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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/23/2010 5:31:15 PM   
Santoro


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I’ve been sexually interactive with a woman for over ten years, we have dinner together two to three times a week, often take our vacations together and our lives entwine in a wide varied of venture capital interests and social functions. Ten years and when I see her from across the room a swelling throbbing pulsating still fills my loin. Neither of us wants more than those moments in time that forever etch themselves on the very essence of our being and I seek only to lay naked upon the alter of her desire but when the night is over, it’s over for a few days and then the mystical magic of her begins to flood my mind again. But she is certainly far more than a fuck buddy or friend with benefits.

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/23/2010 5:36:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow lot of various replys some good and some interesting as well.......thanks all! Well of course condoms are a must to prevent and keep others disease free. Now we have Aids and Herpes which are very hard to cure and I am sure there are a few more!?

For me sex wasnt required while training of a sub/slave but if they wanted fun as well? Had to help out and keep them happy. Was a plus for me as well!

Like how some here said it was a commitmant and loyality. Can see that as you trust that person just for the fun you both need. After all sex is a good stress reliever.

Thanks all!

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/23/2010 5:47:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
Summary: All men are pigs.  Put two in the same room and sex happening is a definite possiblity.  Just sayin'


Yep yep yep.
Put any man alone in a room with his hand, and its a definite certainty.

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/23/2010 9:17:10 PM   
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I've had fb relationships in the past - on two occasions they ended because the gal found a partner (and in one case she married him and in the other she's going to this summer)- in both cases we remained really good friends, just without the "benefits"..


This reminds me of a movie I saw...what was the name of it.. oh yeah, "Good Luck. Chuck".. with Jessica Alba and Dane Cook.. this dude becomes a lucky charm for women because he has a curse on him... every girl friend he sleeps with finds the man of her dreams after she breaks up with him.


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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/23/2010 9:22:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		I could not see myself with a fuck buddy...

It is not that I couldn't have a short term passionate affair, I could, but there is something so platonic about "fuck buddy"... it kinda is like the term "drinking buddy", someone you see when you drink... that just isn't the way I want to feel about someone I lower my drawers for...

I like the term "lover" and "affair" better.. I want intensity, heat, and passion... without it I might as well get a vibrator... I have plenty of friends these days.


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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/23/2010 9:36:40 PM   
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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/23/2010 9:57:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Toyfriend! I feel it's a fitting and accurate description of what they are. I thought I was okay with that, that it was all I needed. Managed to delude myself for a few years that it was working but I left feeling more lonely than when I went into it. No more, can't do it. 

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 12:55:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I tried to have a fuck buddy once but he took one look at me and fucked off..

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 6:23:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

I have long felt that "play partner" is essentially the BDSM equivalent as a vanilla fuck buddy.  I do realize that not all play partners fuck - but Ill bet most do. 


I think there is a good chance you'd lose that bet.

I'd say a good number do. And a good number don't. Asides from Val, I can't recall fucking a single play partner and I'm quite the little play slut. And just slut in general.

In fact, none of my play partners, even the regular ones that I play with frequently, have even tried to fuck me.

Hmmm... maybe I'm not fuckable?

(And I'm getting head scratchies... ooo... that's nice... I wubs my owner....)

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 7:56:53 AM   
Rochsub2009


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Status: offline 		Wait a minute!  Are you telling me that there are people who DON'T have a "friend with benefits"????!!!!!

i've had one for years.  She lives in another city, and any time i am in town on business, we usually make it a point to get together for dinner and to catch up on old times.  If either of us is in a relationship at the time, then our visits remain platonic (we do have a sense of honor, despite being fuck buddies).  But if neither of us is in a relationship, then it is very likely that we will take advantage of the "benefits".

We both agree that we wouldn't work well as a LTR.  Being in a real relationship with one another would bring our glaring personality differences into play too much.  But as just friends with benefits, we work very well.

As far as BDSM play partners go, i have had varying experiences.  Many Dommes that i've played with have wanted to take me for a "test ride".  But just as many simply want the power exchange without the sex.  So my experience has been that "play partner" does not necessarily mean "fuck buddy".

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 8:06:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Fuck buddies....it seems that my exes become fuck buddies, at least one has for years now.

The problem with exes becoming fuck buddies for ME, is that we are not friends or buddies, we don't get along well enough for that, however we still dissolve in animalistic passion over each other, so while we each do our thing in our lives, we do take advantage of that animal passion and our history. Some of my exes where we ended on a decent note, still became fuck buddies but did not last as long as the current one.

I don't usually do casual with strangers, ala one night stands. Does not work for me; if I fuck you and you are amazing, I will be fucking you alot.

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 8:11:41 AM   
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if I fuck you and you are amazing, I will be fucking you alot.


That's what i'm gonna now say whenever i meet someone....walking in the supermarket, our carts accidentally bump"Opps, sorry...if I fuck you and you are amazing, I will be fucking you alot. " Maybe i should just get it printed on a t-shirt, and wear it to the mall...so many possibilities.

