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Talking - 3/24/2006 4:22:48 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Now this is for those who do not have any speech restrictions.  My Master and i always have something to talk about.  I was wondering do any slaves./sub ever run out of things to talk to their Dom/Master about.  I am not talking about just bdsm i am talking just things life in general.

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 4:52:13 PM   
Evanesce


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quote:

Now this is for those who do not have any speech restrictions.  My Master and i always have something to talk about.  I was wondering do any slaves./sub ever run out of things to talk to their Dom/Master about.  I am not talking about just bdsm i am talking just things life in general.


Never.  We've always got something to talk about.  In fact, when we go on vacation (we drive everywhere), we don't even bother turning on the radio.  We'll talk about billboards we see, or interesting buildings, or something we heard on tv or the radio earlier in the week, or what we'd like to do with the house, or classes we'd like to take, or books we've read, and the list is simply endless. 

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 5:03:54 PM   
ChainedExistence


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Status: offline 		A Dom who is a good conversationalist is one to be treasured! Some of my happiest moments are when we sit around having conversations about anything and everything. Our basic beliefs are similar, but different enough that we can get into a spirited debate at times. Besides...sometimes I really like the way he wins the point! (Maybe all the politicians would behave better if they knew they'd end up over someone's knee!)

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 8:53:24 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		To the OP..IMO..sometimes conversation could lag simply beacause of much time spent in one anothers company.However you may try talking about all sorts of subjects,ie: politics,religion,current events,a book you are reading etc.ask him how he feels about said subjects..or touch upon a passion of his..But do not dis the silences either ..sometimes it is simply a  nice comfortable silence,an awareness of one another, an unspoken commaraderie.You can even reach out your hand and caress his hand,a quiet touch is heart warming as well.But to go back to the conversation difficulty..ask his opinion..that makes him aware that you value what he says and that may contribute to a discussion coming forth....be well..tempting

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 8:57:04 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		I also forgot to state that all relationships take a bit of effort sometimes.My mother once equalled it to a job, the more effort put forth the more it is recognised and returned.And shoot she has been married for 55 years and my father still thinks shes one hot cutie patootey!..(his words)..LOL...be well..Tempting

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 9:29:10 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Sure, when you just saw them the day before, you go to work and it's a boring day and you come home and nothing new has happened...you can have not much to say to eachother.

But there's always plans to be making, for next week, next month, next dinner, there's always possibilities to discuss, there's always old stories to retell, and more.

I find it gets harder to talk about things when it's a LDR and most communication is done through the phone.  WHen you're actually together, not only does conversation flow more naturally and constantly, but life constantly throws you new material to work with and connect to.

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 9:50:53 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		As Master is pretty much deaf (70% hearing loss) its hard for us to have deep and meaningful conversations spoken verbally but we still do from time to time, if it gets too hard we start a chat and type to each other.
Master has lots of stories to tell, so I love just sitting and listening to him as well, a way in which I dont really have to put much verbal input in.
As far as everyday communication goes, we talk about whats for dinner, work, future plans, personal projects, our dog, what needs fixing around the house, the movie we just watched etc etc etc

Just had a thought: Was just thinking that when a relationship is new, there is always so much to talk about because you are getting to know each other, depending on how old each of you are there is going to be that amount of years to catch up on, filling each other in on your life experiences etc. There is going to come a time, when everything has been told, thats a transitional phase, thats the time when you relax with each other and just enjoy the day as it is, talking about the little things, responding to situations as they arise etc..its a kinda settling period.

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 10:02:30 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

Now this is for those who do not have any speech restrictions.  My Master and i always have something to talk about.  I was wondering do any slaves./sub ever run out of things to talk to their Dom/Master about.  I am not talking about just bdsm i am talking just things life in general.

Matt's littleone


Himself and I have spent almost 10 years together ... and the conversations we have together are just a deep and meaningful as they were in the beginning.. if not more so. We talk, literally, every day about everything from astronomy to zoology.  Yep, A to Z. :)

Celeste

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 10:10:31 PM   
Sirandlittle1


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Status: offline 		For us, there is always something to talk about. We tend not to watch telly, as it interupts us too much. Although we live together, we actually get very little time. So im always hungry to get into the conversation ive missed. i also write to him still.
We have gained two dogs, one each. And are enjoying nurturing them, into decently behaved lovely hounds. We each train differently, lately, we talk about the dogs a lot. And how my dog is the Dom lol and his is the sub. You gotta love a bit of parodox.
And yes, the silences are golden too. (can i say that?)
littleone

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 10:27:27 PM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		We just celebrated our 7th year as a couple a few week's back.  Haven't ran out of things to say yet.  Hopefully we never will.

