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smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 10:55:08 AM)

No I dont think it unmanly, i have no problem with that, it has come naturally to me my entire life but never new it until recently, but i have found very few woman think the same way as you



Lockit -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 10:56:36 AM)

Well... you just met a number of them! lol



smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:01:23 AM)

Yes that is True, but I wont find them at the local foodmart or even watering hole.



Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:04:24 AM)

Sure you will. We inhabit all sorts of places. I do a lot of grocery shopping since I'm without someone to do that sort of stuff for me at the moment...lol. We just don't wear signs such as "bow to me now!" But, we are there.



smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:04:53 AM)

Yes many guys like strong assertive women but there is a differance between stong and dominant no?



LadyAngelika -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:06:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: smothrme

Yes many guys like strong assertive women but there is a differance between stong and dominant no?


All dominant women are strong and assertive but not all strong and assertive women are dominant, no.

Welcome to the boards here and hold on to your hat. Real life dominant women are nothing like you saw in fantasy porn ;-)

- LA



Lockit -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:08:09 AM)

A difference between strong and dominant? Humm... depends on how you view those words or what meaning you put to them. What do they mean to you?

I am a strong and dominant person. I have inner strength that makes me strong. My dominant personality is charactorized by my inner strength. The two blend for me.

There are some that act dominant and have little charactor or personal strength. Some dominate through weakness. So the two don't always go hand in hand.



smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:10:18 AM)

Ok, but for me it is a horse race, you no you pick what you think to be a winner and she doesnt get out of the gate.
sorry bout the horse analogy lol



smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:12:45 AM)

I think see what you are saying the key word would be act, right



smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:14:43 AM)

ok holding onto my hat, but yes real would be nice



CarrieO -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:15:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: smothrme

Yes that is True, but I wont find them at the local foodmart or even watering hole.



Maybe.  Also look at your local library, thrift store, coffee shop, hospital, yoga class, gym, farmers market....pretty much everywhere. 
 
Just because a woman is strong and assertive doesn't mean she'll be loud, bossy, bitchy or lounging on the couch eating bonbons. Although, I'd love a chance to do that last one every once in a while [;)]



smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:17:06 AM)

now that is an idea, signs. would make my life easier



Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:17:26 AM)

There are places you can go where you will find a good many women who identify as dominant, such as munches and bdsm events. While you may not find the one of your dreams at those events, you will encounter them more frequently than say at the laundromat.

However, there are also ways to find out if a woman has any interests in domination before you become too emotionally invested in her also. When you do meet a woman who you are attracted to, it probably wouldn't be a good idea to instantly ask, "Are you a domme?"...lol. But, after a few conversations, dates, what-have-you, it likely wouldn't be inappropriate to discuss relationship tendencies. Such as "Which type of person do you get along with most, one who takes the lead or one who follows?" Those types of probing questions can bring about further discussion and can allow you to assess if she is a match for you.



smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:19:00 AM)

i have been every where except amazon



smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:23:58 AM)

so you are saying i should not drop to ny knees in front of .............lets say a police woman and grovel, ok point taken.
though i have to admit i have been tempted must be the uniform.



LadyAngelika -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:25:15 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: smothrme

so you are saying i should not drop to ny knees in front of .............lets say a police woman and grovel, ok point taken.
though i have to admit i have been tempted must be the uniform.


No. You'll get nowehere with a woman if you impose your kink on her.

- LA



Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:27:53 AM)

Some women do wear subtle signs. I have a tiny pair of handcuffs on my keychain (smaller than thumbcuffs), and I am sometimes found wearing a key on my necklace. The key belongs to a chastity device that I use on ocassion and I only wear the key when it is actually in use. But, there are other symbols too that you can look for. Some people enjoy the symbol that looks like a yin-yang sign but with 3 sections instead of two (I can't remember what it's called, tryskel?), some leather folk use a 'hanky system'. Not everyone uses these symbols, but if you do happen to see it, you could always inquire as to its significance.



EFT
Edited again because I don't wear the padlock...lol...that is in use, I wear the key (gawd I need caffeine!)



smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:29:02 AM)

Yes it makes perfct sense, and what i have come to realize



smothrme -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:31:53 AM)

thanks,



Lockit -> RE: Do you get turned off by Male subs, getting excited by your own power only? (1/25/2010 11:33:56 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: smothrme

Ok, but for me it is a horse race, you no you pick what you think to be a winner and she doesnt get out of the gate.
sorry bout the horse analogy lol


Well... before you bet money on the horse... get to know the horse.



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