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New Sub - 2/8/2010 8:33:20 PM   
PetofMB


Posts: 11
Joined: 2/8/2010
Status: offline 		I am fairly new to the BDSM scene (about a year) and have been greatly enjoying my experinces. I have recently become a sub/slave to my new Master and would welcome any input from experienced sub/slaves. This has begun as an online/long distance relationship and I would love to hear some ideas on how to keep my Master happy and proud from afar in between our visits.
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RE: New Sub - 2/8/2010 8:54:12 PM   
ForeverOwned


Posts: 269
Joined: 2/5/2008
Status: offline 		Welcome! i hope that you enjoy your time here and that everything works out well for the two of you. i have only met friends on line, but there are a lot of people on cm who have met their Dominants on line, and i'm sure they will have a lot of great advice for you.

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RE: New Sub - 2/8/2010 9:15:13 PM   
thishereboi


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Status: offline 		You asked the same question over on ask a master and I am not sure why you think total strangers would know what will make your master happy. It sounds like the two of you are enjoying the relationship, so all I can tell you to do is enjoy it. If you have questions about what will make him happy, ask him. 

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RE: New Sub - 2/8/2010 9:18:12 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Ask him what he wants you to do.

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RE: New Sub - 2/8/2010 9:24:14 PM   
dreamerdreaming


Posts: 2839
Status: offline 		You've only "recently" become his, and already he's out of ideas?!

Or have you just not bothered to ASK HIM?!


Maybe its both.

Good luck, OP. You'll need it.

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RE: New Sub - 2/8/2010 9:28:31 PM   
PetofMB


Posts: 11
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Status: offline 		Surprises are also nice though, don't ya think?.....was just looking for a different perspective to assist in the learning process I guess.

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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 12:23:18 AM   
stella41b


Posts: 4258
Joined: 10/16/2007
From: SW London (UK)
Status: offline 		Would you walk up to a complete stranger in the street and ask them the same questions? Then why are you asking complete strangers here on the Internet?


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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 1:00:13 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		You request of him what he wants.  That might be that he wants you to learn how to cook something, or take a course, or learn a language, or about the place that he lives and it's history.  Your Master decides and trumps all of our ideas

the.dark.

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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 1:06:24 AM   
RCdc


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ORIGINAL: PetofMB

Surprises are also nice though, don't ya think?.....was just looking for a different perspective to assist in the learning process I guess.


The problem is that we don't know him and so we may advise something that would cause you friction.  Like reading Milton and he hates poety etc.
If it's gifts you are thinking more about, then treat it like any other relationship and create a surprise that fits him - you know him best.

On another point - just as an example - some Masters would be displeased that their property has made the decision to find others to assist in the learning process and growth of their s-type.  You could communicate to him whether this is acceptable?

the.dark.

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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 2:11:33 AM   
MargueriteV


Posts: 75
Joined: 11/5/2009
Status: offline 		I always  assume subs that post these types of topics already know what their Dom/me wants on a regular basis and just want to know ways to surprise them. I also assume the sub is smart enough to edit the advice to fit their Dom/me.




< Message edited by MargueriteV -- 2/9/2010 2:22:14 AM >

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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 2:30:37 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


Posts: 6719
Joined: 8/7/2007
Status: offline 		Surprises are fun.  But I woudln't recommend icy hot INSIDE the condom, saran wrap on the toilet bowl, or hair ties around the spray faucet.  Just saying....

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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 2:33:00 AM   
Domin8tingUrDrmz


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From: Portland Metro, Oregon
Status: offline 		But why not? I have put icy hot inside the condom before - quite an interesting reaction .

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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 2:37:21 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		Me too, but umm...you get weirdly different reactions from Male Dominants and male submissives....who knew?

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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 2:38:45 AM   
Domin8tingUrDrmz


Posts: 1269
Joined: 4/8/2006
From: Portland Metro, Oregon
Status: offline 		Oh hell, if you are looking to get an ass-spanking, that sure would fire up a dominant, no?


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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 2:44:33 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

Oh hell, if you are looking to get an ass-spanking, that sure would fire up a dominant, no?



In a word - yes!

But the ass spanking wasn't half as bad as shitting out   Icy Hot for days.

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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 2:53:22 AM   
Domin8tingUrDrmz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

quote:

ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

Oh hell, if you are looking to get an ass-spanking, that sure would fire up a dominant, no?



In a word - yes!

But the ass spanking wasn't half as bad as shitting out   Icy Hot for days.



I'm sitting over here laughing my ass off at your predicament, lol. I'm sure your ass regretted putting icyhot in his condom - but it's still funny as hell. I'm also certain I would have done something equally as evil if a submissive tried that on me in reverse.


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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 6:44:55 AM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: PetofMB

Surprises are also nice though, don't ya think?.....was just looking for a different perspective to assist in the learning process I guess.


Not until you know him.  I have had several subs do things toi "surprise" me, and they were things I didn't like.


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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 7:00:47 AM   
onlyfreelycaged


Posts: 254
Joined: 4/3/2007
Status: offline 		well..
What's always worked for me is taking my self better. Take classes, get a better job, work out, get more flexible, get more toys..


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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 7:45:07 AM   
subtee


Posts: 5133
Joined: 7/26/2007
Status: offline 		Are you good at massage?

I would like to take a course or classes to become really, really good at massage.

Who doesn't like a long, deep massage?

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RE: New Sub - 2/9/2010 8:02:19 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

I have recently become a sub/slave to my new Master and would welcome any input from experienced sub/slaves.


take advice and input from other submissive/slaves---including this one---with a HUGE "grain of salt". folks from either side of the M/s or D/s slash do NOT perceive or experience submission the same way...there is no One-True-Submissive-Slave-Way-For-All.

every Master is NOT interested in you learning how to give a massage or cook gourmet French or wrap yourself around a stripper pole or ____________(fill in the blank with an activity)...it's best to ask the individual Master to whom you submit what their preferences are.

quote:

This has begun as an online/long distance relationship and I would love to hear some ideas on how to keep my Master happy and proud from afar in between our visits.


not knowing your Master personally, it would be impossible for this slave to advise as to how to please him.

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