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RE: Question for Bi-Dommes - 2/4/2010 1:05:27 PM

domiguy

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At the end of the day as long as the bitch is on all fours what does the rest of this matter?

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RE: Question for Bi-Dommes - 2/4/2010 9:41:15 PM

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I like my men submissive & my girls submissive.

However for various reasons, I am more likely to be with a guy who is capable of / comfy with Domming (girls at least).

And I think if he's going to be my boyfriend, we would need plenty of vanilla and I would have to see him somewhat as a equal. It's a tough balance IMO, because I want him to be very submissive too.

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RE: Question for Bi-Dommes - 2/5/2010 8:31:19 AM

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I'm a switch, and I generally think that anyone who enjoys some combination of Dominance/topping/sadism spectrum activities or dynamics with submission/bottoming/masochism is a switch. I certainly am not going to argue semantic labels with anyone though, and use/accept the words they feel best describe them.

I'm not nearly as attracted to women in general as to men in general (though there are the occasional exceptions). I've mostly played with other women as half of a couple, co-topping or being co-topped, without a D/s dynamic. I'm a bit dominant toward my current playpartner, but I don't have nearly the intensity I've felt with the men who I've been in romantic relationship that included BDSM. I very rarely connect to anyone on the D/s level to the point where we've had a formal dynamic. I'm a slave in my current relationship, and was a submissive in my last relationship for 3 years, and previously had a submissive for 5 years. To me, D/s is optional, kink is a requirement for my relationships. So far, I haven't reacted submissively toward any women. I'm not actively or violently opposed to the idea. In general, I've been more interested in S/M, bondage, and cuddling with other women than I am in sex or D/s relationships with them.

Men with attitudes like Domiguy's turned me off the whole idea of submission for several years. The whole "all women are submissive" nonsense made me more willing to consider a man of any BDSM orientation (submissive, bottom, masochist, switch, top, or sadist) except for self-proclaimed dominants for quite some time. Neither my previous Dominant nor my Master spouted that "You're female, so on your knees" nonsense, and I wouldn't have chosen to be with either of them if they had that kind of misogynistic rudeness.

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RE: Question for Bi-Dommes - 2/5/2010 1:58:03 PM

MsSpankhardSk

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I am :
1) Bi.
2) a sadomasochist.

I don't submit. I tell my sub how to hurt me when I feel the need to be masochistic and he knows when I say stop, it means "enough." He enjoys it since I am enjoying it, but does not ever take the lead.

I would never submit to anyone, since I am a control freak about BDSM/ D/s. And I like dominating both genders.

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RE: Question for Bi-Dommes - 2/6/2010 11:50:21 AM

Kaiel

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I am a Domme and I dominate anyone I am in a relationship with... either male or female. I think I have a very strong type A personality so most people automatically take the passenger seat and I do the driving in all My relationships;)

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