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Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/23/2006 9:58:37 PM   
MojoRisin


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Status: offline 		I am talking to a wonderful slave who tells me she grew up in a household where her mother was a slave to her father. Anyone else have a background like this?

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/23/2006 10:58:37 PM   
Slipstreme


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Status: offline 		Well, I learned that my parents had experimented with BDSM at one point in their life when I came out to them as a Dominant sadomasochist. If they had done it while I was alive, I didn't pick up on it, aside from the fact my mother had always deferred to my dad as the head of the household. Although with us kids, she was the one who wielded the real authority.

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/23/2006 11:03:41 PM   
kiale


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Status: offline 		I've met some parents who have children who are kinky as well, but usually this wasn't something that was openly discussed around the dining room table until the children were fairly well grown--not many teenagers really WANT to know that about their parents.

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/23/2006 11:08:45 PM   
DragonNphoenix


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ORIGINAL: MojoRisin

I am talking to a wonderful slave who tells me she grew up in a household where her mother was a slave to her father. Anyone else have a background like this?




I recently 'came out' to my teenage daughter.  She went to her room saying ... lalalalalalalala.  I dont think that she is going to be asking me or her father anything about what we do for a long time.

1st Girl Phoenix

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/24/2006 12:11:51 AM   
TheShadows


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Status: offline 		I can remember as a child, being friends with a girl who's father was very authoritarian.

I remember when I was over at her house to play or hang out, that we (us kids), always had to sit on the floor...never on the furniture.  The mom deferred to the dad on everything.  She was always very timid towards him.  We all (the mom included) address him as "Sir".

He was big into the biker scene, so maybe that was just how he treated "his old lady and the kids".  Or possibly a very low-key domestic discipline thing was going on.  But he was definately in charge.

Looking back, it's so obvious some sort of power exchange was going on within the house.  I guess I was just too young to realize it.

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/24/2006 12:17:43 AM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		Well I wouldn't call my mother a slave but she was definately submissive to my father.

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/24/2006 12:30:43 AM   
shygirldesires


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Status: offline 		i know of a slave here on CM who is being trained by her mom and her mom's dom

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/24/2006 4:12:19 AM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		I don't know if this counts... but I've always been open about my choices and I now have adult kids that are also exploring the lifestyle. I think it's wonderful that we have the kind of relationship where my daughter can come over and ask about electric play (her and her girlfriend want a violet wand for Christmas... lol).

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/24/2006 4:47:52 AM   
aurora31


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Status: offline 		I recently came out to my oldest daughter who is 18 now. I found out of her interest about a year ago when I stumbled across her web blog. We don't talk about it much but she knows if she has any questions she can come to me and if I don't know the answer I will find some one who does.

Sherrie

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/24/2006 4:57:35 AM   
DragonNphoenix


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ORIGINAL: shygirldesires

i know of a slave here on CM who is being trained by her mom and her mom's dom


So do I.  I wonder if it is the same one or if this is more commen than I thought.  My Master says it is.

1st  Girl Phoenix

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/24/2006 6:05:56 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I don't myself, although my nephew loved playing with the O ring on my collar when he was a baby.  But I do know lots of people in the scene who are out to their children.

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/24/2006 9:20:39 PM   
harmony3709


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Status: offline 		My Master grew up knowing his father and stepmother were Master/slave.  His father was very open about things and there were other slaves that would live in the house from time to time as well.  Like a similar post above, his father was also very active in the biker community, but if I remember right, Master told me that this was not something that the other bikers in his club did in general, but they knew of his father's lifestyle.

Master was trained by his father and while he learned a lot from him and has great respect for his father as a Master, he has followed his own path in the lifestyle, while continuing the tradition.

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/24/2006 10:13:59 PM   
Sirandlittle1


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Status: offline 		my grown up kids are aware. But they assume its kink, not D/s dynamic that we are into. Ive not bothered to enlighten them.

< Message edited by Sirandlittle1 -- 3/24/2006 10:20:37 PM >

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/24/2006 10:20:54 PM   
preciousgem


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Status: offline 		i cant really say if i grew up with it in my household, put where i was raised it was genrelly the Men who where the head of house hold and the women deffered every thing to them. and now with kids of my own Master and i can kinda see tendices in Our kids that makes Us wonder what they will be when they get older.

when the youngest ( being a girl btw) can tell one of her older brothers " get off my bed you WILL obey me NOW" and he gets off or she can tell me before she goes off to sleep that it is my JOB to clean up her toys really makes US think she is gonna be a Domme when she gets older and if she gets in to the lifestlye

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/25/2006 7:49:03 AM   
Kiledar


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Status: offline 		and of course I can add to that Ja lina.  Don't forget our oldest.  He is a boy that will argue against getting him new clothes even though the ones he has are falling off him from wear. Instead he would rather us go out and have fun.   Fully slave looking to our enjoyment over his own needs.

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/25/2006 8:16:35 AM   
kitriana


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Status: offline 		My dad has always been submissive to my mother, and since I realized my dominance at an incredibly early age (so they tell me), I started manipulating him too. Nowadays, he says we "gang up on him" though no one in our house has ever discussed D/s, it is obvious it is there.

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/25/2006 9:56:22 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		my Dad was (and is) submissive to my Mom.  He is 6'2, stocky, and intimidating looking (i lost a lot of dates because of him, lol) but seemed to cower to her.  (not that size has anything to do with dominance & submission, but as a child, it was odd to see this big strong man appear "weak.")  Mom on the other hand, was more of a bully than anything.  She was out of control and the entire family suffered. 

my siblings all lost respect for my Dad.  i suppose i did, too, although i usually felt humiliated for him.  i am certain this helped sculpt my later feelings about dominant women and submissive men.  i always had an issue with both of those concepts until i discovered where that issue came from and realized its lack of logic.  One can not define the world by one's parents, but one can understand parental influence and form his/her own views regardless of that.  i am glad i was able to do that, or i would have missed out on knowing some pretty cool people in my life.

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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/25/2006 11:19:38 AM   
shygirldesires


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ORIGINAL: DragonNphoenix

quote:

ORIGINAL: shygirldesires

i know of a slave here on CM who is being trained by her mom and her mom's dom


will you meet me on the other side and compare notes?
So do I.  I wonder if it is the same one or if this is more commen than I thought.  My Master says it is.

1st  Girl Phoenix


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RE: Growing up with Dom/sub - 3/25/2006 12:27:09 PM   
MistressJude


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Status: offline 		A submissive I had was very open about the lifestyle with her son - although when he was younger it wasn't an open topic, per se. Now that he's older it's openly talked about and we didn't have to find ways to 'hide our stash' or 'keep it down' so he wouldn't find out. Now he and his girlfriend explore the lifestyle as well.

He grew up with other children of parents who were in the lifestyle. The ages that the kids found out varied and how much was presented openly varied but they all grew up knowing that there was a "unique" dynamic to the relationship with their parents. Some grew into very knowledgeable kinkers themselves, others are just budding, and some want nothing to do with the lifestyle.

MJ


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