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How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 3:54:46 AM   
mastersslut69


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Status: offline 		When I am out with my Master, I want to be submissive to him and I was wondering if you'd have any suggestions how we can subtly achieve this. How do you show to your master when you are out that you respect him in public and not just behind closed doors?

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 3:58:11 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		By being the human being he wants you to be. Reflecting the values he holds dear. By not bringing shame on him by behaving poorly. Give people a reason to compliment on you to him rather than pity him or wonder what the fuck he was thinking.

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 4:01:33 AM   
Elizabeth666


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Status: offline 		Totally agree ^^^^^^^^^

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 5:04:43 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		You're asking two things - how to be submissive to him and how to show respect toward him.  As the women above noted, you can show him respect in entirely vanilla ways.

As far as being submissive to him in public, I suggest wearing a piece of jewelry, a bracelet, necklace, or ankle bracelet that is vanilla appearing but serves the same function as a collar - to signify that you belong to him.

Plus simply having him give you orders in a vanilla way - "I'm going to go to the dairy section of the supermarket.  You go to the produce section and buy carrots, celery, and lettuce.  Then meet me in Dairy."

< Message edited by DarkSteven -- 1/29/2010 5:05:15 AM >

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 5:32:41 AM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Wear kneepads so that when you are crawling the obligatory ten paces behind him your knees don't get all scraped and your stockings don't get holes.
Or...just do what he says and be pleasant company.

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 5:47:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Wear kneepads so that when you are crawling the obligatory ten paces behind him your knees don't get all scraped and your stockings don't get holes.
Or...just do what he says and be pleasant company.


I vote for A. 
 
And keep your eyes lowered.

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 6:20:54 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Wear kneepads so that when you are crawling the obligatory ten paces behind him your knees don't get all scraped and your stockings don't get holes.
Or...just do what he says and be pleasant company.


Aileen, a REAL submissive would proudly show off her knee scrapes and stocking holes.

I'm just sayin'.  That is not a comment on your alleged submissiveness in any way.

Ya fake.


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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 6:46:56 AM   
redwoodgirl


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Status: offline 		lol! Steven ;)

I used to walk one step behind my Doms left shoulder and
would do little things like butter his bread for him at dinner,
get his drink or coffee for him, light his cigarette. He loved it
and strangers thought i was mommying him

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 7:31:57 AM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Wear kneepads so that when you are crawling the obligatory ten paces behind him your knees don't get all scraped and your stockings don't get holes.
Or...just do what he says and be pleasant company.


Aileen, a REAL submissive would proudly show off her knee scrapes and stocking holes.

I'm just sayin'.  That is not a comment on your alleged submissiveness in any way.

Ya fake.



Those stockings become fucking expensive when they are a one shot deal...

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 7:43:42 AM   
LanceHughes


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Status: offline 		"Kneeing pads" in the gay Leather scene are called "San Fran Slippers" - you figure it out. LOL!

Male sub/slave buttering my bread can hardly be considered Mommying. Chain collar with lock works for me.  And others in the Leather community get it instantly.  Others? Who cares.  I like Dark Steven's suggestion.

Once upon a time, tried a humiliation scene by having boy on leash - skippy clothes - at the Mall.  We were approached by Security who said "That seems to fall under our guidelines for inappropriate clothing.  Please come back after you've changed."  Took off leash in parking lot, re-entered and viola, no problem with skippy clothes - string tank top, short shorts and collar.  I'm sure bare chest and thong would not have been acceptable, so I didn't try.

I'm saying you can push pretty far nowadays..... bold leather collars are so much a fashion statement amongst goths that it almost doesn't matter if you're wearing one. Tattoos are a dime-a-dozen and used to MEAN something.  Oh, I miss the days of excitement......  There was once a line, not oft heard anymore: "Don't scare the horses in the street."  Very Victorian..... hard to scare the horses in the street when there aren't any. LOL!

Same sex couples are seen with PDAs (Public Displays of Affection) so go for it.  Just the fact that I have to type out what a PDA is tells us that PDAs aren't the big thing they were 30 or 40 years ago.

You want to be subtle?  Take the most outrageous thing you can imagine and back it off until you two are comfortable with it.  For example: <heavy leather collar and leash> translates for me and one of my all time hottest boys into <Chain collar with lock shown slightly under polo shirt and boy gets to link his right index finger in my left belt loop> Never a comment, only a odd look, which we took for: "Oh, there's a crowd and they don't want to get separated."

Contrary to all these "outward and visible signs of the inward and spiritual grace" (thank you, Episcopalian cathecism) we (hot boy) and I once walked into a restaurant in full-tilt business suits to meet a Leather stranger brought there by his host who had just picked stranger up from airport.  Our comportment and boy's physical bearing made it clear just who was whom......  Google the word "gravitas" for your Master's part.  Google "deferential" for yours. LOL!

