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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Now what if the situation was reversed? What if a sub and a Dom/Domme were in a serious monogamous relationship, the sub was the gift giver, and the Dom/Domme first cheated, then dumped the sub after cheating, and was using the computer to look for replacements? Would the sub have the right to tell the Dom/Domme to get their own computer? Would that make a difference or is cheating equally bad in a monogamous relationship no matter if it's the Dom/Domme or sub that cheats?

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Now what if the situation was reversed? What if a sub and a Dom/Domme were in a serious monogamous relationship, the sub was the gift giver, and the Dom/Domme first cheated, then dumped the sub after cheating, and was using the computer to look for replacements? Would the sub have the right to tell the Dom/Domme to get their own computer? Would that make a difference or is cheating equally bad in a monogamous relationship no matter if it's the Dom/Domme or sub that cheats?

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Jeff, I want my heart back.  Give it to me you fricking thief!  And my hopes and aspirations while you're at it.

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

I'm just trying to get answers from different angles. Does it matter if it's a Dom, Domme, sub, two switches, or even vanilla if cheating is involved?

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

No, it doesn't matter. I had assumed from your very first post that the situation was actually reversed, and I'm nosy.

Legally, it doesn't matter. A gift belongs to the giftee. If the gift is compromised by someone, (like by accidentally dropping it out the window while cleaning, perhaps) that someone is legally obligated to replace it with one of equal value, or pay the cost of replacing it with one of equal value.

Morally? That's a load of crap, and I would be beyond pissed. Like I said, I think I'd take my chances with the law. The worst thing he/she could do is sue you.

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As a general rule, gifts are supposed to come with no strings attached. Are there exceptions to this rule?

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

No, it doesn't matter. I had assumed from your very first post that the situation was actually reversed, and I'm nosy.

Legally, it doesn't matter. A gift belongs to the giftee. If the gift is compromised by someone, (like by accidentally dropping it out the window while cleaning, perhaps) that someone is legally obligated to replace it with one of equal value, or pay the cost of replacing it with one of equal value.

Morally? That's a load of crap, and I would be beyond pissed. Like I said, I think I'd take my chances with the law. The worst thing he/she could do is sue you.

Except..........we are talking possible power exchange relationships. What you have in YOUR relationship is what you have agreed upon. Screw the law because the happy happy joy joy shit you were having fun with wasn't 'fair' either. Just because it's not fun and happy happy joy joy shit, doesn't mean it has to become all fair and vanilla. Sorry.

Sooooooooooo, here's the deal peoples. If you want a power exchange dynamic and are worried about losing shit when the deal goes south, don't give the s a damned thing! Cuz, all of the sudden that sweet little submissive/slave that agreed to a total power exchange, is going to turn into a greedy vanilla bitch/bastard.

In my world, it is all mine unless the relationship ends and then she gets what I decide to give her. Because THAT is the relationship we both agreed upon in the beginning. If she doesn't like it, she shouldn't have hopped into being my slave.

Again..........it all depends upon the type of relationship. If you want everything all fair at the end, don't get into a power exchange relationship.

Example: When things are wonderful she says "I am wearing HIS collar". She isn't saying, "my boyfriend gave me a pretty necklace!" She is saying HIS collar. It is his. She is his. That means for SOME, everything that was hers, is now HIS.

Something to consider BEFORE accepting HIS collar.