Btw...i agree, exes make the best fuck buddies....no need to bring out the instruction manual, and they usually still  like you enough to give jewelry as gifts....win/win!



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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 8:16:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

quote:

if I fuck you and you are amazing, I will be fucking you alot.


That's what i'm gonna now say whenever i meet someone....walking in the supermarket, our carts accidentally bump"Opps, sorry...if I fuck you and you are amazing, I will be fucking you alot. " Maybe i should just get it printed on a t-shirt, and wear it to the mall...so many possibilities.

Btw...i agree, exes make the best fuck buddies....no need to bring out the instruction manual, and they usually still  like you enough to give jewelry as gifts....win/win!




LOL feel free to get the t-shirt made. The problem will be that everyone will run after you telling you how amazing they are and will likely be lying!

Yes, the ex thing...obviously there was a reason you were with them for so long....the jewelry part...you have better exes than mine, no jewelry, but orgasms are the next best thing (I think?)

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 8:22:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

The problem with exes becoming fuck buddies for ME, is that we are not friends or buddies, we don't get along well enough for that,



i'm not judging you for this, but personally i can't be a fuck buddy with someone that i genuinely don't like. If i don't like them enough for them to qualify as a friend or buddy, then they likely will never be a fuck buddy. 

quote:

if I fuck you and you are amazing, I will be fucking you alot.


  i absolutely love that line. 

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 8:25:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

The problem with exes becoming fuck buddies for ME, is that we are not friends or buddies, we don't get along well enough for that,



i'm not judging you for this, but personally i can't be a fuck buddy with someone that i genuinely don't like. If i don't like them enough for them to qualify as a friend or buddy, then they likely will never be a fuck buddy. 

quote:

if I fuck you and you are amazing, I will be fucking you alot.


  i absolutely love that line. 



I am sorry, I was not clear. My exes are my exes because we NO longer got along well enough to carry on in a serious, monogamous relationship leading to whatever it would lead to or we fell out of love, but still love each other in some way.These relationships went on for years before they devolved into the fuck buddy route.

Additionally, not every ex became a fuck buddy; my husband never did. But the hottest relationships likely did.

So, no, I don't fuck people I cannot stand; that would be ludicrous.

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 4:47:38 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		fuckbuddies were fun when I was young and not looking for any kind of serious relationship.

But these days they just leave me cold and feeling distant. Does nothing at all for me.

Just make sure if you get involved with one you both are extremely clear about what it is...just fucking and there won't be anything more than that.

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 4:49:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Frankseas



Sounds like fun to me except for the STDs going around today! And is it going around in this style as well or not?
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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 7:54:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

"Fuck buddy" is not a new term in the gay world. I think a synonym in the straight world is "booty call."  Yes, straight "fuck buddies" are as described.  It's just that "fuck buddies" in the gay world covers both the booty call and the friend with privileges.  Summary: All men are pigs.  Put two in the same room and sex happening is a definite possiblity.  Just sayin'


"Fuck buddy" isn't a new term in the straight world, either. It's a lot more prevalent than "booty call", which was virtually never used in my neck of the woods, and has always been largely synonymous with "friend with privileges" (although a fuck buddy may be more fuck and less friend).

As to the Summary "All men are pigs. Put two in the same room and sex happening is a definite possibility", I'll agree with only a few reservations that all men are pigs. However, the second part must apply only to gays. One of the best ways to ensure that sex will NOT happen with me is to put me in the room with another man. It would be a lot more likely if you put me in a room by myself.

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 9:04:52 PM   
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I never used the term myself, but one day my then 12 year old daugther asked me: "Is she your fuck buddy, daddy?". I must say I was a litle stuck for words in that situation
one of those uncomfortable parental moments....wow!


LOL wow indeed. When a 12 year old asks that question....it may be a sign that its time to be a little more low key with the kinkiness...

Typically spoken as an American. I should invite you to watch some documentaries they had on the 16 + girls sexual habits which was run on national TV a short while ago. For those girls, having a fuck buddy was very natural. I did actually believe it was a minority until a short while ago where i had to go to Copenhagen (165 Km) and return late. My friends daugther at 19 asked me if she could come along and when i got there she had gathered 3 more friends for the evening. I did drop them off in the center and made a deal that they should be back at the same spot at 2 am. Well the return trip was extremely educational as those girls now had quite a bit of alcohol in their system and they were quite openly discussing things among them self. Well i can only say that the morale has changed a lot since i was their age.
I just think USA is like 30 years behind Europe when it comes to the sexual liberation and still under the influence of the "bible belt".
My daugther is now 14 and she doesn't know about my kinky side. But she is totally aware that i have sexual needs and actually welcome if i have a lady friend around. The sexual education in our schools and our media hides nothing what so ever. Besides if she asks questions of a sexual nature i would endeavour to answer them as factual and nonsensational as possible.

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RE: A "Fuck" Buddy?? - 1/24/2010 10:55:53 PM   
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