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ForeverOwned -> Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 3:06:07 AM)

boards like this where you can  talk to people about subjects that you might not be able to talk about with your friends, family and co-workers?

For me the journal part is the best. i can make it as long or as short as i want, and i also like reading people's responses to threads dealing with things and situations that as a submissive i have gone through, but wasn't sure if others had.




RCdc -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 3:27:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

boards like this where you can  talk to people about subjects that you might not be able to talk about with your friends, family and co-workers?


It's not about that for us, it's purely a networking thing.  We have friends.  We would like more friends.  We are greedy and selfish like that.[:)]

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For me the journal part is the best. i can make it as long or as short as i want, and i also like reading people's responses to threads dealing with things and situations that as a submissive i have gone through, but wasn't sure if others had.

I don't even read the journals.  I am a bit of a snob when it comes to writing so the nearest I might read is a blog, and only then I read people I know and interact with on a personal level.
On your second point - Everyone has done something that has happened to someone else.  The world isn't that lonely, only if you make it that way yourself.

the.dark.



LillyoftheVally -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 4:43:38 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

boards like this where you can talk to people about subjects that you might not be able to talk about with your friends, family and co-workers?


No, I can talk to my friends or family about all those sorts of things. I don't have to come here for it. I find instead here is a good place to solidify the ideas I have or challenge them, also it really helps sate my desire for an argument.

You have made a couple of comments today about how it is good to be honest with people new to it all and how you can help them learn, I think that these places can be both the best and worst place for that, if you are easily swayed then they are the worst, if you have a thin skin they are the worst. If you already have ideas but want to expand them, if you are strong enough to argue your point then you won't sink under all the crap that so often fills places like this.



stella41b -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 4:49:41 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

boards like this where you can  talk to people about subjects that you might not be able to talk about with your friends, family and co-workers?



The remaining part of my family and all my friends are all people with whom I can freely talk and be myself and open with. It also works both ways.

Those that I couldn't be so open with are no longer in my life.

The message boards in this respect are irrelevant.



DarkSteven -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 5:09:07 AM)

Double edged sword.  I find that it expands my knowledge and is a lot of fun.  And I've met friends here.

OTOH, it does cost me a lot of time.



Phoenixpower -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 6:00:25 AM)

I enjoy the boards, as it helps to see how other people deal with different stuff (inclusive conditions such as fibromyalgia, so not just bdsm related) and I met many great people on here where 2-3 of them I am going to meet in 4 weeks time (3rd person it will depend on the weather). Two of them I know since two years from here and it is a regular pleasure to chat with them on a regular basis.

The downside for me is that with my study and workload I dont have as much time on the boards as I would like to...but that's luckily going to change this spring, at last [:)]

And I agree to Stellas view
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Those that I couldn't be so open with are no longer in my life.


as there I recently cut strings to some people who could not tolerate that I have a different view about certain things (not just about here, but also about here).

Regarding journal...I am not really bothered about it and read rarely other journals...sometimes I add some stuff in mine, but I would not miss the journal if it would be taken off as a feature on here.



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 6:09:32 AM)

For me, the boards are a wonderful place to come to destress after a hard day/week at work. I've met some wonderful people here not to mention Master Tim, and continue to meet more each day here [:)]



CarrieO -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 6:12:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

boards like this where you can  talk to people about subjects that you might not be able to talk about with your friends, family and co-workers?

I find it interestingly amusing at times to come here and read/take part in some of the discussions.  I have some friends I'm equally comfortable having similar discussions with but not family members or co-workers (there are some things that don't make for appropriate work time conversation).

For me the journal part is the best. i can make it as long or as short as i want, and i also like reading people's responses to threads dealing with things and situations that as a submissive i have gone through, but wasn't sure if others had.

I write in my journal, mainly because, for now, I have a next-to-nothing profile.  I do read journal entries although so many seem to be bitch sessions about how so and so is such a fake and you-know-who is a lying scammer.  That gets old pretty quickly.
 
I think many times people get too personal and can sometimes share too much private information (I've been guilty of this once or twice and learned the hard way not to go this route) on the boards. 
 
 I think it's good to keep things in perspective and realize that not everyone has you best interest in mind and to assume otherwise, well...you know what they say about assuming.
 




agirl -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 7:04:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

boards like this where you can  talk to people about subjects that you might not be able to talk about with your friends, family and co-workers?

For me the journal part is the best. i can make it as long or as short as i want, and i also like reading people's responses to threads dealing with things and situations that as a submissive i have gone through, but wasn't sure if others had.




 Not really, no. There's nothing I can't talk about with someone in my *real* life. If I want information on something regarding myself, I'll go to people that actually know me. This isn't the place for that.