Short and sweet: Whatever your Master decrees, and ALWAYS have fun!!!

Regards, Lance (who shortly turns 60 years old and who has not wasted his more than 25 years in the scene by worring about how to be "subtle". LOL!)





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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 7:45:40 AM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Wear kneepads so that when you are crawling the obligatory ten paces behind him your knees don't get all scraped and your stockings don't get holes.
Or...just do what he says and be pleasant company.


Aileen, a REAL submissive would proudly show off her knee scrapes and stocking holes.

I'm just sayin'.  That is not a comment on your alleged submissiveness in any way.

Ya fake.



Those stockings become fucking expensive when they are a one shot deal...
Not to mention all that crawling ruins the toes of your shoes. And that's just abuse.

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 7:46:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

"Kneeing pads" in the gay Leather scene are called "San Fran Slippers" - you figure it out. LOL!



Steven knew this.

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 7:54:12 AM   
LanceHughes


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Wear kneepads so that when you are crawling the obligatory ten paces behind him your knees don't get all scraped and your stockings don't get holes.
Or...just do what he says and be pleasant company.


Aileen, a REAL submissive would proudly show off her knee scrapes and stocking holes.

I'm just sayin'.  That is not a comment on your alleged submissiveness in any way.

Ya fake.



Those stockings become fucking expensive when they are a one shot deal...
Not to mention all that crawling ruins the toes of your shoes. And that's just abuse.


Shoes?  Who said shoes were allowed?  You need the friction of bare toes to keep you moving'

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 8:15:43 AM   
mastersslut69


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Status: offline 		Thankyou for all your comments. My Master is buying me a charm bracelet to wear as a symbol of his ownership as I can't wear a collar outside the house but he wants me to wear something and I want it more than anything... He is going to put charms on it like a padlock and a pair of high heels which will have a meaning to us. The padlock will symbolise his ownership of me....

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 8:25:55 AM   
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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 11:17:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mastersslut69

When I am out with my Master, I want to be submissive to him and I was wondering if you'd have any suggestions how we can subtly achieve this. How do you show to your master when you are out that you respect him in public and not just behind closed doors?



If you're my girl, you do it by multi-tasking.... In public, it's probably more about what you don't do - which still involves rules and discipline.

You do NOT draw public attention to our personal dynamic by calling me "Sir" (for eg); we're equals and I have a name, remember it. But I still expect you to know who's boss, esp my loathing for repeating myself. You also don't just go wandering off without checking with me. If we're mingling with friends, know I'll still be keeping a regular eye on you (and esp your behaviour) so again, you be where I can see you or check in if you're intending to leave my sight for more than a minute or three.

Finally, *everything* is subjective to the situation and I mostly expect you to use your own intelligence and horse sense - and just ask if you're not sure (sooooo much simpler than explaining later).

Focus.

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 11:50:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		If you're eating out someplace where they leave the coffee pot on the table, make sure his cup stays full, hot and perfectly creamed and sugared if he takes it that way. Make sure he has enough napkins. If he wants to order for you, let him.

If he wants to pick up the check, let him.

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 12:44:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just ask him what he'd like for you to do, and then do that. No need to over-complicate things.

So much simpler to just do as you're told instead of trying to guess what might please him. He might want you to butter his bread, or, he might be in a mood for you to sit still, be quiet, drink your wine, and look pretty, while he butters his own bread and considers what he's going to do to you later behind closed doors.

Follow his lead, do as you're told, be polite to all, and ready for whatever he wants. It's a lot more fun than trying to read his mind, trust me.......



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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 1:36:15 PM   
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Just ask him what he'd like for you to do, and then do that. No need to over-complicate things.


This.

Kim is simply thoughtful and sweet- if we are at a party, she asks if I need a refill, or when there is a buffet, she offers to get my plate. At a restaurant I order for her, only because I know her so well.

Having a submissive is pleasing because we enjoy having our needs taken care of- but everyone's needs are different, and they change often.

So just ask him, and if he doesn't provide much guidance, just be thoughtful and pleasant company.

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RE: How to be submissive in public to Master - 1/29/2010 2:03:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		We aren't even officially a couple but. We have our own private things while in public. If we are near steps, he always stands on a lower step so that I am higher than he is. Nobody but us knows. Also, I touch his hair a lot, which is my way of telling him I am pleased with him, again nobody knows. At dinner I will put my foot into his lap so that he can rub it.. nobody sees.

There are a lot of little private yet very public things you can do that nobody is the wiser to. Simple things that mean something only to the two of you while you enjoy your power dynamic. It is really fun to talk about what some of these simple behaviors mean to the two of you too.


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