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newbie event attire - 1/12/2010 5:56:28 PM   
curls84


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i am posting this question in ask a Mistress because that is my target audience, but anyone who reads is welcome to answer. i want to attend an event called Winter Fire in D.C. in feb. if i get my shit together in time. It is a more upscale and i guess formal event then the local dungeon party (darkodyssey.com for info on it) and i'm not sure what to wear. i dont really wanna go naked. i don't own any fetish wear and don't really plan on purchasing some that soon. Would a button down black shirt, pants, and shoes be fine for such an event? i would assume so but i don't want to show up dressed like that and its not ok. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
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RE: newbie event attire - 1/12/2010 6:22:30 PM   
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I went a couple years ago and the dress varied from t-shirts and jeans to a tux and ball gown. There was a dress up dinner, but several men were dressed like you described. The only time I was naked was in the dungeon. I even saw a nun there. It was an awesome event and the classes were great. Hope you have a good time.

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RE: newbie event attire - 1/12/2010 6:56:20 PM   
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Thanks, that helps alot. If t-shirt and jeans is acceptable id rather that. Appreciate it thishereboi.

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RE: newbie event attire - 1/14/2010 5:21:46 AM   
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You cant go wrong with simple classic pieces..I would take jeans, black pants, good shoes, casual boots, and teeshirts.. that way you can mix and match as you feel comfortable and in tune with the group... if you have or can find it ( thrifty store )... a simple black leather or fabric vest.. dresses up for more formal occassions and down for more casual depending on what you wear it with.. Good Luck have fun.

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RE: newbie event attire - 1/14/2010 12:23:46 PM   
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curls84 and Sylverdawn,

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curls84:
Would a button down black shirt, pants, and shoes be fine for such an event?

Sylverdawn:
You can't go wrong with simple classic pieces.  I would take jeans, black pants, good shoes, casual boots, and teeshirts.  that way you can mix and match as you feel comfortable and in tune with the group.  if you have or can find it (thrifty store), a simple, black, leather or fabric vest.  dress up for more formal occasions and down for more casual depending on what you wear it with.


In my opinion, you're both spot on.  You can't go wrong with classics and black always works at BDSM events (formal or informal).  If you're doing a jeans thing, go with black T-shirt, black jeans, and black shoes.  As appropriate and as you feel comfortable, add kinky accoutrements, such as arm cuffs, a collar, etc.  You don't need the kinky accoutrements though.  For more formal events, the same black theme works, but switch in dress pants, dress shirt, dress shoes, and perhaps a vest per Sylverdawn's suggestion.  Once again, if you want to hint at kink, you can add something kinky, but keep the classy theme - perhaps a subtle, dress-up collar or something even more subtle, like a pocket watch with a loop of the chain showing.

There are events that absolutely require fetish attire (rubber, leather gear, etc.), but most events I've been to allow anything classic that isn't just plain street wear.  Classic doesn't necessarily mean formal wear.  Rather, just look as though you put some modicum of effort into dressing for the occasion and you're good to go.  If in doubt, always check with the event organizer.

Hope you have fun curls84, :-)

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RE: newbie event attire - 1/14/2010 1:56:25 PM   
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Never underestimate the impact of a black tuxedo jacket as a key ingredient to guy fetishwear.  I got mine at a bridal rental place that was closing down, but I have seen them at thrift stores as well.  

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RE: newbie event attire - 1/16/2010 7:37:22 PM   
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Hi.

I'd figure a white dress shirt and black slacks would be great, maybe throw on a collar too and you can always take off the collar if it's not suitable. Or put on the collar after it looks suitable to wear one.

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