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riki1 -> Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/22/2010 1:27:25 PM)

just to serve a Mistress? or is that a fantasy?

I am wondering, because my Mistress has been spreading the word for several months that she is looking to add a sissy to our household and while she is inundated with the usual (and expected) subs looking for a 'jerk=off' opportunity, genuine inquiries have been next to zero.

I realize relocating is a biggie and we'd expect to spend a lot of time meeting and talking and all those things before it actually happens, but nevertheless She despairing.

Before you suggest we get out into the community and meet some folks face to face . . . well, we do that to in our local kink community.

Part of my confusion about this is just how isolated and alone i felt as a sub male before finding my Goddess 10 years ago, and how ready i was to explore whatever it took to make this lifestyle happen.

Even this site lists 'willing to relocate' in its intro options . . . so i know that option must be others minds somewhere out there.

Is it just an addition to the predominate sissy maid fantasy, the idea of leaving the old life behind and finally submitting to a whole new one? or do some folks actually do it?



Lockit -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/22/2010 1:38:30 PM)

Submissive's and sissy's have lives too, families, work and all that requires staying put. With this economy, not many are willing to give up what they have for the unknown, where at one time it might not have been such a concern.

Finding a service submissive is very difficult. Oh yes... you see them jumping around the site like fish out of water... begging for some attention and lots of them... but that doesn't mean they know what it means to actually serve or be a domestic. That doesn't mean that they want 24/7. It doesn't mean anything really except there are many claiming to be... but you see the numbers... they are rare.

The one's I have seen that really could do 24/7...omg... watch out! I have been offered all sorts of things from the homeless, jobless, sometimes criminal one's that think they can get what they need by offering service. Not to mention those just wanting a lil play.

I know some who have wonderful service submissive's... but that is rare. You will just have to accept that it takes time and just the right situation and a whole lot of luck. Those who are really interested have often been taken advantage of and that adds another element to it all. There really isn't much you can do except keep looking in all the ways you can and hope for the best. Be clear about what you are looking for and what you offer for this service on your profile.



OttersSwim -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/22/2010 1:44:07 PM)

I think that when you get into a rubber meeting the actual road situation, you are going to see a lot of sissies backing off.  The change of life is just too big for them.

Difficult enough to uproot life, job, family, etc.  But actually going off to live a life that maybe you have fantasized about - a lot even - being a sissy...actually confronting your gender fantasies.  Too much in one big bite for a lot of folk I would think.

And you know, that is as it should be.  A person ready and willing to relocate will have prepared not only their life, but themselves for the situation you describe.

That one is going to be a bit harder to find, but when you do, they will be there and ready to seriously consider and possibly even embrace your offer.



Malkinius -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/22/2010 1:47:38 PM)

Greetings riki1....

Yes, some do. Most of the slaves I have owned have relocated to me. It certainly does happen with some regularity. I have had them relocate from me to new owners as well. It does go both ways. At this point, I pretty much won't own without the relocation. Train yes, own no.

Be well...

Malkinius



stella41b -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/22/2010 4:21:41 PM)

Having gone over your profile I think you both have to decide whether you actually want a sissy maid or a live in domestic service submissive. I see a lot of expectations but what I don't see clearly what is being offered in return.

I mean let's face it, there's a submissive already living with a Mistress, you're expecting the sissy to be financially solvent, to make a contribution to household expenses and also be committed to a full time domestic role.

I do have to ask is there not an element of fantasy on your side too?

You're competing with a significant number of unattached dominants and I would also feel that there are a lot of sissies out there who have hopes of a primary relationship.

Another thing you might like to consider is that I feel there's some confusion over actually what a sissy maid actually is and what exactly their culture is. It isn't full time domestic work - please trust me on that score, I'm not a sissy and I have done domestic service 24/7 - take the standard or usual sissy maid attire, uniforms, clothes, etc it's usually expensive and quite delicate fabric. Sissy maids are fine for light household duties because that is actually what being a sissy maid is about - it's a role play, not a free for all domestic service.

My suggestion is to change the word 'sissy in your profile' to transgendered to embrace all the crossdressers, transvestites and even transsexuals and you might actually get a different response.

Just sayin..



antipode -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/22/2010 6:47:35 PM)

quote:

just to serve a Mistress? or is that a fantasy?


Yes. No.



UniqueRaven -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/23/2010 5:15:15 PM)

Yes, i relocated years ago from Austin to NYC to serve my last Master. But then i moved a LOT growing up (grew up in Europe - Dad was Air Force), so for me a move isn't that big a deal, i do it pretty easily. For those who have been in one location most of their life, it could be much, much more difficult to wrap their minds around the thought of moving for real.

i would hope that anyone that marks "able to relocate" in his/her profile would mean just that. But i'm sure there are those who will find themselves backpedaling when the situation becomes "real." i think the best thing to do is to bring it out in early conversations, how a relocation would work for him/her, has he/she prepared, etc. - no need to waste each other's time if it isn't going to be a good fit.




kyuketsuki1977 -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/24/2010 2:36:43 PM)

I believe there are though as it has already been said they are very rare. whilst i am not a sissie i am/was a slave and moved from the UK to the USA to be with my Mistress, it did not work out but that is a whole other story lol

That being said people whom can not relocate should be honest from the start I will not tell any one on here that I can relocate in fact the chances of being able to meet face to face is slim to none (difficult situation also a long story) thought in my defence i am not looking for a jerk=off lol



xxblushesxx -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/24/2010 3:05:59 PM)

I relocated to live with my Master. However, if every single post he made in a forum was a desperate sounding advert, it wouldn't have happened.

Use the forums to get to know people and put the search on hold for a bit. You may find that more conducive to finding friends and possible partners than what you're doing now.



littlewonder -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/24/2010 5:06:34 PM)

I'm not into Mistresses but JUST to serve? I'm sure some do...I don't. I relocate because there's more to us than just me serving Him. He's much more to me than just my service to him.



BKSir -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/24/2010 5:08:10 PM)

Mine relocate(s)(d) to serve me, so, yes, there's at least one, that I can guarantee is out there.



diaperedbaby -> RE: Are there really subs and sissies who relocate (1/26/2010 7:57:10 AM)

Some good points. I would consider it but would have to know the person for awhile. I agree in that it is about expectations. I have my own business that I can operate anywhere, but I couldn't be a 24/7 sissy maid and do the business at the same time. Just wouldn't work. My gut feeling is a dom would be more supportive of the financial end than the cleaning/domestic chores.



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