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beej -> RE: My greatest relationships have been with the craziest women (4/22/2010 12:09:05 PM)
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devious, creative, and under-concerned about consequences/carefree gets called "crazy" a lot. maybe that's just cute terminology, but i wonder why those qualities can't just be called "devious, creative, and carefree."
for me, "crazy" creates confusion between what is delightfully off and what is dysfunctional. whenever someone rhapsodizes about the "crazy" woman that they fell for who was a hellcat in the sack and brilliant at 3 am but couldn't keep gas in her car or return phone calls or use an ashtray instead of the arm of the couch to put out her cigarettes i think to myself, "that's not crazy. that's just a woman so in love with her eccentricities that she thinks being useful is beneath her." and if you like that, okay, have fun on the clean up crew. to me, crazy is the woman who calls at two in the morning hysterical because a guy cut her off on the freeway, and somehow that resulted in "accidental" bleeding that requires stitches, and she needs to you drive an hour to pick her up from the home of some silly drunk people where she crashed because she can't keep gas in her car. i know people who make those calls to me because they are certifiably insane. unfortunately, they are relatives and i can't break up with them or say that it's fun in the moment. it's not fun at all, actually. it's usually terrifying and at the very least, exhausting.
so OP, maybe these devious, creative, and carefree women are still around you but they are less inclined to make open displays because they don't want to be confused with reckless, selfish women or else with truly crazy women. i like to think of myself as devious, creative, and carefree, and i'd be seriously put off if someone called me crazy. i just don't see anything charming in commanding the attention of others with displays of behavior so wild and self-serving that they simply can't be ignored. i don't mean to be preachy or to rain on your parade if you were just being nostalgic and cute, but that's my two cents.
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