I enjoy reading posts and responses from half a dozen people here that have a refreshing outlook and enjoy a bit of discussion here and there.

agirl





ForeverOwned -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 7:48:36 AM)

It's nice when i can't sleep and want to communicate and everyone else is asleep. i am a housewife so between the things i have going on i am sometimes able to take short naps if i'm tired during the day. Unfortunately, it backfires on me and i end up either staying up late or only sleeping halfway through and waking up rested.



petcerina -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 7:50:27 AM)

i do like message boards, but honestly i prefer fetlife for discussions. It is nice to talk about things with strangers with similar interests. i have a group that i go to once every month, but the discussions are always structured. Discussion boards like these are nice for random thoughts that pop into my head relating to BDSM.

Also, most of my friends know. i've told those that are very close to me about both my bisexuality and my interesting relationships. The ones i have kept went, "cool. Be safe." my family, sadly does know. We don't talk about it.



littlewonder -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 7:58:00 AM)

I'm here simply for something to do, to waste time.



sexyred1 -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 7:59:37 AM)

I come here because it is fun, sometimes I learn things, sometimes I share things, I met a bunch of people, I am bored, I need a good laugh, I need to argue, I need to destress.




EbonyWood -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 8:04:35 AM)

I'm here for the intelligent, funny, sexy, hot sluts.
 
Female.



Aileen1968 -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 9:09:57 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

boards like this where you can  talk to people about subjects that you might not be able to talk about with your friends, family and co-workers?

For me the journal part is the best. i can make it as long or as short as i want, and i also like reading people's responses to threads dealing with things and situations that as a submissive i have gone through, but wasn't sure if others had.




I come on the boards for entertainment reasons and to see the trainwrecks that show how dysfunctional some people really are.



kittinSol -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 4:33:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: EbonyWood

I'm here for the intelligent, funny, sexy, hot sluts.
 
Female.


Tart.



Kana -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 7:44:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

boards like this where you can  talk to people about subjects that you might not be able to talk about with your friends, family and co-workers?



My God, if my life ever got so desperate that I turned to a bunch of lunatics on a forumboard for serious advice, I would be in dire straights indeed. Personally, and this is just me, I would never discuss anything super personal on any internet forum, but ignoring that, I have a slew of people in my real life that have known me for decades-I go to them or my family when I have a problem.
If it's a lifestyle thing I have been around long enough to have built solid meaningful relationships with a number of people who have proven reliable, informative, helpful and trustworthy.

I come here for entertainment, and to occasionally throw my $.02 in, a small voice amid the towering sound and fury.


Aww, shit, be honest, Kana-I come here to leer at the sexy avatars.



Kana -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (1/31/2010 7:46:47 PM)

double post-grrrrrrrrrr



submaleinzona -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (2/1/2010 1:32:06 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

boards like this where you can  talk to people about subjects that you might not be able to talk about with your friends, family and co-workers?

For me the journal part is the best. i can make it as long or as short as i want, and i also like reading people's responses to threads dealing with things and situations that as a submissive i have gone through, but wasn't sure if others had.




This is an interesting board, and I do like it. I haven't spent a great deal of time posting here, but I do read many of the threads. When I've posted questions or topics myself, I've gotten nice, reasonable, and polite replies. I'm looking mainly for generalized opinions and impressions about topics; not necessarily looking for help with a personal problem. But some of the topics discussed here, I don't really discuss with family or co-workers.

Each forum I've visited on the Internet seems to have its own culture. The subject matter also has something to do with it. People wouldn't come here to ask how to fix a leaky faucet or how to improve their golf game, except perhaps in the section entitled "off-topic," but that's what it is - off-topic.

Some forums seem to appeal to a certain niche. Religious forums can be interesting at times. Political forums can be volatile, particularly the more extreme variety. It seems that there's a forum for just about anything these days, including suicide. I once came across a forum full of people on the verge of suicide. That was quite surreal and rather disturbing to read.



OMGlikegagme -> RE: Do you find it a good thing to come on to (2/1/2010 3:11:51 PM)

The relative anonymity I enjoy on the site does allow for a level of indiscretion on my part that I find liberating.  I'm decidedly not openly part of "the Lifestyle" and nor would most of my friends greet disclosure of my idea of fun with open minds and open arms.

As far as what I take away from this (or any other) board...I'm more inclined to be interested in suggestions about entertainments and amusements than in deep discussions of serious issues.  It's also interesting to read about what is on the mind of other people--I'm fascinated by what makes people of all predilections and persuasions tick.  Any kind of social networking, in my experience, is best when it's lighthearted and ludic, but deeply emotional disclosures are rarely prudent or welcome when dealing with friendly strangers.



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