What Can Win My Heart

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lovingpet -> What Can Win My Heart (2/7/2010 9:15:02 PM)
Dear precious submissive people: I see so often on all these boards, from male and female submissives the deep sadness, lonliness, and confusion at trying so very hard, but just not seeming to be able to crack the code, discover the secret to the dominant woman's heart. I am no expert. I only know me... my heart...my mind...my desires. I can speak for no one else. There was a time not that long ago that I could not have really told you either. I didn't even know what it would take to finally connect and feel the truly visceral want and need to nurture, protect, and control. I knew what it should be that should awaken those feelings in me, but I couldn't put my finger on what was missing so many times. Now I have some clarity. I need to know you are a person of honor and of worth, a precious gem that I can be proud to call my own. I need a person that lives with passion and reaches for a better life every single day. This has nothing to do with your wallet. This has nothing to do with your position or prestige. It has to do with the condition of your heart and energy of your soul. I want to see forward motion in your life and I want to see you taking care of what is important to you. I want to witness you demonstrating that you have value to yourself. If you are worth nothing to yourself, then how may I know what you are worth? Show me your beauty both inside and out. I really do want to see. I want to know what your priorities are. I want to know that I will have a treasured place in your life. I want to see you have passions, causes, and people that you care enough about to place them ahead of yourself. I want to know all about them. I want to see you working and serving in these ways with joy in your heart. I want to see you smile just for the sheer joy of making a difference and basking in happiness and well being of others. Then I know that, if I become a priority in your life, I will also be taken care of with fervor and passion with no other payment needed than knowing my life is a better place for you being in it. I want to see you already doing right by yourself. I don't want to break and correct so many bad habits and wasting my focus on controlling that which you should have long learned to handle yourself. I like to see self control...self motivation...self denial...self nuture...self care. I want to know that something so precious as you will be with me and enriching my life for a very long time to come. No one is perfect. Working on breaking destructive chains and building yourself up into the best possible you is all I ask. I am more than happy to support your endeavors, but when it comes to personal growth, they have to be YOURS. I want to have the time and energy to devote to deepening and expanding what I hope will be a intensely intimate and beautiful relationship together. Come just as you are, but love me enough to not remain that way, stagnant in things that hurt you. I want our lives to be ever filling with every possible joy, so you need to make room! I don't know what I really expected to accomplish with this little post. I neither speak for anybody but myself, but neither do I really care who agrees or disagrees. It is not advice, so it really doesn't matter if anyone decides to follow it as such. It isn't a personals ad, so if no one comes knocking down my door I'm not heartbroken. It is just the words of a dominant woman speaking her own truth. Thank you for your time. lovingpet

Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: What Can Win My Heart (2/7/2010 10:20:36 PM)
Lovingpet - I think it is good to share with others what we seek. It can often be encouraging, insightful, and may help to eliminate some preconceived notions. I may chime in a bit later with some thoughts of my own regarding my own desires in what I seek. I would do so now, but I am experiencing some pain which is clouding my thought process. I did want to say that I thought it was pretty cool you posted your own feelings on the topic you raised.

LadyAngelika -> RE: What Can Win My Heart (2/8/2010 3:48:26 AM)
lovingpet -- first, thanks for this post. Overall, I think there are interesting points in it. What I'm having a little trouble with is understanding who this is addressed to. It starts off with dear submissives, and posted in Ask A Mistress, because... ? The first and last paragraph are written from your perspective but the 2nd, 3rd and 4th paragraphs seem to be written from the perspective of a dominant letting them know what they expect from a submissive? Did I get that right? As I said, interesting points in those paragraphs, and though what Dominants expect aren't the same across the board, I would be inclined to think that what you wrote can most likely be accepted by the majority. - LA

lovingpet -> RE: What Can Win My Heart (2/8/2010 5:05:54 AM)
Thanks for the replies dear ladies! Please keep in mind I was posting this late at night and dealing with some health stuff, so it probably doesn't quite follow the way I would have liked. I placed it here in the Ask a Mistress I guess more as an invitation for the other ladies here to discuss what those rare, missing elements are for themselves that draws their interest in a submissive. I kind of went back and forth about where to place it, but ultimately I thought that a submissive asking what a mistress wants would come here and, therefore, more likely read what we all write here. Maybe my thinking on placement was wrong, but hopefully better understood now. I guess if it should be moved it will be. Domin8tingUrDrmz: I hope you are feeling better soon. I know how hard it is to think when in pain. See this OP! LOL hugs lovingpet

SternFather -> RE: What Can Win My Heart (2/8/2010 11:27:44 AM)
Well, I liked it. Not as a work of literature, but as an insight to a dominant woman's mind. Deep down I can't decide if I want a submissive woman with attitude, or a dominant woman who is submissive to me. I still carry around all of those romantic images of heroic women by Boris and the like. Fighting at my side (misspent youth deep in the pages of Heavy Metal [8D]). I have always seemed to gravitate towards the dominant women and then completely screwed up the relationship because I didn't know how to behave (because I also have immages of Leave it to Beaver, My Three Sons, and the Brady Bunch fighting for equal time with Boris). So I'll just say as a man I appreciate it and found it useful.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: What Can Win My Heart (2/8/2010 4:06:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika What I'm having a little trouble with is understanding who this is addressed to. It starts off with dear submissives, and posted in Ask A Mistress, because... ? The first and last paragraph are written from your perspective but the 2nd, 3rd and 4th paragraphs seem to be written from the perspective of a dominant letting them know what they expect from a submissive? i had the same question. i couldn't follow who this was written to, and whose perspective it was coming from. At times it seemed to be a Domme who was speaking, and at other times it appeared to be coming from the perspective of a sub. Or perhaps it was coming from the perspective of a schizophrenic, so both personalities were battling for control. [:D] (BTW Lovingpet, i was just trying to make a joke there. i am not calling you schizophrenic).

lovingpet -> RE: What Can Win My Heart (2/8/2010 5:11:00 PM)
No problem! I am guessing this post didn't exactly represent my best work. My apologies all. [:)] lovingpet

LadyPact -> RE: What Can Win My Heart (2/8/2010 5:12:38 PM)
I wouldn't say it was a bad work. I would say it was probably placed in the wrong section.

lovingpet -> RE: What Can Win My Heart (2/8/2010 5:18:36 PM)
From one LP to another, I do appreciate that!

LadyPact -> RE: What Can Win My Heart (2/8/2010 5:22:10 PM)
Anytime.

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