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Tribute - 1/30/2010 5:51:35 PM   
MzBree


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Status: offline 		      I would like for other Mz to tell me what you think of tribute?  I had a sub throw a fit over this.  "My Pain should be my payment if you was a real Domme"
    In my opion, especially if you have married subs, where you are no getting full attention , The Mz is first gonna have more than one sub therefore more like sessions than real time....I'm I wrong?   I want to know what you all think.

Also he said he couldnt believe that a sub gave me 100 tribute at an interview, seeing I was 325 lbs, if he paid 100 it would be for...he listed several sexy model types, and couldnt believe I was insulted
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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 6:17:23 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Well, you're entitled to conduct professional dominatrix sessions if that's what you want to do.  However, a lot of men will not be interested in purchasing your services and will take offense if you don't state up front in your profile that you are a pro.  If you pull out the issue of tribute later, after implying that you're looking for a relationship, it's generally considered a "bait and switch" tactic.  Bait and switch is a shady practice and most people won't have a lot of sympathy for you if this is what you're doing.  However, you don't specify if you're being up front or not.
 
It's important to note that not all dominant women have an issue with initiating a non-professional relationship with a sub who is married or involved in another relationship as long as all the partners are aware of the situation and comfortable with it.  There are some who don't have an issue with casual play that doesn't involve any relationship at all past the length of the event at which she is topping.  So I don't think it's unreasonable for a man to expect a mutually enjoyable, non-professional situation.
 
You have the right to do whatever works for you, but don't be surprised if there are a significant number of people who are put off by your practices.  Deal with it, and find someone more compatible next time.

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 6:17:50 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		Tribute is fine as long as you both agree to it beforehand, and are very candid and specific in the negotiation process so that you both know what to expect.

Were you careful to disclose your weight/appearance well in advance? 


Edit after perving your profile: I see you have a pic up, and have apparently just changed your text to make it very plain that you expect tribute. This should go a long way toward preventing misunderstandings.



< Message edited by dreamerdreaming -- 1/30/2010 6:24:39 PM >

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 6:26:41 PM   
DommeMae


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Status: offline 		What kind o' pain you taking about? M?

That would be true if she were into him like that. She's not. She needs something to motivate her to do something she really has no or little interest in doing at that time.

""My Pain should be my payment if you was a real Domme""

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 6:29:10 PM   
RedMagic1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DommeMae
""My Pain should be my payment if you was a real Domme""

That makes as much sense as, "My hard cock should be dinner and movie enough for you, if you were a real vanilla woman."


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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 6:37:47 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Exactly what does having more than one sub, or a married sub, have to do with tribute?

Look, if you're a findomme, be one.  If you're a pro, be a professional.  All most people ask is that you tell them the truth of what it is that you will be in their experience.

I happen to be one of those lifestyle Dommes who tops strictly for the enjoyment of it.  I'm very straight up about the difference between subs and bottoms.  If someone can't do that, they have more on their plate than what I can answer.


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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 6:56:32 PM   
LadyDelilahDeb


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Status: offline 		Tribute gifted is one thing. Pro domination is another. I have an occasional bottom with a specific fetish who chooses to offer tribute to get his itch scratched. We don't have a relationship except in the overlap of his interest in a specific sort of sexual pain that he doesn't get handled in his permanent relationship.

On the other hand, I have long-term relationships with two different subs, both of whom are married and have permission to satisfy their kinky urges outside the home. And both of those subs gift me service and sometimes goods or meals…of their own volition.

I have a friend who is a sex worker, and chooses not to step over into pro domination because she chooses to keep her kinky interests for her personal satisfaction. In the same vein, I'm familiar with a local pro domina who dominates but does not do sex work. The two professions are separate, and valuably so. (Not to mention that legal issues make the two professions necessarily separate; sometimes to the frustration of both providers and clients.)

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 7:34:59 PM   
MzBree


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Status: offline 		      The only thing I altered on my profile was about tribute, my weight and pic has been there all the time asking for tribute was there with no specs.  I put them there now.  

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 7:36:44 PM   
MzBree


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Status: offline 		I have an occasional bottom with a specific fetish who chooses to offer tribute to get his itch scratched. We don't have a relationship except in the overlap of his interest in a specific sort of sexual pain that he doesn't get handled in his permanent relationship.  and this is the kind of people I am looking for

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 7:41:47 PM   
MzBree


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Status: offline 		Bottom hes a dom in disguise, I told him to find a slave girl to dom him its the only what he will get what he whats or bottoming, I dont play well with either

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 7:59:11 PM   
DommeMae


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: DommeMae
""My Pain should be my payment if you was a real Domme""

That makes as much sense as, "My hard cock should be dinner and movie enough for you, if you were a real vanilla woman."




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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 8:14:45 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		The bait and switch dominants are the ones who caused me to finally just stop looking. I get tons and tons of emails constantly from wannabe professionals who are only looking to make a quick buck (you know them because they're the ones that email you just because you signed onto collarme and send you that email without ever looking at your profile so you know they're blanketing the boards by trying to catch business anyway they can). The ones that really got on my nerves were the ones who contacted me, stating they were interested in my profile (and me), and then after a bunch of conversations they finally reveal that future interaction is going to cost money somehow. Oh, they always make it out as some kind of "I do this to weed out the insincere ones" or whatever. I ignore and then go on with my life.

