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Want to make sure I'm going about this the right way - 1/16/2010 2:19:00 AM

wrongplanetjon

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Hi, I just joined this site and have a tendency to overexplain myself so as to avoid misunderstandings later on...I was hoping to get some opinions on my writeup for my profile, and if there is a more appropriate way to find what I seek, if others find it offensive?

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"I am a 38 year old man with Asperger Syndrome looking for a slave. I have no experience in this realm, but because I do not have the social skills to "jump through the hoops" or whatnot to enjoy sexual experiences, I am instead seeking local women willing to be slaves to help me out, on a temporary, mutual enjoyment, non degrading or exploitive basis. If I am going about this the wrong way, I'm unsure what IS the right way, and would be willing to listen to respectful guidance for what I generally seek, which is an outlet for my sexuality which has been blocked for many years due to my social incompetance. I am respectful of others, though I tend to be self centered...not in an egotistical way, but in an Asperger Syndrome/Autism way. I hope to meet local women who would be intrigued about being a slave to a man with AS. "

More personal info to add for this thread: I am broke and unemployed (despite looking for low end jobs) and I have never been in a relationship ever. Telling me to "just get a girlfriend" is like telling a crippled man to "just walk".

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RE: Want to make sure I'm going about this the right way - 1/16/2010 3:24:05 AM

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RE: Want to make sure I'm going about this the right way - 1/16/2010 7:40:50 AM

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Welcome to the forums Jon

Rather than looking for a slave immediately could you first find some friends involved in bdsm to talk with? In the same way as someone telling you to just get a girlfriend is unrealistic just going and getting a slave may be as well until you have learnt a little more about exactly what it is that you are wanting from bdsm

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RE: Want to make sure I'm going about this the right way - 1/16/2010 7:42:10 AM

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Welcome and good luck Jon

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RE: Want to make sure I'm going about this the right way - 1/16/2010 7:59:32 AM

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Thanks. I would like to talk to people in the lifestyle in person, so I am looking into checking out local munches. I got the impression earlier that some in the lifestyle get offended by newcomers going about it the wrong way and I wanted to avoid that...but on the other hand I was curious about the aspect of having a slave, and on this site there are several women local to me who are looking to become slaves, apparently.

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RE: Want to make sure I'm going about this the right way - 1/16/2010 8:21:12 AM

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munches can be a good way to start out for some people. See if you can email the organisers beforehand to let them know you are new to the scene and if you feel comfortable, let them know you sometimes have some problems interacting with others and they can help you out on the day.

I think it is great that you are asking for advice, we see a lot of people come barging in and getting a lot of people off-side from the start so it is always lovely to see someone who does things differently.

Feel free to ask questions on here as well or if you want to talk about non-bdsm things the forums at the lower end of the list - Casual Banter and Polls and Random Stupidity are where to hang out

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RE: Want to make sure I'm going about this the right way - 1/16/2010 8:31:11 AM

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RE: Want to make sure I'm going about this the right way - 1/16/2010 10:45:00 PM

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Ok, I edited my profile in hopes of making it more suitable.

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RE: Want to make sure I'm going about this the right way - 1/22/2010 4:53:22 AM

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