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relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 8:07:20 AM

masterlink65

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in a discussion group not to long ago, the subject came up of where/how to look for a slave. master rinella said he only looks for locals, and does not expect someone to relocate. i have a different view of, if a sub says relocatable in the profile, then what would leave thinking that this person should not be able to relocate for the right situation. i find it hard enough to find people with similar interests in my area. local would be best, but not opposed to looking elsewhere for compatibility.

i am curious to other dom/master views on this

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 8:17:22 AM

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first the one doing the relocation should consider how they would survive if things dont work out

can they retrace their footsteps, or can they start a new life for themselves in the new location

if those are answered it also takes some of the stress out of beginning a new relationship

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 8:33:28 AM

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i am not talking about relocating this minute. i am talking about taking the time to find compatibility.. i dont expect someone to relocate with one email

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 8:41:08 AM

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Excellent question! I have done this with success on a minor level, Boston to Hartford, but the issue really is compatibility and long term sustainability. Sometimes you just don't know until you actually try something on, so perhaps a trial period for a month before an actual commitment to relocate is made. Naturally though, employment can be an issue so unless the person doesn't work or has serious vacation time, even this might not be doable.

To answer your question though, looking for relocatable slaves is probably the only way to increase your level of success. I agree completely that it is often hard to find people who are compatible when you narrow your search to just your area.

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 10:34:51 AM

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Relocation is perfectly viable. I have a sub friend who moved from Texas to England to be with her Master, also I had a slave move 300 miles to be with me. Establish the relationship first, visit each other a few times and then you will know if you want to put forth the effort of moving.

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 12:10:04 PM

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i relocated from TX to NYC for my ex-Master. It can work (we split up for reasons unrelated to the relocation).

Communication is very important, being able to talk about money, households, etc. - even if the slave is going to be completely dependent upon the Master these things have to be discussed as relocation does cost money (and time). Also, as osf said, discussion of what will happen to the slave if things don't work out - and then setting up funds, or whatever the two agree too so that the slave feels safe and that they're not going to just be dumped on the street.

i think that there are so many different combinations of M/s or Owner/property that finding someone who is a good "fit" for you in your own local area is often just not possible.

ETA: i hope you don't mind that i'm not a Dom/Master. Just a slave's perspective......

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 3:19:18 PM

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We are reluctant to have another LDR. However, given that Our slaves aren't love interests, this at least makes the possibility of one easier. Also, since We aren't looking for "The One" but are looking for "The Several", this, too, makes it easier. Still, in the end, We'd be hesitant. We would really have to feel spiritually led to do it.

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 4:58:17 PM

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When I first became single I could not relocate. My child was still young and I knew I could not move anytime soon and I didn't expect someone else to move to me so I only looked for men who were local.

The past couple years though I knew my child was older and would be on her own soon so I put "relocateable" in my profile. I had and have no desire to live where I am. I'm simply here to finish up the loose ends now.

I'd say simply talk and get to know someone but if their profile says they will and cannot relocate then don't bother with them unless you are willing to be the one to move.

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 5:06:13 PM

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I don't really have an answer to this question, since I have never had that experience before. But I do like the idea...

Up until now I've only been looking for a local sub. But I agree that that significantly limits my potential "pool of applicants", as it were, even in such a populated area as San Diego county.

Thanks for the idea! I'll try broadening my horizons.

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 5:06:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: masterlink65

in a discussion group not to long ago, the subject came up of where/how to look for a slave. master rinella said he only looks for locals, and does not expect someone to relocate. i have a different view of, if a sub says relocatable in the profile, then what would leave thinking that this person should not be able to relocate for the right situation. i find it hard enough to find people with similar interests in my area. local would be best, but not opposed to looking elsewhere for compatibility.

i am curious to other dom/master views on this

i think this is a no brainer, if someone has "relocatable" on their profile, then yes Sir, i believe you are correct in assuming their are willing to relocate for the right person for them. Some folks would rather only meet locals, thats fine too.
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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/15/2010 6:15:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

first the one doing the relocation should consider how they would survive if things dont work out

can they retrace their footsteps, or can they start a new life for themselves in the new location

if those are answered it also takes some of the stress out of beginning a new relationship

Masterlink65

I find the questions osf raises as VERY viable no matter how long you know a person from 1000mi to even 30 miles.

I was very ready to move to the Dallas area after 6 months of knowing and visiting 5 times in that time...it would have left me personally devasted (in all manners) and unable emotionally to even get up in the mornings by the 9th month of knowing him, if I actually had moved.

I have known Sir for nearly 3 years now and am in no hurry to move anywhere at this point and I am 30 min from him.

When life gives one a lesson or 2, listen and learn by them.

Edited to say:
neitherar the Dallas man nor does Sir linger on forums so I have no problems responding on here.

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/16/2010 12:05:40 PM

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i had interviewed bruno slave for over a year before making a commitment. during this time, there was alot of communication. bruno made regular visits. we met at functions in different places, phone conversation etc. no different really than if it would have been with a local person. it took time to establish the relationship, not the roles.

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/17/2010 9:21:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: masterlink65

i had interviewed bruno slave for over a year before making a commitment. during this time, there was alot of communication. bruno made regular visits. we met at functions in different places, phone conversation etc. no different really than if it would have been with a local person. it took time to establish the relationship, not the roles.

It is ALWAYS about the relationship: compatability, communication, trust, respect, expectations, goal and values.

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/17/2010 10:41:38 AM

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My Kyra moved about 3000 miles from one country to another and the time we met online... she wasn't thinking about relocating or even getting into relationship. The smaller area you are in.. the few fish in the pond. Sometimes one needs to expand the area to find what they are looking for or wait a very very long time. Ironcially, Kyra came from south florida.. not really a small pond... but location in the end was secondary to her compared to finding the partner she wanted.

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/19/2010 7:25:27 AM

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i agree, if it is a need one has, distance can be an issue, but not a total concern. the right situation can overcome many obstacles.

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RE: relocating sub/slave - 1/19/2010 3:27:21 PM

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The Man moved up here, he got a transfer through the company he was working for at the time. However this was after two years of knowing each other.

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