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BreathandStone -> RE: Getting letdown (1/30/2010 2:27:12 PM)
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ORIGINAL: biron
I've had maybe 5 or 6 people say "oooh!I've always wanted to do that to a man!" and have then said they are up for it.But when it comes down to it they chicken out.
I know someone else who had this happen with women that he played casually with. I was the first girl to take him in that particular manner. (And it was good, and he was a gentleman about it.) If your partners have never done it before, it doesn't surprise me that some of them backed down. For someone who is squeamish, I could see anal sex being more appealing in theory than in practice. And before I actually used a strap-on for the first time, I was very worried about the mechanics of it - it's actually much more natural and less awkward than I had expected.
So, if people that you're actively playing with or sexually involved with are expressing enthusiasm and then backing out, it might not be a bad idea to find out why. Gently, with empathy, and in a way that doesn't pressure them into doing something that they don't want to do. You might be able to address their concerns with, for example, an enema, or reassuring them that you don't expect perfect buttfucking form.
If you haven't actually met the people who you say are "chickening out," that's a whole different story.
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