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Rochsub2009 -> RE: age difference-younger dom or domme? (2/8/2010 4:47:25 PM)
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ORIGINAL: HisSweetElysium
I have seen on the boards that a decent % of subs prefer an older dominant, and I'm just curious about those who have chosen a younger. Another post got me thinking, how many subs have a younger dom or domme, and does it cause any particular pros or cons in the relationship?
i dated a much younger Domme a few years back. i was 34 or 35, and she was 21.
W/we had one of the best relationships that i have ever had. Despite her young age, she was one of the most naturally dominant women that i had ever met. Her personality was both powerful and charismatic. Submitting to her was both natural and inevitable.
The age difference wasn't much of a problem from a social standpoint. We enjoyed many of the same activities, so dating was a blast. She was still at an age where she liked to go out a lot, so it was an interesting dynamic. She liked to go out, but guys her age were usually broke. So she LOVED dating an older guy with lots of money. We were constantly on the go.
For me, i enjoyed her youthful enthusiasm. She made me feel young. i was heavy into my career, and had stopped going out on a regular basis years ago (particularly during the work week). She changed all that.
Because she was so young, she had near endless sexual energy. But i was able to keep up with her on that front (just barely).
She loved the fact that when we were out in public, people thought that she was my daughter or niece. She enjoyed slapping me or chastising me in public and making me say "yes Ma'am" to the amazement of those around us. In truth, the age dynamic was very exciting for both of us.
But unfortunately, our relationship fell apart due to the differences in our life experience. Despite the fact that she was the Domme, there were aspects of life that i simply knew more about than she did. After all, 21 year olds THINK they know everything, but they really tend to know a lot less than they think they do. They just don't have enough experience yet. So when i saw her getting ready to make life mistakes (that many 21 year olds make), i tried to warn her. She would always take great offense at this, and tell me that she was the Domme, so i shouldn't tell her what to do. i agreed in principle, but not always in actual practice. i felt that as a sub, it was my duty to prevent her from falling off a cliff, even if she thought that walking along the cliff was "fun". She ultimately suffered a terrible life setback due to doing things that i tried to warn her about. The problems that she had ended our relationship, and caused her serious personal and professional problems. Of course, as a sub, i couldn't say "i told you so". Moreover, as she headed towards the cliff, i tried to warn her, but i couldn't make her stop. So she learned a life lesson that could have been avoided.
i haven't dated a much younger Domme since then. i might do so again someday, but they would have to understand that there is often wisdom that comes with age and experience. It doesn't make you less dominant if you take advantage of your sub's input, ideas, and experience. As long as you get the final decision, you are still in charge.
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