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Tasks for online sub? - 1/14/2010 4:05:33 AM

MrBlue00

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I am new to this lifestyle and therefore do not have a lot of experience. I am currently talking with a female who is interested in being my submissive. For now, we plan on keeping the relationship online and we will see where it goes from there. I have several ideas for tasks to assign her but I would like to hear ideas from more experienced Dom/Dommes. I am also interested in hearing punishment ideas for when she does not complete the tasks properly or needs to be kept in line. Your help is greatly appreciated.

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RE: Tasks for online sub? - 1/14/2010 4:11:44 AM

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Cart before the horse, man. Lets say you give her an assignment of writing as a punishment. If in fact she can turn out an essay in a half hour, this is nothing to her. Beyond that if you are assuming she won't do it, then you are with the wrong person. You need to focus on getting to know her, having her trust you enough to talk to you about everything. Then you can decide what she needs to work on.

It isn't one size fits all. If she's very shy, you could assign her a task of talking to one new person a day. As for punishment, some people respond well to that and others do not. If she doesn't, then the first off hand punishment could be the last time you talk to her.

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RE: Tasks for online sub? - 1/14/2010 4:34:19 AM

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I agree, and taking it slower will make your life online more meaningful. Got to know more about her before even thinking about punishment. Besides, there is a thing called NRE that you both are going to be experiencing for a while that should negate the need for any punishment. New Relationship Energy (NRE) is where all things are new and exciting and you can just enjoy and get to know each other better. Take your time! Start feeling things out and use your ideas you have for a while. See how that works. Good luck!

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RE: Tasks for online sub? - 1/14/2010 7:59:31 AM

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First ... . I hope you stay a good long time and find all the answers and then some that you are looking for and need.

Second ... Get to know her. Don't push the relationship. I find it better to leave sex out of everything in the beginning. I try to get a handle on their mind, way of thinking. I find that way I can understand them better and when necessary to reprimand or punish them, for whatever reason, I understand better what they don't like or can't stand and tailor the the needed correction along those lines. Communication is the best tool for exploring, expanding and molding anyone. And odd though this may sound, play online games. Mundane games. Pool, Checkers, Chess, Dominoes, Backgammon or cards. Playing those types of games can tell you a lot about a person ... how they handle stress, teasing, how they think and what they are like when the win and lose.

As with everything I say/offer, this is only my opinion and what I generally do in that type of situation.

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RE: Tasks for online sub? - 1/14/2010 5:39:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrBlue00

I am new to this lifestyle and therefore do not have a lot of experience. I am currently talking with a female who is interested in being my submissive. For now, we plan on keeping the relationship online and we will see where it goes from there. I have several ideas for tasks to assign her but I would like to hear ideas from more experienced Dom/Dommes. I am also interested in hearing punishment ideas for when she does not complete the tasks properly or needs to be kept in line. Your help is greatly appreciated.

Welcome to the boards.

Hmmm...... It seems to me, that right out of the gate, you have little confidence in your female submissive. Perhaps exchanging some more e-mails, and know her better....You shouldn't have to expect failure, or to have to keep her in line, she's an adult....So are you. You expressing yourself, and she doing the same should yield much...So therefore, you won't have to expect failure.

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RE: Tasks for online sub? - 1/14/2010 5:45:23 PM

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...i agree with everyone here, how can One give a task or one to take the task when Y/you both dont truly know each O/other..lots of time for that later it will make it more meaningful...good luck..kate

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RE: Tasks for online sub? - 1/15/2010 7:41:09 AM

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first bit of advice......... do not seek advice on this forum

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RE: Tasks for online sub? - 1/15/2010 7:42:40 AM

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This is going to sound incredibly stupid, but why not assign tasks that represent things you want to do? Researching things that you want to know about, etc.

It ain't ALL about kink.

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RE: Tasks for online sub? - 1/15/2010 7:34:57 PM

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I am new to this lifestyle and therefore do not have a lot of experience.

If you're beginning your dom existence by "domming online", you will not get experience either, for that you need to be with a real person, rather than a keyboard.

Judging by your online desire, combined with your having to come here to get ideas, it is most likely you're an online manipulator rather than a dom. Having ideas does not require experience, and there are hundreds of threads all over the forums with a variety of activities.

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RE: Tasks for online sub? - 1/16/2010 10:12:40 AM

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Man I must say I agree with most of the Doms/Masters whom have answered this thread till now especially....antipode, DarkSteven especially, and Masterlink65. Maybe you should start off by attending some local munches, and get to know more about what this life is about....sure, sure everyone is looking for the closet whore who prefers anal, and swallows cum by the gallon but face it, that's a fairytale. Being Dominant is more about gaining her trust to the point she surrenders to your will, not forcing her down on her knees and gagging her with cock (though this can be done after the trust is established :)) And all the while in the process coming to see in YOURSELF the things you need to work on. I know I knwo big bad Dom has nothing needs improving he is God in flesh (ya right) but being in TPE relationships myself has shown me faults of my own needing improvement like inconsistency, lack of emotions, lack of compassion.......I could go on but I digest, make her a better slave by making yourself a better Master, anyone can wield a whip but when she cries real tears can you wield a hankie?

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RE: Tasks for online sub? - 1/16/2010 4:01:00 PM

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Make her come to cm and do a search on "tasks for online subs" and "punishments"

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