it.  I still very much enjoy casual play in the top/bottom sense.  How often that occurs depends on the life circumstances of those involved.


ETA...  My current boy started as a play partner.  Generally speaking, I find that situation works best for Me.




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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/11/2010 6:48:02 PM   
blmtrsne


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Status: offline 		I also am always dominant, but I know work or family might not like it. I need my hubby to provide the money. But those situations don't happen a lot, and in other situations (outside encounter from friends or so) I've been getting good comments: Waw, you've trained him well (he's carying my handbag or shopping bags), a raised eyebrow or the question (in a joking way) "Can I lent him for a few hours?). We can pass for a vanilla couple with a shy male and a dominant female. Nothing wrong with that.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/11/2010 7:28:35 PM   
submissiveboy76


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Status: offline 		I won't go so far as to say that 24/7 is what I seek, but i'm pretty close to that end of the spectrum.  A mere session no longer satiates my D/s desires.  I seek the deeper mental experience that comes only when two people have some sort of intellectual and emotional connection to each other.  Sessions just aren't real enough for me.  I want to serve a truly dominant woman, and not just a character play acting. I want the feeling of control for more than just a specified period of time.  And, most of all, I want to know that my service is pleasing her in both sexual and non sexual ways. This isn't about fulfilling a laundry list of my own kinky fetishes in a session, it's about seeing that the Domme's needs come first and foremost and deriving pleasure from serving her needs.

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RE: Do you like Femdom 24-7 or only as a session? - 1/12/2010 2:24:31 AM   
Whipstress


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Status: offline 		Dominant is who I am....play is about my sexual fantasies. 24/7 is a given since my partner would naturally be submissive and have my common sexual interests.

After years of unsuccessful relationships and two marriages, I finally found out why they didn't work. I was told by a vanilla guy I thought I knew, that I was a natural Domme. I even went to therapy and was told by a psychologist that I was the arch-type Dominatrix!! When your shrink says it without any idea that you are just finding out about the big kinky world out here, then I figured it was inevitable. So yes, I'm 24/7 with a sub for 10 years. It was love for me early on but love in the traditional manner isn't helpful in our success. Devotion of Mistress and submissive is a stronger commitment for us, and satisfies many of our needs. We also have an open relationship socially. I do not participate in public life anymore, but enjoy private get togethers with my lifestyle friends..my sub being an exhibitionist loves public play. It works for us. I also am always open for another sub. I have a female that is a serving sub, and great friend, as well. Kind of a Lady in Waiting :)

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