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new dom... - 1/17/2010 8:34:13 AM   
belladonna666


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good morning...i'm a little new to the dominant experience but i am very interested...i'm actually beginning to professionally work as a dom this week...does anyone have any advice on how i should act or any suggestions?
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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 8:38:03 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: belladonna666

good morning...i'm a little new to the dominant experience but i am very interested...i'm actually beginning to professionally work as a dom this week...does anyone have any advice on how i should act or any suggestions?


What? You are new to doing it professionally or new full stop? If it is new full stop my suggestion is don't do it professionally until you know what you are doing

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 8:39:38 AM   
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no, i've definetely engaged in dominant acts a lot...just new to doing it professionally

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 8:40:31 AM   
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Geeze, you have to be kidding me. You would think one would get a bit of experience first before dipping into the pockets of submissive men, but then again, perhaps they are deserving of getting their pockets fleeced.

Good luck to you.

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 8:42:22 AM   
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quote:

i'm a little new to the dominant experience but i am very interested


Experience? Really, this line in your OP doesn't suggest that!

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 8:45:05 AM   
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fuck off aramis...you are hideous

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 8:46:36 AM   
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LOL! That's the best you can do. While you may intimidate weaker men, your crap doesn't work on me.

Oh my, I pity the men that use you!

Aramis

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 8:50:43 AM   
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Im thinking that someone was looking for something to do before school tomorrow, so probably best that none of us get our knickers too tightly twisted over this one

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 8:55:41 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: belladonna666

fuck off aramis...you are hideous


All right, I suggest that you not consider humiliation play to be in your repertoire.

OP, for God's sake, there are some things that you cannot inflict damage with, such as feminization.  But be VERY careful what other activities you engage in!  Breath play, whipping, and fire play are obvious things that could cause damage if you're not experienced.  But even bondage can cause permanent damage if you do it wrong.

Do a VERY quick study and determine what's safe right now, and what other activities you need training in.  And get the training.


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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 9:00:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: belladonna666

good morning...i'm a little new to the dominant experience but i am very interested...i'm actually beginning to professionally work as a dom this week...does anyone have any advice on how i should act or any suggestions?
i suggest you stick to things you know, or at least have trained in.

Coming to a public forum for advice days before you are taking on the role as a ProDomme is ridiculous.

What are you going to do when a client requests CBT? Look up the meaning in your trusty Domme handbook? How do you plan to satisfy your client without causing damage that will land him in the ER?


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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 9:25:59 AM   
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a dominant doesn't engage in dominant acts lol

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 9:33:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: belladonna666

good morning...i'm a little new to the dominant experience but i am very interested...i'm actually beginning to professionally work as a dom this week...does anyone have any advice on how i should act or any suggestions?


At the very least a professional Dominant woman should know that you capitalize the D in Domme and it should be Domme not Dom for a woman. As for having "definetely engaged in dominant acts a lot...just new to doing it professionally" - telling someone what to do is much different than truly being a Dominant and being responsible for your sub/slave mentally and physically.

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 9:41:09 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lizi

quote:

ORIGINAL: belladonna666

good morning...i'm a little new to the dominant experience but i am very interested...i'm actually beginning to professionally work as a dom this week...does anyone have any advice on how i should act or any suggestions?


At the very least a professional Dominant woman should know that you capitalize the D in Domme and it should be Domme not Dom for a woman. As for having "definetely engaged in dominant acts a lot...just new to doing it professionally" - telling someone what to do is much different than truly being a Dominant and being responsible for your sub/slave mentally and physically.


Hmm, I don't think you have to capitalize the word dominant, thats an internet thing that means very little, you dont do anything vocally to the term in conversation.

I agree with the latter, the telling someone what to do part, however professional dominance can be just that, and often is led by the submissive anyways. I know sub missives who make very good professional dominants.

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 10:36:39 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: belladonna666

good morning...i'm a little new to the dominant experience but i am very interested...i'm actually beginning to professionally work as a dom this week...does anyone have any advice on how i should act or any suggestions?


take out plenty of insurance for a start off.

you say up there that you have had plenty of experience and yet here and in the title of the thread you say that you are a little new to the dominant experience.

noone can give advice based on that and to be honest the topic is too vast to take a stab at for you. where would anyone start giving advice based on youre question.

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 10:39:56 AM   
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Hey guys!

Someone's paying me a good chunk of money to replace the transmission in their car but I'm kinda new to the 'mechanic experience'. I was wondering if some of you could point me towards places at which to start or offer pointers.

Thanks!

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 11:06:29 AM   
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NZ, I have no clue what a transmission is, but since this is the Internet, I'll be happy to offer you advice.

You remove the whoozis, taking care not to damage the whatzit as you do so.  Carefully adjust the thimgamabob of the new unit, and then insert it into the (wahhdaya call it?  Oh, yeah!  Automobile!)  auto, making sure that the whatchamacallit is kept properly aligned.

That will be $300 for the advice, please.


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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 11:44:11 AM   
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Oh for heaven's sake, is no one going to say anything useful?

Forgive me if you have and I missed it, I got too irritated with the first few posts to go much further.

Belladonna, I too recently launched into the professional side of life after several years of just personal play.

I did it because I wanted to live a passion, like actors who make their living on the stage, or painters who make a living from their art.

First of all, research. There are a lot of ways to advertise and a lot of competition in most markets. Try several forms of advertising and publicity until you find what works best for you.

Also research current rates for various activities in your local market. Just because a Domme in Los Angles or New York may get $300 an hour for something doesn't mean that will work where you are now. You are new to the market with no known reputation so when you find what the going rate is undercut it by a bit. Charge roughly 10-25% less than the competition. You can raise rates later but for now you have to build a customer base.

Know your local laws. Stay on the right side of them as best you can.

See to your personal safety. You won't always have the chance to get to know a professional client as well as you do a personal submissive. Take appropriate precautions. You may find it better to work on an incall basis than an outcall. Follow the same common sense advice for meeting anyone new. Have someone to back you up.

Take the time to go over the client's health history. Ask about current or past conditions, medications, old injuries. This takes on average 5 minutes and may save you problems down the line.

Stick to what you know. These are intelligent and educated men. Many of them will make a regular habit of visiting professionals. They'll know when you fake it, so don't. You have to be honest about yourself, what you know and what you can do. If something is beyond you find someone to teach you or that you can practice with.

Lastly be confident about what you do know. Speak in calm, soothing, but firm tones. Practice what you say and how you say it, just like they tell you to do with public speaking. Practice your movements and facial expressions as well.

Claudia Varrin has two wonderful books on this subject, I suggest you find and read them for further guidance.

Good luck.

Ms. Betty

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 11:50:06 AM   
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OP:
and as he pushed her from the airplane with her parachute on he said...
"I'm kinda new to this..not sure what all them cords is for.."
 
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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 12:45:20 PM   
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Belladonna, I too recently launched into the professional side of life after several years of just personal play.



Crucial element there. See maybe you do not believe the initial posts were useful (mine being the first I guess you are including me) I actually think it was useful, it is all new and exciting in the beginning, pro domming seems like it would be easy, but without any real experience in it, you will be crap and a bad rep for any pro dominant is basically the end of it

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RE: new dom... - 1/17/2010 1:08:14 PM   
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I have a suggestion. Figure out what your doing before you start charging people for it. Maybe there is a local group in your area or some munches, so you can meet people.

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