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 10:53:58 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		We go out to breakfast most mornings and that's when we do most of our talking, no distractions. We seldom run out of things to say, but a lot of the talk is about his business.

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RE: Talking - 3/24/2006 10:58:44 PM   
nslut4whtmaster


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Status: offline 		Sometimes i find myself running out of things out of a need to make conversation. Master just listens to me as i talk but then i began to feel that i am talking too much but He says that is finem He likes when i talk. Master and i, do have some good conversations but W/we do have periods of silence as well. i have learned to enjoy those times as well.

peace and respect,
ns

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RE: Talking - 3/26/2006 9:19:10 AM   
ropesubby39


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Status: offline 		My Dom and I do talk about different things, not only bdsm.  We never ran out of topics to talk about, especially me, i like to yack yack away.  At least i do have to consider myself lucky and others who have the chance to communicate well with their Master/Mistress, Dom/Domme. I do know a few subs that there's practically no communication with their Doms.



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RE: Talking - 3/26/2006 12:00:51 PM   
Sensualips


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Status: offline 		I find my conversation skills are very hit and miss on the phone.  Sometimes we will have much to discuss and will really connect.  Other times it is a forced conversation with little to say beyond checking in.  Like Tross, face to face is much more continual with so much more immediate feedback and interplay.

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RE: Talking - 3/26/2006 12:43:50 PM   
cloudboy


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ORIGINAL: Sensualips

I find my conversation skills are very hit and miss on the phone. Sometimes we will have much to discuss and will really connect. Other times it is a forced conversation with little to say beyond checking in. Like Tross, face to face is much more continual with so much more immediate feedback and interplay.


Its funny how that GODDAM phone can be intimacy's greatest enemy. On one level, that's exacty what a phone is, its a symbol of who is NOT beside you. Right now I think it could be very satisfying to smash a phone into little bits with a sledge hammer --- it might offer some fleeting catharsis for when it rings, doesn't ring, or does/doesn't put you in touch with whom you are trying to call.

< Message edited by cloudboy -- 3/26/2006 12:47:13 PM >

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RE: Talking - 3/26/2006 12:47:52 PM   
subtoFemDommes


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Status: offline 		 I find it interesting that so far, all of the respondents are female. 
 
No one ever accused me of not having enough to say (although I've found that when accused, it's best to say less ) but if if Mistress didn't enjoy that, or equal it with Her own observations and input, i don't think O/our relationship would have ever evolved to the point it has.  For U/us, communication is the crux of the relationship and all of the interest, curiosity and humor shared, fuels it all the more.

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ORIGINAL: Sensualips
I find my conversation skills are very hit and miss on the phone. 
This however, is sometimes true for me as well; when discussing very emotional issues, where eye contact and touch can convey a lot, or bring comfort, I find it much easier to delve into or resolve things that are tearing at me.  On the phone, I frequently find myself at an impasse, and feel it's not all that beneficial to stick with the conversation as the things that will resolve it aren't going to necessarily take place in that limited mode of communication.

Edited to add: Sorry Cloudboy, you weren't there when I last looked.

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RE: Talking - 3/26/2006 1:17:57 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		But I will add that My boy does one of two things that I am so pleased about--if W/we are chatting and its an issue he needs to hear My voice about, he stops and we talk--if it is something he needs My touch and feel, he saves those topics for when we are together---so truly we may have time in between, but we still talk things through.

< Message edited by MHOO314 -- 3/26/2006 1:18:44 PM >

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RE: Talking - 3/26/2006 1:19:11 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		All these posts about the phone being a communication barrier, made me laugh and think about the 2nd time Master & i were face to face.  Ours is a "sort of long distance" relationship (2 hours apart) so phone and IM and email are our main methods of communication.  i recall this particular visit we went to breakfast and i was sooooo painfully shy i could not think of a thing to say, and replied to him with simple and short answers.  He recognized this and was quietly amused by it.  He decided to keep me busy by slipping off his shoe and resting his foot on my lap for a foot massage while he ate.  i appreciated that!

i just found it funny that with electronic devices i could yap his ear off, but in his presence i was quiet as a mouse (was, being the operative word, although if i suspect his thoughts are elsewhere i am quiet unless spoken to).

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RE: Talking - 3/26/2006 7:27:40 PM   
cloudboy


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