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ForeverOwned -> A question about responsibilities (2/6/2010 6:42:47 AM)
What if any do you think your Dominant is responsible for when it comes to you, and what do you think your responsibilities are to your Dominant? For me there is no right or wrong answer just how you feel and what hopefully, works for you.

osf -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/6/2010 7:54:21 AM)
i like to think of them as obligations to him not responsibilities

DarkSteven -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/6/2010 9:07:05 AM)
Her responsibilities are to follow my direction. To listen to me and understand, raise objections if she has any, and then to do as I say. My responsibilities are to determine what is best for all, and then to direct her that way.

HisSweetElysium -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/6/2010 11:20:12 AM)
My responsibility is to obey Him, to be honest with Him, even when it's not easy, to take care of Him in the ways I can, to respect and honor Him in words and actions. His responsibility to me is to make decisions that in our best interest. To be honest with me, even when it's not easy, to take care of me in the ways He can, love and guide me. It's what we committed to when we negotiated our arrangement. No more, no less.

ForeverOwned -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/6/2010 12:09:45 PM)
That's beautiful. Thanks for sharing that.

LillyoftheVally -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/6/2010 12:10:33 PM)
Im not responsible to other people, I see responsibility to be about your own actions, I have a responsibility to keep my word, I have a responsibility to be true to myself. No one else has a responsibility toward me either.

agirl -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/6/2010 12:24:29 PM)
He's responsible for doing the job he took on.......and I'm responsible for whatever he says I am. agirl

LPslittleclip -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/6/2010 9:21:22 PM)
my primary responsibility is to please my mistress and protect Her property. Hers is to keep me safe

juliaoceania -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/6/2010 9:31:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned What if any do you think your Dominant is responsible for when it comes to you, and what do you think your responsibilities are to your Dominant? For me there is no right or wrong answer just how you feel and what hopefully, works for you. Technically, if he is the dominant it does not matter what "I" think when it comes to splitting up responsibilities... I thought it was his job to do that sort of thinking, not mine.... He has only one responsibility to me as far as I am concerned, and that was the responsibility he was tasked with by me before I agreed to submit, and that is to do his best not to harm me. He is responsible if his actions harm me. Other than that, he is the one that makes the decisions about what I am responsible for and what he is responsible for if we are living together... as it is now, I am responsible for everything in my life and he is responsible for everything in his... and I like it this way thus far. In fact I hope it doesn't change anytime soon... my life is pretty fun and uncomplicated.

littlewonder -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/6/2010 10:05:23 PM)
My responsibilities to him are to obey, serve, please. His responsibility to me is to dominate...that's it. There are no others.

wisdomtogive -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/7/2010 3:44:28 AM)
Responsibility- mine- do as told, do the best i can, with the knowledge there will be times when improvement is necessary. Be me, which is who he was interested in, in the beginning. His- be the Dom he claims to be; the one i wanted to serve and still do.

lucylucy -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/7/2010 8:59:13 AM)
I agree with osf that they are more like obligations than responsibilities, and I like what DarkSteven said, which is what I believe in a nutshell: quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Her responsibilities are to follow my direction. To listen to me and understand, raise objections if she has any, and then to do as I say. My responsibilities are to determine what is best for all, and then to direct her that way. On a day to day basis, this translates to more specific actions. For example, I believe I am obligated to always show him how happy I am to see him, whether he’s been gone for 5 minutes or 5 days. That means I put aside any worries or anxieties I have and smile and hug him and ask him what he needs.

UniqueRaven -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/7/2010 10:08:20 AM)
Mine: Serve, Submit, Obey. His: Protect, Provide, Own.

RCdc -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/7/2010 1:43:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned What if any do you think your Dominant is responsible for when it comes to you, and what do you think your responsibilities are to your Dominant? For me there is no right or wrong answer just how you feel and what hopefully, works for you. Second guessing another person is pretty unhealthy, so thinking and placing unrealistic expectations on anyone, including your dominant or Master is poison. Discussing what your Master chooses and deciding if you are compatable leads to more realistic understanding. I don't get to 'think' his responsibility is - he decides not I. the.dark.

stella41b -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/7/2010 3:28:14 PM)
What are the responsibilities in a committed friendship or relationship between two people? I'm sorry, but I fail to see much difference here just because someone is dominant and the other submissive.

sexyred1 -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/7/2010 3:31:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b What are the responsibilities in a committed friendship or relationship between two people? I'm sorry, but I fail to see much difference here just because someone is dominant and the other submissive. I agree with stella...but of course, some people are so insecure with their own thought processes, if they indeed even possess some, that they have to enlist others to validate their ideas.

lucylucy -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/7/2010 4:17:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b What are the responsibilities in a committed friendship or relationship between two people? I'm sorry, but I fail to see much difference here just because someone is dominant and the other submissive. I agree with stella...but of course, some people are so insecure with their own thought processes, if they indeed even possess some, that they have to enlist others to validate their ideas. I was in a committed relationship for 20 years and never once thought I had a responsibility to do as he said. I felt I had a responsibility to consider what he said and/or wanted, but that's it. For me, the D/s dynamic makes a huge difference.

UniqueRaven -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/7/2010 7:34:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RCdc Second guessing another person is pretty unhealthy, so thinking and placing unrealistic expectations on anyone, including your dominant or Master is poison. Discussing what your Master chooses and deciding if you are compatable leads to more realistic understanding. I don't get to 'think' his responsibility is - he decides not I. the.dark. You know i thought about this too - saying that his responsibility is "whatever he wants." But in reality, there are responsibilities that he takes on with me, and that i need for him to take on, in order for me to feel safe, and to trust him, in my service to him. i see it again as coming down to compatibility - i need someone who wants to take these responsibilities for me, and he needs someone to serve him in the way that i do. i don't think that that creates "unrealistic expectations" - i think that it's a matter of open and honest communication when establishing the Owner/property relationship that we have to determine if those individual desires and needs from each other are compatible, or not. And that communication continues during the relationship as well, it never goes away, to speak openly and honestly about our current needs from each other. Even a slave who is kept as unloved property and locked in a cage (or whatever) 24/7 has needs, and an Owner must meet those needs for her - even basic needs like food, water, and shelter - unless he wants her to die from neglect. And that isn't what we do here. So yes, he does have responsibilities for me, and i need him to meet them for me, in order for me to be my best at serving him. Just my thoughts. [:)]

LeBlueDude -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/7/2010 8:47:04 PM)
Clear Communication is defiantly a responsibility of the master. Another big important thing is direction. The master needs to be willing to take charge, to choose directions, to be decisive. A submissive can be wishy washy. A master can not afford to be. A master must do what it takes to keep their submissive mentally and physically healthy, whatever that is. In fact being a master is a far more demanding job then being a submissive. All a submissive has to do is what the master asks, and predict what the master may ask them to do in the future and do it pre-preemptively. That's relatively easy compared to the responsibility of actually making the decisions. Of course, I'm sure from the perspective of those who chose to be masters doing the stuff is a more difficult task then coming up with stuff to be done. That's why they're masters.

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: A question about responsibilities (2/7/2010 10:14:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned What if any do you think your Dominant is responsible for when it comes to you, and what do you think your responsibilities are to your Dominant? Simple... whatever has been addressed, discussed, negotiated prior and post ownership.

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