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ORIGINAL: bear62

Im a newly aquired slave-is it normal to only see your Madam 2-3 hours a week in servitude? I guess Im used to vanilla where you see you partner everyday.

bear (bear62),

First ... Let me say, A great deal of us here are wicked fun to share and with. My worth of advice is this ... Take the time to read as many threads and posts as you can stand. Know that you can use the search box to scour the boards for just about any topic you can think of. If you cannot seem to find the subject, topic you are interested in, then create your own thread, ask whatever you can think of, then read all the posts that come in, weigh out all the advice ... suggestions ... critiques (good and bad), then make up your own mind and proceed from there. There is no wrong question or position ... only the ones you do not ask or explore. Make friends, contacts and even conquests - if that is something you are looking to do. I hope you have the best of times here and wish you very fruitful and joyous hunting in all your quests.

Second ... No matter how much you want your life with Her to be 24/7, as it is often termed, other parts of life can and often DO interfere. Are you your Mistress' only slave? Do you serve only online? Do you live together? Do either of you have professional jobs, demanding professions? Are children a factor, for either of you? Are you exclusive to one another, by that I mean do either of you have spouses, in conjunction with or independently of, the D/s relationship with each other? I pose all these questions to hopefully show you know that other things do interfere and impact your lives separately and together. Life can and often IS a bitch.

Personally, I do have more then one slave. I interact with each of them different amounts of time and nowhere near the amount of time that I wish I could. Sometimes I am lucky and I get to spend time with both of them together, but that is not always doable. Most days I wish there were no less than 30 hours in a day. That way I could spend as much time with each of them as I want to. However, some days I only get to spend an hour with them together, or separately ... thought I hate it, sometimes I don't get to spend time with or play with them but every other or every third day. I do not like those times at all, but sometimes we just have to make the best of what we do get to have. I will say that one definite 'perk' of working for myself is that I sometimes have the legitimate need and ability to call either of them my 'assistant' and have them help me out from time to time. So when there are those times when I have to go out of town and need an assistant, I like to take one of them with me (alternating which one gets to go) when schedules allow. Sadly, too few have that same option or ability .... But, as the saying goes, if wishes were fishes, the seas would be overflowing!

Last ... Forgive me please, I answered your post without reading your profile. I do not know if whatever your profile contains might have changed what I wrote ...

What I have said and asked may not be of that much or any help to you if that is the case, I apologize and regret failing to help. However, if I have managed to be of any help to you, I am pleased. Either way ...


Best and warmest regards,


Lady Challene

<----- Edited because I am human. Oh and forgot to write it in COLOR! :: smiles and sighs ::

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ORIGINAL: bear62

Thankyou D S I was kinda figuring it was that way,I do love the lifestyle but want more...heehee

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ORIGINAL: bear62

I forgot to mention,Madam wants a poly household,she says Im her alpha pet,but,I have never done poly and am having trouble with the idea,I do want to please my Madam tho,Its tough,will i make it,any advice on how to handle a poly life?, I dont want to loose her.

Communication, communication, communication. Read everything you can. Do a massive amount of research. Discuss everything, all questions and concerns you have with Her. The primary person you need to be talking to about Her desires, wishes, directions, orders and restrictions is HER! Don't just talk, LISTEN as well ... that is where almost every communication issue begins and ends. Too many people forget that LISTENING is a big part of communicating.

Best wishes from the and good night.


Lady Challene