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Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 6:27:58 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		This is not a rant nor a complaint against emails or players----its just something I'm curious about on a Saturday morning---fairly regularly I get at least one email from a Dom, who has decided to "tell the little girlie" that She is misguided and really needs a good f*&^ to straighten out Her misguided thoughts on who is really dominant--the latest one seems to feel that I need to go to war to straighten Me out--LOL--the point is, I know Myself and My peer Sisters get those emails fairly often, but Doms/Masters, do you get  emails that challenge or attack you  as well by Dommes/Mistress'?
 
Inquiring minds want to know...

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 6:46:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		Nope. I feel that if someone has to do such, they're just alittle too insecure. I mean really, what does a Domme care about my dominance? Why should I care about a Domme's dominance. As long as we're not trying to top one another, who cares.

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 6:56:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Nope, I've had nothing of the like. Folks who send such out of the blue IMO are saying more about their own insecuritys and lack of brain matter.

Certainly there ARE people on this site who, whilst they have a right to wear whatever lable they want to, I don't particularly respect their use of it when refering to themselves (I have somewhat high expectation of those who would lable themselves Dom/me).... but so long as they aren't in my way (A bit difficult for someone to get properly 'in your way' in a virtual medium!) then I can simply ignore them. Why waste the effort in futilely trying to tear them down?  Especialy when that time and effort can be better spent enjoying interacting with those folks whom I DO respect


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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 7:02:30 AM   
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There's an old saying: If you love someone, set them free.
If they come back to you, they are yours.
If they do not, hunt them down, stalk them and hope that they panic and give in.

 
Now THAT is priceless!



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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 7:14:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		i want one of those letters from a subbie :(

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 7:20:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Glad you liked it, Ms. Hathor.

I know you're thinking of this guy (the one who wrote you) and others like him as just an annoyance. And they are. Just remember that a new, fresh Dom/me(s) have to get confidence from somewhere. Eventually they'll learn.

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 7:32:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		It happens occasionally.  Either it's a "you can't be John Warren" type thing or "even though you wrote a book you aren't so great" (I just dryly point out there are five books) rant. 

I don't let it bother me.  The anonymous nature of the web brings out the worst in a certain kind of person.

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 7:54:58 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

but Doms/Masters, do you get  emails that challenge or attack you  as well by Dommes/Mistress'?
 
Inquiring minds want to know...


I think the most common one I get is from SAMs (Smart-Assed-Masochists) who feel as though they can goad me into beating their ass...or setting them straight.  For some reason they seem to have profiles that read, "No-limits, natural-born slave who just lives to serve..."

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 7:56:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		I can't say as I have ever received one of those emails. If I did, I would chalk it up as going with the territory of a public or even semi-public profile. The more people who know what you do, the more people who are going to express an opinion about it. Some will do it to your face and others will do it behind your back. I agree with John Warren in that the web attracts the all sorts from all around the planet.

 

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 8:20:07 AM   
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I thought those emails were between us, :)  . 

Can't say I have ever gotten any email like that nor can I understand why someone would sent it.  Idiots abound and some just get their fun by goading others. 

I ws once called an idiot and an ass by somone who offered to show me how to use and train my little one after I pointed out I wasn't interested in advice from people hiding inside of blank profiles.  Does that count?

K

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 9:24:58 AM   
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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 9:27:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		As a Female Master, I've never sent such an email. Those that do, most likely have an inferiority complex and are just looking to "prove" themselves. Or, they're just being malicious and trying to see what kind of trouble they can stir up. Now, I have sent some sub/slave emails that COULD be seen as challenges...mainly asking them some question(s) that try to make them look inside and think. But, they're not designed to be rude or power struggles.

I have received them, however, from male Doms and subs alike. Most are along the lines of basic insults about my looks or the content of my profile. Others are along the lines of "you haven't found the right man yet". I just ignore them. And, I would simply not rise to the bait of a challenge.

Fire


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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 9:28:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Gee, I thought the "you just need a good f%&#" line was usually hurled at lesbians.  I guess desperate males use it on any female who dares assert she won't have sex with them.  My reply as a Domme would be, "Yes, and that's why I'm having a slave I've carefully trained come over tonight and do it just the way I like it.  Maybe I'd let you watch and learn if you weren't so cocky and abrasive."

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 11:19:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		MH i know your question was to other Dominants but i did want to slip a little comment in here if you don't mind...and that is, submissives are also challenged by other submissives.  It's either, "you're not really submissive," or "you are just showing off," or "you're kissing up to the Dominants." or any other such combination.  i find it an unfortunate reflection within a community that should be supporting each other and striving for higher knowledge and growth.  But i suppose insecurities are abound in any genre, and people do the best we can. i can imagine those who are switches get the most of it (from what i have heard) because they get it from both sides.  The few times i have been lobbed such allegations, they bounced off of me since i know better, but it is a shame that others resort to attempting to hurt others, in any situation.  All you can do is wish them well and hope they find happiness and understanding within themselves.

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 12:10:30 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314
fairly regularly I get at least one email from a Dom, who has decided to "tell the little girlie" that She is misguided and really needs a good f*&^ to straighten out

This is like all the guys that tell lesbians that all they need is a good man, or women who think they can turn a gay man straight, or...ad nauseum.

People will say what they want, believe what they want, in order to get their way, or simply because their world is just too small to comprehend that vast variations there are in the human landscape...

But, you know all this...I'm just typing to hear myself talk. LOL

Cin

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 12:13:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam
Most are along the lines of basic insults about my looks or the content of my profile.

For the record, your photos are gorgeous. Some people just have no taste, I guess. ::shrugging shoulders::

Cin

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 12:14:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		What drives me nuts is that regardless of how I am speaking to a Dom (male), whether it is email, phone, chat room, or in person... 90% of the time they bring up me switching to be a sub to them. Can someone please tell me why, just because I'm a female, does that mean I have any desires to submit to a man? No - not every female needs to be control, commanded, or dominated by a male. When they find out I'm a lesbian that just seems to add fuel to the fire and now they somehow feel the race is on to really break me down. What the hell is up with that? Dommes (regardless of sexuality) don't do it to men so stop doing it to us.

MJ


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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 12:32:57 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Yep, its the "all you need is a good f*&^ little girl" and you'll straighten out!--- This Dom I was just talking about even had the audacity to call My boy a sissy! 
 
So yes ownedgirlie---the guys get it too---smiles.

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 12:35:17 PM   
MHOO314


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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

MH, 
I thought those emails were between us, :)  . 

Can't say I have ever gotten any email like that nor can I understand why someone would sent it.  Idiots abound and some just get their fun by goading others. 

I ws once called an idiot and an ass by somone who offered to show me how to use and train my little one after I pointed out I wasn't interested in advice from people hiding inside of blank profiles.  Does that count?

K


ROTFL, that was You??? Well I did fine until you told Me until I lived with death everyday I didn't have any balls!
 
btw everyone, My emails were NOT fron PlayfulOne--He and I are good email buds!

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RE: Do you get challenged? - 3/25/2006 4:44:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren
It happens occasionally.  Either it's a "you can't be John Warren"

*Grins*
Well, if you're not John Warren then you better watch out, when the real John Warren gets here he will kick your ass 'cuz he's a Dom!

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