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How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/18/2010 1:47:31 PM   
chris1991


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Status: offline 		Dear Mistresses,

I have a dilemma.I have recently met this girl who is interested in my.However one of my limits is not to do online slavery but she wants me to take pictures of me doing tasks etc but i wont do it,it just seem right.I have tried asking if we not do this but as the stubborn mistress she is,she isnt letting me off haha.Has anyone got any thoughts on this?I know i should be obedient but online tasks is just not an option for me.
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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/18/2010 2:12:43 PM   
AAkasha


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ORIGINAL: chris1991

Dear Mistresses,

I have a dilemma.I have recently met this girl who is interested in my.However one of my limits is not to do online slavery but she wants me to take pictures of me doing tasks etc but i wont do it,it just seem right.I have tried asking if we not do this but as the stubborn mistress she is,she isnt letting me off haha.Has anyone got any thoughts on this?I know i should be obedient but online tasks is just not an option for me.


Are you absolutely sure she's really a "she" -? 
Until you have a mutually affectionate relationship in place, and have developed trust (and you know she is who she say she is), really, no one is submitting to anyone.  She may be a "he" getting his jollies or collecting pics. If she's not comfortable talking on the phone or meeting in person, you are welcome to submit to any level of online domination YOU feel comfortable with, and she is free to select another slave if your limitations are not acceptable to her.

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/18/2010 2:17:37 PM   
sweetsub1957


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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

quote:

ORIGINAL: chris1991

Dear Mistresses,

I have a dilemma.I have recently met this girl who is interested in my.However one of my limits is not to do online slavery but she wants me to take pictures of me doing tasks etc but i wont do it,it just seem right.I have tried asking if we not do this but as the stubborn mistress she is,she isnt letting me off haha.Has anyone got any thoughts on this?I know i should be obedient but online tasks is just not an option for me.


Are you absolutely sure she's really a "she" -? 
Until you have a mutually affectionate relationship in place, and have developed trust (and you know she is who she say she is), really, no one is submitting to anyone.  She may be a "he" getting his jollies or collecting pics. If she's not comfortable talking on the phone or meeting in person, you are welcome to submit to any level of online domination YOU feel comfortable with, and she is free to select another slave if your limitations are not acceptable to her.

Akasha


What She said.

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/18/2010 2:34:02 PM   
RedMagic1


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Has anyone got any thoughts on this?

Yes.  Block "her" ass.  Look for someone who will respect your limits.  Don't settle for anything less.


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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/18/2010 2:37:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		The irony of asking women you dont know to tell you online what do with regard to the online demands of another woman you dont know ....

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/18/2010 3:56:03 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		What Aakasha said.

If this was a vanilla relationship, would you have any trouble being true to yourself? If it were vanilla, would you be getting with someone who is obviously incompatible with you from the start?

BDSM does not mean that your brain fell out of your head. Treat a propective D/s partner like you would if it were like any other relationship- insist on a partner whose needs and desires are compatible with yours, from the start.

The person you are conversing with may be a guy, or may be married or otherwise unavailable, or may be running any number of other scams. Don't be an easy mark.

Block and delete, early and often. Problem solved!


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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/18/2010 4:23:13 PM   
Politesub53


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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Are you absolutely sure she's really a "she" -? 



Of course she is a "she" Ma`am. Us blokes dont go about collecting hot photos for our jollies, do we now.

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/18/2010 4:44:13 PM   
XaviersXian


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Status: offline 		Hello everyone,

OP, if I were you, I'd drop her like a hot potato.  IMO, any person who is serious about having a submissive of any type will not demand that you compromise your limits for them in the beginning of a relationship.  If they wish to expand your limits, they will patiently work with you, over a period of months (or even years) to get you to a point where you can handle it, and make both of you happy in the process.

I'm not personally into the online "cam" (or photo) thing; I think it's cheap, tacky and a real turn off (but, of course, others may feel differently). 

I don't care to see a man exhibiting himself like that.  If I want a man to exhibit himself for me, I'll ask him to do it in a face to face meeting in my home, where I can actually enjoy him.  Some things are meant to be private.

I wish you well.

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/19/2010 4:32:44 AM   
theGuideGoddess


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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

The irony of asking women you dont know to tell you online what do with regard to the online demands of another woman you dont know ....

E


Humorous and true.  I also agree with Aakasha.  AND I agree with the original poster....on line submission seems like a futile waste of time in my opinion and dispite having numerous requests to participate....I REFUSE!  I want it real or I don't want it!

TGG

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/19/2010 4:49:31 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		OP, since the basis of your question has to do with obeying commands from someone that (I tend to think) you've never met in person, we're going to work with that.  I am about to command that you close your eyes while sitting at your computer for five minutes.  During that five minutes, you are to think of NOTHING but what damage such pics of you could potentially cause if they were posted elsewhere on the net without your approval.  Would it be an issue with your family, your friends, your job or anything else important to you?  Could they cause embarrassment or attention that you do not want?  Would such shots, if published, diminish your value in some way should you meet someone who would be suited for you in more than an online sense because you were an obvious fool?

Now, close your eyes........


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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/19/2010 4:59:19 AM   
theGuideGoddess


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Status: offline 		Fantastic advise LadyPact!

TGG

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/19/2010 6:20:52 AM   
Aylee


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ORIGINAL: chris1991

Dear Mistresses,

I have a dilemma.I have recently met this girl who is interested in my.However one of my limits is not to do online slavery but she wants me to take pictures of me doing tasks etc but i wont do it,it just seem right.I have tried asking if we not do this but as the stubborn mistress she is,she isnt letting me off haha.Has anyone got any thoughts on this?I know i should be obedient but online tasks is just not an option for me.


My thoughts,

Find someone compatible. 

< Message edited by Aylee -- 1/19/2010 6:21:20 AM >

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/19/2010 8:04:27 AM   
Lashra


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My thoughts,

Find someone compatible.


I agree 100%

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/19/2010 8:42:44 AM   
seekingOwnertoo


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Status: offline 		To the op .. While you ask the Mistress ... i thought i would chime in ...

the Ladies are very right ... when they say ... how would you feel if the pictures were spread all over the Internet?

myself, online is never an option ... and i do not believe that is failing to obey ... it is common sense. And when people refuse to meet ... or stay online ... without real life ... that is a red flag of their intentions ....

In my experience if she is real ... she will want to meet in real time ... and if you meet in real time, establish a relationship ... well ... then She can then take all the pictures She wants! LOL Although i doubt in real time ... she will even think of pictures ...

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/19/2010 1:35:08 PM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		First, if you aren't obeying her, she isn't your mistress. You may be flirting online but you aren't in a Ds dynamic with her.

Second, if she isn't respecting your limits, why would you want to be in any sort of relationship with her?

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RE: How can i please a mistress if i wont obey her - 1/20/2010 10:59:45 AM   
MsDDom


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ORIGINAL: chris1991

Dear Mistresses,

I have a dilemma.I have recently met this girl who is interested in my.However one of my limits is not to do online slavery but she wants me to take pictures of me doing tasks etc but i wont do it,it just seem right.I have tried asking if we not do this but as the stubborn mistress she is,she isnt letting me off haha.Has anyone got any thoughts on this?I know i should be obedient but online tasks is just not an option for me.


...then why are u doing "online slavery"?

I think u answered ur own question to a degree.


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