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whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective sub... - 1/14/2010 7:04:13 AM

osf

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the subject explains it

for me it's demeanor, displaying a pattern of behavior that leads me to believe i can work with her

say online does she list a catalog of activities she enjoys or does she speak about the relationship she desires and why

the why is most important to me

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 7:30:20 AM

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what's the first thing you notice in a prospective sub...

I definitely need a

to answer this ... For Me it starts with their mind. I want to know if it is nimble, flexible, and able to expand. I do not want someone that only parrots what they think I want to hear. I also look for a clear indication of their communication skills and their willingness or unwillingness to use them on an on-going basis. Everything after that is icing on the

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 7:34:19 AM

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i like to say own the body, own the mind, make good use of both

and hello

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 7:35:42 AM

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The first thing I notice is their method of communication. If they are capable of actually engaging in conversation rather than just giving quick, short replies without any follow up questions/comments of their own. Those who aren't capable of conversation are ignored, I find them boring as hell.

After that, I notice their manners (or lack thereof), their sense of self worth, and their desire to fit into My life. Other nuances are discovered in their words as well, but those are the things I look for in the beginning.

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 7:45:56 AM

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Whether they are more focused on finding someone to cater to their kink or finding someone to serve.

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 7:47:16 AM

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Oh yeah! That too!

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 7:59:27 AM

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Gender

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 8:08:17 AM

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Gender

I love your literal-ness.

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 8:09:04 AM

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Whether they are more focused on finding someone to cater to their kink or finding someone to serve.

hear hear

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 8:17:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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Gender

I love your literal-ness.

I was considering the OP source. When we get clarification, par has been 3-4 pages, I may add more - but I didn't want to hijack the thread and take it in a direction not intended by the OP.

BTW - Gender is a factual response. It shouldn't imply exclusion, or inclusion. It serves only as the "first thing" in a long line of "things".

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 8:22:54 AM

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ok for clarification

you are already looking at only the sex and orientation you want and your say reading profiles what things slap you in the face and wake your interest?

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 8:33:13 AM

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quote:

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ok for clarification

you are already looking at only the sex and orientation you want and your say reading profiles what things slap you in the face and wake your interest?

Location -

Reason? My goal is, and always was, meeting RT. Nigerian submissives, as enticing as they are, kill you in shipping costs.

I take nothing literally, or as fact, represented on a profile - including gender. When looking for a partner, I set a two week time limit for meeting in RT. I preemptively disclosed everything about myself including job and home phone numbers. Here I am - here's who I am - I saw your profile - how about some coffee?

That practice served my goal to eliminate the time wasting one handed web surfers as soon as possible. It worked extremely well. I met and enjoyed the company of many people and had a fantastic time doing so. Ultimately it resulted in meeting beth and ending my search.

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 8:40:29 AM

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quote:

I take nothing literally, or as fact, represented on a profile - including gender. When looking for a partner, I set a two week time limit for meeting in RT. I preemptively disclosed everything about myself including job and home phone numbers. Here I am - here's who I am - I saw your profile - how about some coffee?

i dont take thing literally either, so i try to read between the lines and if she is trying to convey a meaning i try to discern what that meaning is, like i said i'm looking for the why

as for distance while it is a factor, i dont let that be a limiting factor just one to be weighed in among many other factors.

it all boils down for me in looking for a woman that wants to be rather than a woman that wants to do

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 9:09:27 AM

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it all boils down for me in looking for a woman that wants to be rather than a woman that wants to do

You're setting yourself up or failure. Although there are plenty of 'wants to be' (wannabes), and dos, to choose from; the reason I wanted to meet was to see the woman who is aware of herself and represents in person exactly who she is.

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i try to read between the lines and if she is trying to convey a meaning

I tried to avoid this at all cost. I didn't want to have my interpretation of what she wrote set me up for unrealistic expectations.

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 9:21:21 AM

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quote:

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it all boils down for me in looking for a woman that wants to be rather than a woman that wants to do
You're setting yourself up or failure. Although there are plenty of 'wants to be' (wannabes), and dos, to choose from; the reason I wanted to meet was to see the woman who is aware of herself and represents in person exactly who she is.

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i try to read between the lines and if she is trying to convey a meaning
I tried to avoid this at all cost. I didn't want to have my interpretation of what she wrote set me up for unrealistic expectations.

when i say wants to be, i mean she is what she says she is, if she says she's a slave then i want her to feel this not wish it because it sounds glamorous

i often talk to women that say i interest them and that they are a slave but when i explain what i want in a slave, they often decide they're not a slave after all lololol

and if what i think i read is there, i'll ask if i'm right but you can most often tell by reading if there's nothing there for you

my opinion only

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 10:13:24 AM

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LadyChallene, that is a WAY COOL picture attachment!!!

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 10:17:13 AM

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LadyChallene, that is a WAY COOL picture attachment!!!

and she has a sweet but wasted ass too lololol

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 11:39:37 AM

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i often talk to women that say i interest them and that they are a slave but when i explain what i want in a slave, they often decide they're not a slave after all lololol

I'm thinking they decide they're not the right slave for you .. not that they're not a slave at all.

And this is why some people go on and on about compatibility and communication and the importance of knowing the person before committing to him/her. Go figure.

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 11:49:15 AM

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Thank you so very much, Sweetsub1957. For the life of me I cannot remember when or where I got it from, but I do love it. It is just my personality ... I have another I like just as much ... I'll embed it in this post. I hope you will like it too!

And OSF ... :: grins wickedly :: Leave my out of this. :: winks::

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RE: whats's the first thing you notice in a prospective... - 1/14/2010 12:27:29 PM

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'm thinking they decide they're not the right slave for you .. not that they're not a slave at all.

that too lol

the affect is the same

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