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NuevaVida -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/22/2010 8:59:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lucylucy
But the end result--me doing everything I can to obey his command--is the same.


Great point, and one I agree with.  My hope to be notified about the cooking stuff is so he doesn't have to wait.  But I think we're coming from the same place here.  [:)]



subjan1962 -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/23/2010 3:50:58 AM)

I obey immediately!  Master is intelligent enough to know if time is required for preperation.



AquaticSub -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/23/2010 7:00:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: lucylucy

I stand by my original answer of "I obey--it makes no difference how much notice I get," but of course, the results can be better with notice, depending on what he wants. The cooking examples are good ones. If he says, "Serve me dinner right now" and we don't even have groceries in the house, no amount of obedience will make the dinner appear. I trust him to give reasonable commands. He's an adult, so if he says, "Serve me dinner right now" and I say, "May I go buy groceries to make dinner first?" he will undoubtedly say, "of course." But the end result--me doing everything I can to obey his command--is the same.


I trust Val to give reasonable commands as well. That doesn't change the fact that notice is nice, useful and helps me serve him better in particular instances. If he wants me to bake challah, I  have to be at the house for about three or four hours. Which means I can't be picking up his dry-cleaning, running down to the courthouse to grab a copy of our marriage liscense, doing any shopping that we need, swinging by the comic book store to grab our latest interest, hanging out with a friend, giving someone a hand with whatever they need at their house or bringing him his lunch.

When I have a day planned I prefer to not change everything because of a sudden command that is going to take of a time. That doesn't mean I won't obey. It's just a preference.



DesFIP -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/23/2010 12:32:07 PM)

It depends. Telling me quick to drive someplace to meet him won;t work. I have a child and a dog, both of whom I need to plan logistically to deal with.

If this is something playwise, then assuming it isn't very new or something we haven't discussed, I'd rather not have time to think about it. I get anxious while waiting and severe anxiety kills playtime. I'd rather he just did it.

If it's something we've never explored then of course he has to talk to me about it. I may not be able to do it for a reason that had never before been discussed.



itsmeinLV -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/23/2010 4:11:12 PM)

Depends on the situation.



hisdarlinsweetie -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/23/2010 5:21:33 PM)

Sometimes, being told too far ahead of time makes me crazy.  I appreciate when He gives me notice of things that need to be scheduled, researched, planned, etc., but generally I don't want much, if any, warning if it's something to do with play.  The first time He planned a gangbang, He told me way too far in advance, and I got really freaked out anticipating it.  The actual encounter was good, but the time leading up to it was hell.



subboi3382 -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/24/2010 2:28:18 AM)

i like either way. often he purposely keeps me in the dark about plans to make me more submissive



Pinkpottiepants -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/24/2010 4:15:40 AM)

I don't want to, or need to be told ahead of time, in fact never knowing what might be around the corner is what keeps it fresh and exciting. If there is something that I need to prepare for, it might be told to me in a suggestion of what might be coming, but I wouldn't know when or even if at all.



Exploratorynfun -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/24/2010 10:42:24 AM)

I would say depending on what it is... however I am never given notice and I simply obey or face the consequences.



sexyred1 -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/24/2010 10:45:47 AM)

I like someone telling me to be prepared to be ravished later.

That creates all sorts of distractions to get through the day. [;)]



catize -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/25/2010 9:38:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: osf

what he desires you to do, or are you willing to just obey when told?




It's sort of like getting presents; I don't want to know what it is ahead of time.

But, sometimes it is on a 'need to know' basis. If he wants me to have certain things ready before his arrival, I need to know what they are. But I don't need to know WHY he wants them.

For me, submission means I am willing to do what he tells me, and I don't ask questions or try to guess what he has in mind.



Rhodes85 -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/25/2010 10:14:03 AM)

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I knid of like surprises, the anticipation of the unknown is half the pleasure.


Ah, the joys of eating in a mexican restaurant. Though those suprises aren't always good [:D]

As most people have stated, some things require some advanced notice, others do not. So there are times when a sub would have to be told ahead of time.



dragonseeker -> RE: do you always want to be told ahead of time (1/25/2010 2:04:03 PM)

Totally willing to just obey when told. Sometimes Sire will tell me beforehand especially when it involves making or changing plans, events, or engagements.  Apart from that, a large part of me being his slave is anticipating his wants/needs and not have him tell me all the time.... like the way he wants coffee made and when, his favorite food, when he has had a rough day at work and needs some of his favorite chocolate cake, etc.



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