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Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive passive? - 3/23/2006 7:00:28 PM   
MichMasochist


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Status: offline 		Here's my first topic. Of the dommes who go to munches to find submisive men. Do you wait to be approached by a submisive male in the traditional passive female role? Or do you take the aggressive position, of the mythic domme, and initiate social interaction with a male to which you find interest?

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/23/2006 7:49:16 PM   
SimplyV


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ORIGINAL: MichMasochist

Here's my first topic. Of the dommes who go to munches to find submisive men. Do you wait to be approached by a submisive male in the traditional passive female role? Or do you take the aggressive position, of the mythic domme, and initiate social interaction with a male to which you find interest?

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Mich


I've only been to a couple munches and am not seeking at the moment.. but I'm just me. Which means I'm a combination of shy, confident, outgoing, extroverted, introverted.

I like being approached as much as I like approaching others. Usually if I approach someone its because something I've seen in them interests me, or I already know everyone else there and I want to get to know the new people.

I will say that I'm not usually attracted to men who are complete wallflowers. They should have some social skills of their own.

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/23/2006 8:21:37 PM   
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Here's my first topic. Of the dommes who go to munches to find submisive men. Do you wait to be approached by a submisive male in the traditional passive female role? Or do you take the aggressive position, of the mythic domme, and initiate social interaction with a male to which you find interest?

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Mich


I make an effort to speak to people, subs, dommes, whomever.  I'm at a munch to socialize.  I expect a submissive to also make efforts to participate in conversation if they want to leave a decent impression.  

Here's the thing - if there's no exchange of conversation - how is a Domme going to find a sub all that interesting?  :-)

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/23/2006 8:31:02 PM   
MichMasochist


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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/23/2006 9:17:03 PM   
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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/23/2006 9:27:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't go to Munches specifically to find a submissive, but if that happens to take place, great.  As outgoing as I am, I rarely wait to be approached by anyone at any type of social gathering, lifestyle related or not.  When I'm interested by something, or I want something, I go after it.

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/23/2006 10:56:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have usually approached the person I've wanted to be with, vanilla or otherwise. I tend to be a bit direct and bold, even when the only thing I want to do in a social situation is run and hide.

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 3:07:54 AM   
Oumae


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Status: offline 		I try to be friendly and make new people welcome at a munch.

I may make a sub approach me tho' but I wouldn't call it passive.  It can be fun to make eye contact and tease and see if they have the wherewithall to make an approach.  I like confident subs so its good to see one show their interest.

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 3:36:13 AM   
MichMasochist


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ORIGINAL: MistressLina

I've never known anyone to use a munch as a pick-up spot, even for bdsm activity.



Really??? If you don't go there to meet someone and socialize then why go at all?

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 8:34:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MichMasochist

Here's my first topic. Of the dommes who go to munches to find submisive men. Do you wait to be approached by a submisive male in the traditional passive female role? Or do you take the aggressive position, of the mythic domme, and initiate social interaction with a male to which you find interest?

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Mich


How about this novel idea?

He approaches me as a person!

He talks about whatever is being discussed at the munch in general and he's honest and funny (if he is) and he speaks from his interests and experiences. He listens to what I say and just as importantly to what others say regardless of their scene role.

After a few months I'll probably ask or it will come out in conversations what scene role people perfer. At that point he or I can approach the other depending on if other interests are there. Heck, I'd be more interested in them if they got involved in other things I was interested in before we discussed scening or training.

I'm far more likely to be interested in a person who shares other passions of mine (RPGs, radical politics, acadmic matters, teaching, gender theory, science fiction, etc) than someone just because they are submissive.

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 8:35:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MichMasochist


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ORIGINAL: MistressLina

I've never known anyone to use a munch as a pick-up spot, even for bdsm activity.



Really??? If you don't go there to meet someone and socialize then why go at all?


To meet/make friends, to form a community, to share knowledge, to see old friends... finding a partner always seemed to work best for me when it frankly wasn't even in my mind when I went to a munch.

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 10:01:16 AM   
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If we don't care about people what it the point of relationships?
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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 10:31:19 AM   
thetammyjo


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ORIGINAL: lateralist

I hope you don't mind me saying that the man or woman who is wearing the boots should mind where he or she is putting his foot.
If we don't care about people what it the point of relationships?
Being a Domme doesn't stop me caring. Especially about my subs. If they belong to me then I have a deeper responsibility to them than I do to everyone else.
Take care Mistress Lizbeth


What exactly are you referring to since you are "replying" to my post?

What did anything I said have to to say in my posts in this thread have to do with having a submissive?

This thread is about approaching a potential partner it doesn't have anything to do with established relationships.

What in the world are you replying to exactly?

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 10:46:26 AM   
Oumae


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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: lateralist

I hope you don't mind me saying that the man or woman who is wearing the boots should mind where he or she is putting his foot.
If we don't care about people what it the point of relationships?
Being a Domme doesn't stop me caring. Especially about my subs. If they belong to me then I have a deeper responsibility to them than I do to everyone else.
Take care Mistress Lizbeth


What exactly are you referring to since you are "replying" to my post?

What did anything I said have to to say in my posts in this thread have to do with having a submissive?

This thread is about approaching a potential partner it doesn't have anything to do with established relationships.

What in the world are you replying to exactly?


I think this is in responce to my signature, Tammy Jo and not directed at you.

It is an old Irish saying and is not meant to be taken quite so literaly, just like when we say here "may you be in heaven half an hour before the devil knows you are dead" we are not wishing death on someone.

Oumae

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 11:18:56 AM   
MichMasochist


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Status: offline 		Did I read that right? RPG's? Assuming Role Playing Games, like Dungeons and Dragons?
By chance would you be a fellow Treki?

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 11:23:25 AM   
MichMasochist


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Is cuma le fear na mbrog ca leagann se a chos.
( The man with the boots does not mind where he places his foot)




Makes perfectly good sense. Even if taken litterally, because the man in the boots doesn't hafta worry about stepping on the "road apples". :P



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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 1:51:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MichMasochist

Did I read that right? RPG's? Assuming Role Playing Games, like Dungeons and Dragons?
By chance would you be a fellow Treki?


I run our gaming group's World of Darkness gams in the summer when I have more time -- doing an episodic Werewolf this summer (old systems, not that new stuff that came out two years ago).

I'm very picky about my science fiction and fantasy (part of the reason I started writing myself). There are some Star Treks I like, some I don't. I really like vampires a lot might go along with the fact that I bite....

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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 1:57:19 PM   
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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 6:06:49 PM   
MichMasochist


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The Ann Rice novels about the vampires and the mayfair witches are good.

Have been playing Neverwinter nights online for a while now. Pretty good D&D type game.



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RE: Domme behavior, passive agressive or aggressive pas... - 3/24/2006 6:37:13 PM   
Laura


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Status: offline 		The munches I have been to were not for singles. Most people came as a couple or had past partners there. I am usually the only one who doesn't know anyone else and comes alone. I always leave alone, I actually like it that way. But, it would be nice to go with someone and not -always- be a fifth wheel. Still, that doesn't stop me from going. 

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