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JoeT2000 -> RE: Sensitivity... (4/9/2006 2:09:04 AM)
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The secret of any relationship - D/s or otherwise, is the acceptance that your partner, Dom, Master, submissive, slave is human. For subs, the ideolisation of the Master to the extent he can never do wrong is likely to doom things to failure. Unrealistic expectations. Personally, I have more respect for the Doms/Masters who can turn round and apologise on occasion, and have the ability to explain how they feel (and not fear expressing it).
On occasion we all have bad days, and it is a very normal reaction to let emotions from other situations "intrude" elsewhere, particularly with people you are "close to" or "attuned to".
For the submissive who sees her Master having "one of those days", rather than feeling hyper sensitive, thinking "it's all me", try soothing him. For the Master, explain you've had a crappy day at the start of the conversation. Oh, and vice versa. Learning to read each other's "cues", including verbal ones (harder on the phone - sometimes virtually impossible with text), should be a part of training.
It isn't all one way. Personally... as well as a bdsm checklist (more important in my opinion) is knowing when your submissive has their period. Depending on how this effects them... beware... you may find your whip rammed somewhere rather unpleasant.
I'd work on your subs self esteem, and build it. The more she views herself positively, the less likely she is to take responsibility for things which aren't her responsibility, and act in a manner which is more mature, and balanced. When she values herself, she will serve you with confidence and vitality, not hesitancy and hyper sensitivity (which can get irritating). Yeah I know, this is an ideal, and there will always be off days...
Cosi fan tutti.
Joe
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