Unfortunately, it's been so overwhelming on these boards that I take almost any contact of a personal message as a likely money seeker because that seems to be all that I get. Unfortunate, but what can you do?

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 8:21:33 PM   
pyroaquatic


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Status: offline 		That depends on the cock, RedMagic.

A Cock made of gold would be a worthy tribute indeed.


This speak of bait and switch...

"Add me im blahblahblah on yahoots. i tink wed be reely compatibaly."

"But, you have not even looked at my profile."

*you haz a profile view!*

"Are you serious!? Your supposed to be a Domme?!"

*block messages from sender*

Done.


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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 8:36:31 PM   
MargueriteV


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Status: offline 		I'm  going to cut and paste a journal entry I wrote about tributes and my opinion of them, the entries were made sorta in response to a bunch of negative opinions.

1/4/2010 4:05:23 AM  WTF is up with the sexist, and narrow minded comments about tributes?!?!
Dominants no matter their gender, sex, or profession can ask for/accept/encourage/demanded tribute.


Some submissives call their dom/me 'lord/lady/god/goddess/king/queen', guess what those titles got things from the people that served them.

I personally value the tributes that my pets give me, and I have positive feelings when I give tribute.

When a pet gives me a tribute its proves that they thought of me outside of my presence, that they pay attention to the little things and are willing go above and beyond.  It makes me feeling all fuzzy inside, which is exactly how feel when I receive a gift from my dominant partner.

Like a goddess I can allow a tribute to lessen the punishment of someone that worships me.

I give tribute to show that I appreciate/care for/think of care for my dominant, when they see it or think of it they will think of me fondly.



(Notes :I personally don't demand tribute, but who knows that may change.
When I say dominant partner it refers to a person I switched with.)

1/4/2010 12:23:35 AM Wanting, accepting, or encouraging  tribute doesn't make a dominant fake, and why do so many people assume that a tribute equals money?



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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 8:52:30 PM   
MargueriteV


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People treat tributes differently, having your opinion of tributes in your journal or on your profile will probably help you out.


quote:

ORIGINAL: MzBree

Also he said he couldnt believe that a sub gave me 100 tribute at an interview, seeing I was 325 lbs, if he paid 100 it would be for...he listed several sexy model types, and couldnt believe I was insulted


Why were you meeting someone like that in the first place?!?

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 9:10:55 PM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: DommeMae
""My Pain should be my payment if you was a real Domme""

That makes as much sense as, "My hard cock should be dinner and movie enough for you, if you were a real vanilla woman."



Not to brag, but I think MY cock is so damn good that it should count for dinner, a movie, drinks, dessert, and dancing as well.  And a limo ride.  And a birthday present too.


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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 9:25:16 PM   
Jeffff


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: DommeMae
""My Pain should be my payment if you was a real Domme""

That makes as much sense as, "My hard cock should be dinner and movie enough for you, if you were a real vanilla woman."



Not to brag, but I think MY cock is so damn good that it should count for dinner, a movie, drinks, dessert, and dancing as well.  And a limo ride.  And a birthday present too.



MY cock is even better!


Jeff

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 9:49:56 PM   
wandersalone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Not to brag, but I think MY cock is so damn good that it should count for dinner, a movie, drinks, dessert, and dancing as well.  And a limo ride.  And a birthday present too.



quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff
MY cock is even better!

Jeff


Boys boys boys how about you let me be the judge of that? My box is open

On topic - OP if someone has problems with you asking for a tribute it is safe to assume that they are not a match for you at this time rather than you or they being right or wrong



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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 10:08:08 PM   
LadyAngelika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: DommeMae
""My Pain should be my payment if you was a real Domme""

That makes as much sense as, "My hard cock should be dinner and movie enough for you, if you were a real vanilla woman."



Not to brag, but I think MY cock is so damn good that it should count for dinner, a movie, drinks, dessert, and dancing as well.  And a limo ride.  And a birthday present too.



MY cock is even better!


Jeff


My cock is better then all of your cocks because after fucking for 2-3 hours, and after I came, it still doesn't go soft ;-) Now which one of you gentlemen want to buy me dinner ;-)

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RE: Tribute - 1/30/2010 10:16:11 PM   
pyroaquatic


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika


quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: DommeMae
""My Pain should be my payment if you was a real Domme""

That makes as much sense as, "My hard cock should be dinner and movie enough for you, if you were a real vanilla woman."



Not to brag, but I think MY cock is so damn good that it should count for dinner, a movie, drinks, dessert, and dancing as well.  And a limo ride.  And a birthday present too.



MY cock is even better!


Jeff


My cock is better then all of your cocks because after fucking for 2-3 hours, and after I came, it still doesn't go soft ;-) Now which one of you gentlemen want to buy me dinner ;-)

- LA


You can lose yours as it is not attached. I can tell when mine is gone.

oh god why do i post when I am tired...done. die computer die. there was more i was going to say... but it is mostly dribblish. :D


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