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How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immediate... - 1/24/2010 5:36:42 PM

Exploratorynfun

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Just curious of how punishment is handle for the rest of the subs.... Is punishment immediately following disobedience or disrespect? or is there lag time b/w the behavior and punishment?

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/24/2010 5:40:04 PM

littlewonder

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Either/or.

Depends on how busy he is, when we'll see each other again, the severity of what I've done, etc...

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/24/2010 5:42:58 PM

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If I was a sub and had a Master, I wouldn't pick one who couldn't wait until it was the appropriate time to deal with the issue, and depending on how he dealt with it, which could be right away or it could not be. Like for instance it would not be appropriate to deal with an issue that required spanking in public since that's absolutely a hard limit for me I don't do corporal punishment in public, but a quick scolding when no one is looking would be appropriate.

That was about as clear as mud I know but that's my answer.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/24/2010 5:43:48 PM

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It depends on what i've done, and where we are at the time. Sometimes, i have had to wait until we got home, at houses of kink minded friends, i was once taken into their Master bedroom and spanked, i could not sit down when we came back into the room and even though they were all kink minded, i was still embarrassed to the hilt.

Most of the time though, when we are out i get "that" look which tells me i'm in for it.

When we are at home, i am punished immediately.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/24/2010 6:29:20 PM

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None of the above. We talk the problem over.

In almost 8 years there has never been an instance where he might have spanked me that was not due to misunderstanding. Either him not making himself clear, or not remembering my schedule, or me not understanding what he meant.
We find it's more cost effective to sit down and talk it out.

Oh, attitude stuff. He pointed it out to me since I didn't recognize it and then asked me what's up. By having to pay attention to my inner state, I have discovered that usually this is because my blood sugar has dropped. And no amount of corporal punishment will stabilize that. Him saying we will pick up a sandwich or a water and some nuts however does fix it. As does me now keeping an eye on the time and realizing it's been four hours since I ate and I'll be dropping soon.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/24/2010 7:36:23 PM

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Immediate. My punishment is almost always not being allowed to masturbate and he will immediately tell me when I've done something "punishment-worthy" (which isn't often) that I won't be masturbating for a while. One time my punishment was having to write out what I did in detail and he needed to think a bit before he told me that that was what I had to do.

My boyfriend doesn't punish me for misunderstandings or stupid trumped up things, and punishment is never a substitute for talking about things that need to be discussed.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 5:14:05 AM

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I can honestly say I have never been disobedient or disrespectful to my Master. He has never punished me and I have never given Him reason to. I could not stand the horror of even being disappointing let alone being disobedient or disrespectful.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 6:05:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened

I can honestly say I have never been disobedient or disrespectful to my Master. He has never punished me and I have never given Him reason to. I could not stand the horror of even being disappointing let alone being disobedient or disrespectful.

I can't stand the horror of being disappointing! Beleive me, the few times I've screwed up, it was not on purpose (disobedience) or out of lack of respect. In all cases but one, it was me not thinking things through before acting; in the other case, it was poor time management.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 6:16:20 AM

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My slave and I don't have a reward/punishment dynamic. I'm not interested in that kind of relationship and neither is he. Just choose a slave who is willingly obedient, and the whole reward/punishment thing is unneccesary. He doesn't do things wrong on purpose. When he makes a mistake, he self-corrects just like me.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 7:01:30 AM

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On the few occasions where I've actually punished someone, the time between the action that deserved it and the actual punishment varied. Something like cheating on me received immediate action - the relationship was over. Somethings though, require thought and finding a method that corrects the actual problem, therefore a delay may occur. I consider that discipline and not punishment. I don't believe punishment solves much, I do believe that discussion and consequences for actions help restore balance.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 7:34:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

My slave and I don't have a reward/punishment dynamic. I'm not interested in that kind of relationship and neither is he. Just choose a slave who is willingly obedient, and the whole reward/punishment thing is unneccesary. He doesn't do things wrong on purpose. When he makes a mistake, he self-corrects just like me.

We do FUNishment. That's yummy.

This pretty much how we operate.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 7:49:05 AM

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I have earned very few punishments (two, and one correction) but I am told in advance that it is coming. He never gives a punishment when he is angry, and while I am in the position to accept the punishment he asks me if I understand why I am receiving it and has me review what I have done wrong. He makes sure that I have had time to think about it and to understand why my actions were inappropriate. There are times when I wish that the punishment would come sooner just to get it over with but the fact that he gives me time to think about it is actually part of the powerful impression that it leaves with me.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 8:02:50 AM

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I was punished once. He wanted me to do something and I put it off, and then off....you get the point. No other reason than I didn't want to do it. A week passed, then two with it still unfinished, so I got punished.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 8:46:16 AM

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wouldn't it also depend on the punishment?

say she was told to go sit in the car while he finished what ever he was doing, wouldn't that be punishment of an immediate kind that could be meted out in public?

or if it was a denial of some activity it could last for a specified time

i could think of other examples , but you get the point

ps. it would also depend on what your concept of punishment is and why it's administered

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 10:41:06 AM

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The only punishment i got was given our right away. Now a few times i have been displined some were given out right away others were given when he decided to give them to me. The waiting to see what he came up with was terrible, i would rather he gave it to me right away. So it depended on what i did.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 1:17:24 PM

Exploratorynfun

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I am still in the learning process and forget things at times and even after being reminded I sometimes forget. However my master sometimes disciplines immediately or can be delayed for 2 days, so wanted everyone else take on this and appreciate all the responses. His discipline usually consist of corner time or moderate spanking, what discipline does everyone else's master use and what types of misbehavior and such are you being discipined for?

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 2:05:42 PM

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For forgetfulness he now tells me to write it down. Because I am forgetful, ADD, and no amount of punishment will cure that. Fixing it by telling me to enter it into my day planner solves the problem.

"You didn't get chocolate chip cookies?"

"no, I forgot"

"Go write it down on the grocery list"

And thus it gets done. I'm a great believer in problem solving instead of just taking the easy way out by hitting someone or sending them to the corner which doesn't solve the problem for the next time and the time after that and so on.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 2:17:14 PM

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It all depends on where we are at the time of the incident, and which whom. Considering that all my Sire has to do is tell me how disappointed he is with me for whatever i did, most punishments are immediate. i try really hard not to be disobedient. If there is more to the punishment than that, then it is usually postponed until physical discipline can be handed out. He would then wait a day so i could think of what i have done wrong, which in itself is punishment enough.

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 2:51:52 PM

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Sundays is my Masters spanking day , for punishment . The other days any spankings i get are for His pleasure

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RE: How does your Master handle punishment? Is it immed... - 1/25/2010 2:57:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

For forgetfulness he now tells me to write it down. Because I am forgetful, ADD, and no amount of punishment will cure that. Fixing it by telling me to enter it into my day planner solves the problem.

"You didn't get chocolate chip cookies?"

"no, I forgot"

"Go write it down on the grocery list"

And thus it gets done. I'm a great believer in problem solving instead of just taking the easy way out by hitting someone or sending them to the corner which doesn't solve the problem for the next time and the time after that and so on.

It's not the *easy way out*...it's the method that works most efficiently for that person.

What works for you wouldn't work for me. And vice versa. It's a little short-sighted to suggest that being hit is the *easy way out*.

agirl

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