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So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 7:07:14 AM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		...what about being a female Dominant....

...really turns your crank...really makes you happy...is just amazingly cool...really fires you up...

...what about being a female Dominant....

...makes you want to jump and dance and scream your joy to the universe it is just so damn good...




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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 7:21:37 AM   
Domin8tingUrDrmz


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Status: offline 		There are a lot of things that I enjoy about being a dominant woman. However, if I have to list only one, that one would be a certain look in a submissive's eyes. The one that says "holy shit what I have I gotten myself into!, with a more subtle look of adoration and enjoyment. I REALLY enjoy seeing the internal conflict.

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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 7:26:18 AM   
Sylverdawn


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Status: offline 		Wow... for me its more than just the play ... its the trust... when you stripe a submissive to the point that they have given you all.. they are physically spent.... they have unburdened themselves emotionally .. and you are there holding them as they lay spent..their breathing is heavy and uneven, tears perhaps...and you know that you are completely the last thread for them.. and we are both completely in the moment... that they have trusted you enough to go through the process with you... thats what makes me do this...

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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 7:30:18 AM   
allthatjaz


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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 8:34:56 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 8:47:51 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		My first thought or response is not my answer actually. It is what comes to mind as my favorite thing and yet... there is more to it. To see his eyes react to different things and see devotion in them is a big high, but too many can show those reactions too readily without the meaning behind them that I want.

So when I look deeper, I see... and get excited about seeing myself in his words, actions and reactions. When he can see what I have been saying and teaching about myself and my life and starts repeating what he has learned of me and finds value in it all because of who and what I have shown him... then, the look of devotion and submission in his eyes, that adoration and then the surprise of a well placed blow or unexpected something or other... has meaning for me.

I don't want that look or expression of devotion and respect/whatever to be there because of his desire to have it there, but because it actually is there. My will becomes his own and not in an unhealthy way... and he still has his own will, but can see the benefit of sharing my will for us... now that is a charge. That is the payoff.

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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 9:18:34 AM   
AAkasha


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Interesting way to ask the question!  When it comes to my "relationship-esque" femdom side, I feel an overall comfort level in the role of leadership - whether it comes from decision making to delegating to being responsible for earning the household income. I also am more comfortable being direct about my needs and wants, having high expectations of my partner, and having total control of sex on all levels.  None of this makes me feel "glee" per se - it's just my comfort level.

When it comes to my kinky, sadistic side, I find that it's more a "response to a predatory gnawing inside me" -- it's a hunger, a lust, an ache, a desire. It runs in cycles when it comes to the hardcore/more severe desires for submission being a bit spread out, while my general sadistic side is just wrapped up in my style of affection and lust.  So much so that I could not separate them; I've never NOT been a hairpuller, I've never NOT liked to pin a man's wrists playfully when kissing.

The bigger urges are like bloodlust (minus the blood) and a bit more compulsive, but not unstable or unethical.  When I get them satisfied, I liken the feeling to a drug-like euphoria, a buzz in my body, and often-times an orgasmic like all-over body shudder when I really, really am getting what I want/need from a man.

Akasha


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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 12:37:42 PM   
QueenRah


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

...what about being a female Dominant....

...really turns your crank...really makes you happy...is just amazingly cool...really fires you up...



What about being a female Dominant makes me cranky?...What?....Oh! "What about being a female Dominant turns my crank." Gotcha.

Taking my power into myself. Expressing my self completely inside the partnership, without fear of censure, embarrassment or shame. Realizing my own strength to determine my most desirable outcome in all situations. Being the leader, the decider, the final word.

This is not megalomania, selfishness, nor insensitivity: The agreements already made, this is exactly what my partners and I need, want and desire. I have the power to guide both of us to fulfullment - in all aspects of relationship.

No, I'm not in it by myself nor for myself alone. It is that I don't have to take a backseat to the out-dated "traditional" view of the acquiescent little wifey - that's his job! ;) Joking. Joking.

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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 1:03:45 PM   
RumpusParable


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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 3:17:30 PM   
LadyAngelika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha


Interesting way to ask the question!  When it comes to my "relationship-esque" femdom side, I feel an overall comfort level in the role of leadership - whether it comes from decision making to delegating to being responsible for earning the household income. I also am more comfortable being direct about my needs and wants, having high expectations of my partner, and having total control of sex on all levels.  None of this makes me feel "glee" per se - it's just my comfort level.

When it comes to my kinky, sadistic side, I find that it's more a "response to a predatory gnawing inside me" -- it's a hunger, a lust, an ache, a desire. It runs in cycles when it comes to the hardcore/more severe desires for submission being a bit spread out, while my general sadistic side is just wrapped up in my style of affection and lust.  So much so that I could not separate them; I've never NOT been a hairpuller, I've never NOT liked to pin a man's wrists playfully when kissing.

The bigger urges are like bloodlust (minus the blood) and a bit more compulsive, but not unstable or unethical.  When I get them satisfied, I liken the feeling to a drug-like euphoria, a buzz in my body, and often-times an orgasmic like all-over body shudder when I really, really am getting what I want/need from a man.

Akasha



What Akasha said.

- LA

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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 5:16:08 PM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		Actually about being a female dominant really gets me going.

I'm not a fetish object to myself nor am I my own fantasy.

I am female, born that way, no real choice in the matter. Just is. You live the hand you are dealt.

I am dominant, born that way I strongly suspect given some of my childhood experiences that worked very hard to make me either submissive or vanilla and failed.

So this very series of questions strikes me as odd because I'm just me.

Period.

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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/21/2010 6:54:36 PM   
blmtrsne


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Status: offline 		Just a few things that come to my mind:
- I own my husband/slave, which means I can do with him what I want, or let him do what i want.
That makes it possible to order him to do things I would never dare to ask if I were a good girl.
- he frees up my time so I can do interesting things.
- I'm the Boss, so I don't need to ask for his opinion.
- I don't need to tell him about my whereabouts.

I'm happy

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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/22/2010 1:10:30 PM   
MsDDom


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Status: offline 		...simply, I get to be just who I am w/o all the vanilla interruptions. I can teach, train and guide. I can relax and simply be served. 

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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/22/2010 5:43:16 PM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

...what about being a female Dominant....

...really turns your crank...really makes you happy...is just amazingly cool...really fires you up...

...what about being a female Dominant....

...makes you want to jump and dance and scream your joy to the universe it is just so damn good...




Truthfully, I wouldn't know where to begin.  I couldn't pick one thing.  It's a thousand and one things.


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RE: So you're a Femdom... - 1/22/2010 11:27:34 PM   
MistressTonya2u


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Status: offline 		Being who I am, and seeing that look..you know the one..devotion and fear in his eyes and just the slightest quivering of his lips...

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