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ORIGINAL: TampaDomCouple

Honor binds each of us, regardless of our station. It is not just about what you say or don't, but what you allow your partner/s to believe about your keeping of the sanctity of the relationship. If that cute little girl you are chatting online with thinks you are a candidate for them, while your relationship partner believes you are only theirs, I think you are cheating on both of them. You are being dishonest and deceitful. There aren't any gray areas in honesty or honor.

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How do you define cheating?

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ORIGINAL: proudsub
So is it cheating to have coffee with a friend without telling your spouse, even if there is no sexual contact? What about chatting online if there is no cybering? Maybe these things are "wrong" but personally I don't see them as "cheating". My definition would include sexual contact. JMHO

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ORIGINAL: MysticalPhoenix

It's cheating when...

...there is an expectation of a monogamous pairing, and one of the partners seeks a third party and engages in extracurricular activities without the knowledge and/or consent of the other partner.
...there is an expecation of a polyfidelitous grouping, and one of the members of that group seeks out another partner and engages in activities without the knowledge and/or consent of the other people in the group

It's cheating any time there is an expectation of fidelity in a relationship (whether monogamy or polyamory-fidelity is still fidelity) and one of the people involved in that relationship seeks out other partners without telling the person/people they are involved with.  Or, even worse, lies to them about it.

Anyone can cheat-including a Dominant partner in a relationship where their Sub has an expoectation of fidelity.  It's actually possible for a Dominant to cheat in an open poly relationship-if part of the agreement is that all other partners are to be disclosed.   Always be sure to negotiate that carefully before commitment. 

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ORIGINAL: MysticalPhoenix
It's cheating any time there is an expectation of fidelity in a relationship (whether monogamy or polyamory-fidelity is still fidelity) and one of the people involved in that relationship seeks out other partners without telling the person/people they are involved with.  Or, even worse, lies to them about it.

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

I'm not saying that it was, angelic. Your post just reminded me of the other post. But I can't remember who it was or in which thread it was. It was fairly recent, I know that.

Either way, it goes back to what I said before. Cheating will always be different to different people.

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

There was actually a submissive that posted something to the effect of if the Dominant she was with even looked at another woman, it was cheating. I just shook my head and thought it was sad. To have such a low self esteem threshold is not a pretty sight.

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ORIGINAL: starymists
I tend to think that things like meeting for coffee or chatting online, even when sex isn't involved can border on cheating. If you are taking things like your feelings, hopes, dreams, what have you to another, you cheat your partner out of the ability to share those things with you. If you are too emotionally involved, you cheat your partner of intimacy. You can cheat your partner out of a lot of things if you get too involved with another. Sex is just the tip of the iceburg.
 
My general guideline is if I think there is nothing wrong with what I am doing, then I should have no problem sharing who I am meeting or who I'm chatting about. I really should have no problem sharing the content of those conversations with my partner. But if I find myself twinging at the thought of disclosing what I am doing, then it's time for me to self-examine and figure out why I'm uncomfortable in sharing what I am doing.

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

There was actually a submissive that posted something to the effect of if the Dominant she was with even looked at another woman, it was cheating. I just shook my head and thought it was sad. To have such a low self esteem threshold is not a pretty sight.

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ORIGINAL: catize

LOL, if DG didn't look at other women I think I'd have a whole 'nother set of things to worry about!