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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 2/10/2010 5:30:31 AM

Aileen1968

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I haven't yet figured out if I'm a masochist. I do not get off on pain. And yet I crave him hurting me until I weep.
My whole self...body and mind gets extremely turned on just by the thought of him hitting me. And then he does and my body and mind says WTF.
It becomes a struggle for me to endure what he does to me and I hate that I always give in and cry. I've never experienced subspace. I feel every single hit.
It becomes all worthwhile when he whispers "good girl" when he's had enough and I'm covered in tears and sweat.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 2/10/2010 7:26:34 PM

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better to feel something than nothing
it's a challenge

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 5/19/2010 11:45:01 AM

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....being a sub maso, the pain magnifies in a good way Her control over me and since i always take it that She is doing it for Her pleasure, then it enhances my submission in pleasing Her..... i never request pain as that would defeat the whole purpose of it for me though i do feel like a million dollars for days/weeks afterwards so.....its sometimes a confusing paradox for even ourselves like so much of all this!

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 5/19/2010 8:23:58 PM

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It's a continuum - pain / pleasure.

Like rough sex... it just is what it is.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/25/2010 8:42:01 AM

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This slave has been asked several times, "'why do you like pain"? the answer is i do not like it. However, when the slave visits its MASTER, it receives a great deal of pain, everything from flogging to paddles to caning to being restrained in uncomfortable positions. The slave like the attention it is receiving from its MASTER. it submits to pain because MASTER wishes to inflict pain. Being pleasing to the MASTER is the utmost pleasure this slave can experience

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/25/2010 9:47:01 AM

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Think about a continuum. Most men enjoy the feeling of giving in to a beautiful, sexy woman's power. The strip club is all about tease and denial and financial domination. Guys like us just like it a little more. I do not enjoy pain, but I love to take it for a forceful, dominant woman.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/25/2010 10:04:07 AM

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We enjoy seeing a woman struggle, her eyes well up with tears. We just like that shit.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/25/2010 10:14:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I haven't yet figured out if I'm a masochist. I do not get off on pain. And yet I crave him hurting me until I weep.
My whole self...body and mind gets extremely turned on just by the thought of him hitting me. And then he does and my body and mind says WTF.
It becomes a struggle for me to endure what he does to me and I hate that I always give in and cry. I've never experienced subspace. I feel every single hit.
It becomes all worthwhile when he whispers "good girl" when he's had enough and I'm covered in tears and sweat.

This. Exactly.

i don't crave pain. But i need to suffer for my Master (when i'm owned again).

i need to have that experience with him. Sometimes are kinda fun (and i can experience subspace) but most of the time it is really hard. But afterwards, when i'm all spaced out and my body and mind have shut down and i'm just simply being present with his pleasure in using me - that's one of the best moments in life.

On my life's journey as a slave, suffering for him forces me to grow. Otherwise i just sit stagnant. The fact that it causes him tremendous pleasure and fulfills his needs as well is just synergy.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/25/2010 10:34:36 AM

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I know I'm a masochist, but it took me a long time to realize this. I get off on pain and on the pleasure it gives Him to give me that pain. When I gasp, moan, groan and His smile gets bigger...it's even better!

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/25/2010 10:38:43 AM

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That first pinch of the nipples hits me right in the groin - instant arousal! Does that make me a masochist? Yep, i think so, and i love it .

If all i ever took was pinched nipples, i would still be a masochist. I don't think that the amount of pain determines the masochist, but the reaction of the body to the stimulus.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/25/2010 10:59:17 AM

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You're answering a thread from February. It's unlikely the OP is around. Nice topic, old thread.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/25/2010 11:02:59 AM

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...nevermind not worth it.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/25/2010 11:22:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

You're answering a thread from February. It's unlikely the OP is around. Nice topic, old thread.

Since this thread first "died out" in February there have been eight posters, not counting yourself or me. If people want to talk about the topic then what difference does it make whether the OP is still around or not? Had someone started a new thread about the same topic there is sure to have been someone whining about the fact that they didn't search the archives. So I'm curious, exactly what are you trying to accomplish with your post?

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/25/2010 8:03:33 PM

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I played 2 sports in high school, received a scholarship to Georgetown University, and played summer basketball one season before dropping out(long story).

pretty much throughout high school I was Mr. Popular and met a bunch of psycho girls who would throw themselves at me because they either thought i was going to be successful, or they were deprived of attention growing up.

I pretty much knew i could have them wrapped around my finger and it became a turnoff.

The saying you want what you cant have stood true for me. i was never attracted to the girls who liked me but instead my competitive spirit made me go after the out of reach women who gave me no attention. after High School i raised my standards in women to models(real models, not import models) and rich college girls. after i started dating i came across a few clips on youtube of women kicking guys in the balls for money on a gameshow. it kinda became this huge turn on seeing a woman just beat the shit out of some random guy and have no care for his safety just because she wanted to make a few bucks or be on tv.

for me it's not the pain, but my fetish comes from the feeling of being unwanted or low. having a girl treat me like crap or cause me pain without a concern for me is what does it. I once thought about hiring a dom but it kinda takes away from the pleasure because the girl is only doing it because I asked her too... I guess i gotta wait for a TV show to come around my parts so i can volunteer and act like i don't want to be hurt.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/26/2010 3:07:39 AM

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I like pain because, the pain leaves cuts,scrapes,and scars. For each of them I have a story with a who and a what(sometimes) but never why. I look at them as gifts that you reflect upon. To better appreciate the event(s) in your life. For that pain you have is from a person you shared a moment with in your life. or well thats how i feel about pain any way

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/28/2010 6:48:05 AM

brattyslave18

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Some P/people think that its a state of mind, i only enjoy pain when i am in the mood for it, for example; someone cutting T/their wrists, T/they say it feels good, but if Y/you take that same person and break T/their finger T/they will not be too happy about it, and it will hurt no O/one enjoys accidental pain, but certain P/people enjoy sexual pain. i believe its a state of mind that O/one enters, but that's just my opinion.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/28/2010 9:16:49 AM

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pain excites me makes me feel good it sends me deep into space and i cum so much from it. the control i feel from master makes me feel wonderful and safe. before i discovered what bdsm was i used to do weird odd things when i masturbated thought i was weird then i found out i was normal and now i am me and owned by a wonderful master who i can be me totally

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/28/2010 10:12:30 AM

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It's probably a different reason for many people, I know tops who like pain too.
For myself it's not the pain specifically. If I stub my toe I get pissed off, not aroused. S&M scene's though, are tricky for me, either it appeals to me in the connection being shared, or it misses entirely and I'm just hanging on to get through pain for the pleasure of the top. Often times it's not about the pain so much as the control/lack of control factor. Pain is also a very good trigger for me, to push me out of my self-control to achieve that 'helpless' feeling.
I guess for me pain is the means to the end.

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RE: Why do we enjoy the pain - 7/28/2010 11:08:52 AM

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When I was slave, I didn't enjoy the pain itself, but rather the feeling of being controlled and used in such a way. I was a huge "pain slut", for this reason. Not craving the pain itself, at all- but instead the feeling of being whipped, and of being completely under his control and at his mercy. That was exquisitely beautiful and delicious. The pain itself was- well, painful! Pain was merely a vehicle, used to highlight my submission and bring it into sharp focus. That's what I enjoyed about it. Not the actual sensations of pain themselves. My enjoyment centered on the feelings of being controlled, objectified and humiliated.

YUMMMM....

Agree with dreamerdreaming. And it's not necessarily limited to pain-related things.

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