Whats love got to do with it

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Knighthunter862 -> Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 6:53:55 AM)
would you take a collar from someone that you was not in love with?

AquaticSub -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 6:55:36 AM)
No. But others would, have and will in the future.

ForeverOwned -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 6:56:28 AM)
No, to me that would be like marrying someone that i did not love. i couldn;t do it. my collar means everything to me and one of the reasons is because it was given to me by the man who loves me.

KatyLied -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 7:00:17 AM)
It would depend on the parameters of our relationship and what the collar represents.

BitaTruble -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 7:04:56 AM)
I have done so twice in the past. I would not do it in the future now that I've had a taste of how awesome combining my humanity and beast can be. It feels like too much of a backward step and I'd rather do without than have one without the other these days.

breatheasone -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 7:44:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 would you take a collar from someone that you was not in love with? Maybe. Love isn't the be all, and end all, when you are a slave, i am beginning to see that.

kiwisub12 -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 7:50:22 AM)
I didn't love my Sir when I moved in with him - BUT he was someone that i could see living with. He also pushed all the right buttons!!!![:D] And I did fall in love. I could see taking someones collar for play purposes - as in we were a couple for play only, and left the emotional stuff out. I have to have some sort of connection first though, enough for me to trust them. But i couldn't live with him.

littlewonder -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 8:11:53 AM)
absolutely and with a resounding no. If it's not a committed loving relationship I have zero desire.

choccywoc -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 8:13:50 AM)
I'd like to think i would'nt but that thing between my legs makes all the decisions in such matters.

sexyred1 -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 8:16:30 AM)
No, I would not "take a collar"officially. That would have to be a love thing. However I would wear one as an accessory if I was just playing with someone. But it would have no meaning beyond the scene.

osf -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 8:26:13 AM)
i'd like to know what a collar has to do with it?

sirsholly -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 8:39:56 AM)
take yer meds, Osf. To me a collar is the same as a wedding ring. I would neither marry nor accept a collar with love.

mc1234 -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 8:52:11 AM)
I have in the past, but wouldn't now.

osf -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 8:53:28 AM)
is a collar more of a symbol than her remaining by his side? most seem to get caught up more in symbols, rituals, than the actual relationship

alittleevil -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 8:56:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 would you take a collar from someone that you was not in love with? Yes. But i have to qualify that by adding that for me, the process of enslavement results in feelings on my part that are very close to "in love". It is not romantic/life partner love exactly, closer to a state of abject adoration. So while i was not yet at that state when Master initially placed a collar around my neck, i did expect that it would occur as one result of his enslavement of me. Peace, aj

littlewonder -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 8:58:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf is a collar more of a symbol than her remaining by his side? most seem to get caught up more in symbols, rituals, than the actual relationship Yes the collar is just a symbol. Personally for me the collar isn't that big a deal...but I would not be with someone whether he collared me or not if there was not a long term lasting committed loving relationship involved.

DarkSteven -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 8:59:27 AM)
Just to clarify, the above question and answers seem to not consider a collar of protection, a collar just used for play/roleplay, etc.

alittleevil -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 9:20:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Just to clarify, the above question and answers seem to not consider a collar of protection, a collar just used for play/roleplay, etc. Hello, Yes, that's a good point. I guess when i hear "take a collar" i translate that as "enter into a D/s or M/s relationship" and don't focus on the actual thing around one's neck. I am certainly "collared" as in owned...i don't often wear an actual collar these days. Me personally, i would not enter a D/s relationship that was less than absolute, and for that, an initial feeling of "in love" on my part is not necessary. I could, however, wear a collar as a prop if i were engaging in SM with someone else (if such a thing were to be permitted) and it was part of the play and it be no more than just that--a prop. Best, aj

lucylucy -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 9:24:44 AM)
Yes, in some circumstances. I'm not a big believer in that glorious Hallmark-card concept of love--the love that conquers all, the love that makes you hear angels sing, the love that makes otherwise smart people accept intolerable behavior like abuse, cheating, etc. I don't mean to sound cynical. I am in love right now and have been in love before.I have felt the Hallmark-card version of love, but it's not the single most important factor for me in a committed relationship. Having initiated a divorce from a man I was in love with for 20 years and knowing without a shadow of a doubt that I was doing the right thing confirms for me that love is not always enough and sometimes isn't even necessary to make a healthy relationship. My boyfriend and I don't do the collaring thing, but I can tell you that I had committed completely to him well before I was in love with him. We share a deep love, but to me, the respect and commitment between us is more important than the love.

LillyoftheVally -> RE: Whats love got to do with it (1/10/2010 9:38:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 would you take a collar from someone that you was not in love with? Depends on what the collar means, some people only 'play' when the s type is in a collar, I have taken a collar from people in that context. The whole ownership thing though probably not

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