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ForeverOwned -> Do you ever say to yourself (2/2/2010 2:31:36 AM)
when dealing with your sub; did i handle this right or maybe i shouldn't of gone that far? If you ever find yourself in that situation what do you do? Or do you do nothing at all? We are all human beings and we all make mistakes, do you own up to them or do you just hope noone notices? :)

ResidentSadist -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/2/2010 4:15:36 AM)
I'm gonna' need some scope of what you mean by "dealing with". Did I have regrets about coating my slave with oil and salt before using a bullwhip on her in public as punishment? no Do I regret having met that one chic and letting her spend the night becasue she was so damn sexy looking . . . yes, she turned out to be a stalker.

DesFIP -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/2/2010 4:20:09 AM)
Anybody who is too hung up on the label of dominant to acknowledge having made a mistake, sincerely apologised for it and taken steps to insure it doesn't happen again isn't one I would be with. He avoids making mistakes by not acting out of anger but by thinking about the problem and investigating why it happened first.

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/2/2010 2:13:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned when dealing with your sub; did i handle this right or maybe i shouldn't of gone that far? If you ever find yourself in that situation what do you do? Or do you do nothing at all? We are all human beings and we all make mistakes, do you own up to them or do you just hope noone notices? :) Everyone makes mistakes and any scenario can be second-guessed. Nobody's perfect. And sure... "owning up to" mistakes is the mature thing to do. In short, as long as the GOOD decisions far outnumber the BAD decisions, you're doin' okay.

littlewonder -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/2/2010 5:44:07 PM)
Hope no one else notices? Who the hell else would notice???? I'm going to guess you're talking about play parties/dungeons/etc..otherwise eerr...yeah...who would notice? Me, his slave?? LOL...if he wasn't a smart, stable human being I wouldn't be with him. This kind of stuff just never ever concerns me. If he makes a mistake..so what? It's not a big deal to me. I'm sure he's more than aware of mistakes or things he's done wrong. If he wants to apologize to me he can. If he doesn't want to then I assume he knows what he's doing and let him worry about it..not me.

SailingBum -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/2/2010 6:40:46 PM)
Great pic lil. now back to your regularly scheduled programing. BadOne

littlewonder -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/2/2010 7:01:55 PM)
Heh..thanks. Animalistic and primitive urges are a great thing aren't they? [:)]

AnimusRex -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/2/2010 7:43:33 PM)
I'm gonna start a new thread on "best captions for teh lions!" Lioness- "We never talk anymore!" Lion- Whoa, lookit the time!"

lovingpet -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/2/2010 8:45:50 PM)
I just file this under acting like a grown up. Making mistakes, owning up to them, making the necessary amends, and paying the consequences is just plain old fashioned real life. A power exchange dynamic doesn't change that. I never stated that those things have to be done toward me, though if it is appropriate he has, but I do expect it to be handled in a mature manner and in a way that allow the issue to resolve. Anyone who is above mistakes and apologies for them is someone I don't need in my life. lovingpet

Kana -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/2/2010 9:31:02 PM)
Dude, I own up.It's not even a question Hell, I have even apologized-said I let you down, I handled things X way when I should have done it Y way-no big deal. I'm a dominant, which means I am human. I am going to make mistakes, sometimes gargantuan ones. Integrity is facing up, asking myself, and sometimes others, where I went wrong, what could I have done better and learning.. The only people who are trying to be perfect are hypersensitive brats with ego's so easily bruised they cannot avail themselves of criticism, thus the need to hide error. Of course, they never learn and grow, but that's besides the point for them.

osf -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/3/2010 7:54:39 AM)
i always liked to have plan b and c to go to seamlessly if things arn't going to plan and i always like to have a recovery plan fore when things do go wron sometimes some lil white lies are appropriate so she doesn't realize, and are they lies if she believes them?

LaTigresse -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/3/2010 7:57:10 AM)
I would rather own my shit and apologize, than lie. I have no problem admitting I screwed up and apologizing if it's appropriate. Lying is the lazy, chicken shit way out.

LadyPact -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/3/2010 8:58:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse I would rather own my shit and apologize, than lie. I have no problem admitting I screwed up and apologizing if it's appropriate. Lying is the lazy, chicken shit way out. Perfectly stated.

agirl -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/3/2010 10:19:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned when dealing with your sub; did i handle this right or maybe i shouldn't of gone that far? If you ever find yourself in that situation what do you do? Or do you do nothing at all? We are all human beings and we all make mistakes, do you own up to them or do you just hope noone notices? :) Not sure who would notice, other than me. He could have had loads of moments like that and I'd not know about them. I don't need to know if HE thinks HE hasn't handled something the best way in his OWN retrospection. I have to admit that it's never occured, either he's inhuman or I'm too stupid to have noticed. The worst he's done is to be slightly less tolerant when he's tired. agirl

sexyred1 -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/3/2010 10:23:39 AM)
To reply to the OP....if it goes so far as say...death by BDSM, then perhaps the person in question should be either a. retaining a lawyer or b. if done in public, killing the rest of the people who noticed him killing the sub or paying them off handsomely so they could be defense witnesses at the trial. Because, you know, I have seen people do all sorts of things at clubs and not once did anyone die, but then in NYC, who would even notice? They would just think they passed out from sub space.

Kana -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/3/2010 10:29:45 AM)
Lie? Why lie? She's a slave. Lying to a slave is like lying to my cat or a cabinet-it's simply pointless. The arrangement is always the same-I make the decisions, (Oh I ask input from time to time, especially in areas where her expertise surpasses mine) at which point she has three choices. She can obey, disobey or she can leave. There's nothing complex about this. Option one is easy. Two means consequences. If she continues to disobey, she's gone. I like harmony, not discord. Three-The door is always open, don't want to be here-don't let it hit you on the way out. So why would I lie? Either she accepts my edicts or not, but I respect her enough to allow her to make an informed choice, and that means transparency. What I can say is that if she catches you in a lie, she is going to begin to wonder...and then trust will begin to erode.

osf -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/3/2010 11:06:34 AM)
sometimes saying yea baby you did great but next time you'll do better i'm sure, is better than the alternative, don't ya think? why knock her down and have to start from the bottom again

Kana -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/3/2010 11:20:46 AM)
Yeah, but that's not a lie. I am sure she'll do better.

Cuffkinks -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/3/2010 11:25:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse I would rather own my shit and apologize, than lie. I have no problem admitting I screwed up and apologizing if it's appropriate. Lying is the lazy, chicken shit way out. Perfectly stated. I second that.

GreedyTop -> RE: Do you ever say to yourself (2/3/2010 11:33:32 AM)
sends love to Cuff and his girl

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