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ForeverOwned -> When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/6/2010 3:24:23 PM)

is there anything new you discovered about yourself that you didn't know before?



Aileen1968 -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/6/2010 3:45:28 PM)

...that I'm really much more demented than I ever imagined.



OMGlikegagme -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/6/2010 3:56:19 PM)

Hunter Thomspon said once "It just never got weird enough for me."  I learned how truly weird, how deeply skewed, I really was.  I learned at a young age that there was no point in being involved with someone with whom I didn't click on some bizarre, kinky level, because trying to twist myself into another person's idea of fun was a snooze fest up and down the line.

Basically, I was lucky enough to be disabused of some illusions very early on.  I figured out that when it comes to anything more than friendship, I need a very particular and rather rare personality type and, when in doubt, move on before everybody is miserable.



ForeverOwned -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/6/2010 3:56:25 PM)

i too found out that i was more submissive than i thought i was and i found out that i enjoyed it way beyond my wildest dreams and never regretted it like i thought i might have one day.



sunshinemiss -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/6/2010 5:28:00 PM)

I found out that I was susceptible to unethical people. I still go through that ... it's a spiral of learning for me.



juliaoceania -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/6/2010 6:55:42 PM)

I have learned that my most kinky and wildest fantasies are okay and that someone will accept me and love me not despite how kinky I am, but because of how kinky I am



WinsomeDefiance -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/6/2010 7:17:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I found out that I was susceptible to unethical people. I still go through that ... it's a spiral of learning for me.


amen to that



sleepingbeauty2 -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/6/2010 7:48:03 PM)

that while i never knew i was as such, i learned that it was something that was innately me.



sexyred1 -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/6/2010 8:51:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I found out that I was susceptible to unethical people. I still go through that ... it's a spiral of learning for me.


amen to that


Hijack: Winsome, that is the CUTEST avatar girl!! Back to the esosteric questioning threads....



littlewonder -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/6/2010 10:10:23 PM)

To be honest...not really..not that I can remember..that was over...waaayyyyy too many years ago. I've always known I am submissive towards men who are a dominant personality. It's part of my cultural heritage. It was never anything that took me aback, shocked me or anything like that. It's a natural sort of thing for me. As for kinky sex...again, no. All the men I"ve ever been with since my very first time have been kinky in some manner or other. Again it was never a big thing for me.



asiandoll27 -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/7/2010 12:00:58 AM)

Found out that I had a submissive piece to my life I had never known, and it was my first time ever really meeting a woman that was just so dominating that I had to agree to what she wanted. It was this feeling of excitement and confussion all rolled into one moment.



myotherself -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/7/2010 3:37:18 AM)

When I first started out I was convinced I was a total slave who would endure pain as part of the package.

Now I know I'm submissive but not slave, and am a complete pain slut!




RCdc -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/7/2010 1:39:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

is there anything new you discovered about yourself that you didn't know before?


People learn from any relationship regardless of it's orientation, that's what happens in life.

the.dark.



juliaoceania -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/7/2010 1:42:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RCdc

quote:

ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

is there anything new you discovered about yourself that you didn't know before?


People learn from any relationship regardless of it's orientation, that's what happens in life.

the.dark.


This is true, but it is the content of the relationship that determines the content of the lesson....



RCdc -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/7/2010 1:49:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
This is true, but it is the content of the relationship that determines the content of the lesson....


To an extent.  But discovering one is submissive, for example, need not arise from being in a Ds relationship.  Finding out something new about yourself happens in all sorts of relationships, not just when you are submissive to a person.

the.dark.



DesFIP -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/7/2010 1:58:15 PM)

I have learned in this relationship that I am loved because of my flaws and not despite them.
But that has nothing to do with me being submissive or not, instead I found someone I am truly compatible with.

Except for out choice in tv. I see no purpose in a CSI marathon. Especially when he already has seen each of those shows.



agirl -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/7/2010 2:04:02 PM)

Yes. That I'm not submissive.

agirl



rockspider -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/7/2010 2:06:31 PM)

I should hope i never stop learning about new things in my life. I find each new person i interact with brings out a different or new side of me. Life would be so boring if that didn't not happen and if it did i think i would become a buddhist monk sitting on a mountaintop and chanting mantraes for the rest of my then probably miserable life.[:D]



ForeverOwned -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/7/2010 2:09:51 PM)

i'm sorry, but i have to respectfully disagree with you. There are people that go from relationship to relationship picking out the same type of person they had before. They pick out partners that will abuse them, cheat on them or refuse to commit, even though they went through the same thing with all of their other partners.  So, no you don't always learn.



juliaoceania -> RE: When you entered into your first relationship as a submissive (2/7/2010 2:17:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

i'm sorry, but i have to respectfully disagree with you. There are people that go from relationship to relationship picking out the same type of person they had before. They pick out partners that will abuse them, cheat on them or refuse to commit, even though they went through the same thing with all of their other partners.  So, no you don't always learn.


And to be fair to the.dark., even those relationships that people think they learned nothing from, those were the ones with the biggest lessons, and even if it takes 20 of those relationships to learn those lessons, they were still eventually lessons learned...



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