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RE: How do I entertain my vanilla GF's rape fantasy? - 2/1/2010 9:22:20 PM

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Did she say she wants it fulfilled? Because you need to understand that for most of us fantasies are just that, things to be titillated about in thought but not to be lived out.

No, SHE did not say a thing; he did, on their behalf, it seems. He said he wanted to try and fulfill it safely for both of them. So I did my small part in relating what I did to fulfill my own fantasy and it went perfectly.

Of course, some fantasies are just that, but that was not the question from the OP, was it?

True Red. But if it turns out she didn't want this one acted out, he could find himself in jail for doing so unconsensually. Many people believe that any fantasy someone has is one they want to do. Too often this isn't the case.

I totally get that, really I do. I just assumed that they discussed it, but from all the threads about people lacking basic communication skills with their partners, I might be wrong.

I hope whatever they do, they discuss in intense detail first and make sure all their bases are covered. It is up to the woman in this case to lead the discussion and he to ask the questions.

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RE: How do I entertain my vanilla GF's rape fantasy? - 2/2/2010 3:01:31 PM

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the best way to protect both of you,is to get it in writing as to what she wants. You can keep the when and where a mystery, but in writing keeps your ass out of jail should things go not as she thought they should. Just a thought.

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RE: How do I entertain my vanilla GF's rape fantasy? - 2/2/2010 5:57:59 PM

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Or not. You cannot consent to assault except for participation in certain sports which are exempt.

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RE: How do I entertain my vanilla GF's rape fantasy? - 2/3/2010 8:48:06 AM

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I was going to comment, but it doesn't look like you are part of your conversation..

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RE: How do I entertain my vanilla GF's rape fantasy? - 2/6/2010 6:03:06 AM

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It can be very hard to get a rape fantasy to be done well in one session. Mine took over a dozen. Each one a learning experience for both of us. My ultimate fantasy was to be full on, a few bruises etc. Hotels can be hard if you want to scream. But the first few master did not feel comfortable acting that way. Its also hard to be a surprise, but safe and if it went on too long I got wet and it just became rough sex. Other problem, if its in the dark, how does she know its you? This is what freaked me out, the thought that I could be truely raped by someone I don't know!
We worked our way up the hotel thing, I booked a hotel room for a week, but choose a hotel and room very carefully actually got a lovers cabin, we had two keys and I went about my life as normal, ie work. He was to get me once asleep and once awake and had to wear lots of a certain aftershave, one I hated and there was no safe word and after coming leave ASAP no words after the rape and come back when I call only. The night one was missionary and lasted about 2min and the day one was when I got out of the shower and taken from behind and a bit quicker. My screams were muffled with a pair of really smelly socks and the 2nd time being pushed into the bed.

It was rough, I had some hair pulled, a few bruises on my arms, my bum and even minor bleeding, but we had great comfort sex after each one. It took a lot of work and a few years to get something we were both comfortable with.

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RE: How do I entertain my vanilla GF's rape fantasy? - 2/6/2010 8:54:33 AM

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Safe Words.

Andi and I have a trusted system when we play at anything new or untried. I call it "Traffic Lights". If she ever says the word "green" that means we're fine and comfortable with the scene/position/whatever. "Amber" or "yellow" means she's getting nervous so maybe I should back off a little to give her some breathing space and make sure she's OK.... and "Red" means "STOP". (And "stop" means "stop") If she ever panics she can REDREDRED!!!! It's like "Emergency Stop" and Game Over. We also have an understanding that if I should gag her she'll click her fingers or clap.

Never forget communication is key. So I'll say something "You like that you bitch" and she might respond with a mewing "nooooo" (being the helpless victim) but we've build up enough trust to know that play is play and I'd never really hurt her.

errrrrr....

Well if you forget about the candlewax and whips anyway :p

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