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PetofMB -> Master's Insight (2/8/2010 8:44:00 PM)

I am very lucky to have recently become owned by my Master. I wanted to have other Master's thoughts or input on how to maintain being a good sub/slave. I've just recently been introduced to the BDSM scene (about a year) so I'm still going through the learning process. My Master is extremely patient with me and is a very good teacher so there are no complaints there at all, but I just thought some input from other Master's as to what might please them would be of use in my current relationship.....the more info the better, right?



KnightofMists -> RE: Master's Insight (2/8/2010 9:25:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: PetofMB
.....the more info the better, right?



umm... NO... that is not right. Really... how I define a good sub/slave could very well be significantly different that how your Master does. Therefore, my info could be rather irrelevent or at worse damaging for your relationship.

I suggest you understand from your Master what makes things good vrs bad... then seek to do them. Maybe you might need advise how to achieve this or that depending on what it is and advise on some specifics might be useful... but when it comes to what will be pleasing... I think you should just stick with your Master!



PetofMB -> RE: Master's Insight (2/8/2010 9:38:10 PM)

Thank you very much for the advice that you provided. I can completely see your point about the differences between others and my Master. I appreciate your reponse. I have definitely learned by this as well.



ForeverOwned -> RE: Master's Insight (2/8/2010 10:10:39 PM)

If you have the desire to, please and you do your best, that's a great start.

Listen, ask questions (take notes if you need to) and never ignore a red flag.

If he doesn't listen to you or respect your feelings and wishes then you need to move on.



AquaticSub -> RE: Master's Insight (2/8/2010 10:19:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists


quote:

ORIGINAL: PetofMB
.....the more info the better, right?



umm... NO... that is not right. Really... how I define a good sub/slave could very well be significantly different that how your Master does. Therefore, my info could be rather irrelevent or at worse damaging for your relationship.



Agreed. Really all that people can say is to please by doing what he finds pleasing. What people find pleasing varies greatly from person to person. Obey by doing what he wants. Which you'll only find out by talking to him.

That isn't to say that other people can't give fanastic advice on relationships here, just that a more specific question is needed.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Master's Insight (2/8/2010 10:20:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: PetofMB

I am very lucky to have recently become owned by my Master. I wanted to have other Master's thoughts or input on how to maintain being a good sub/slave. I've just recently been introduced to the BDSM scene (about a year) so I'm still going through the learning process. My Master is extremely patient with me and is a very good teacher so there are no complaints there at all, but I just thought some input from other Master's as to what might please them would be of use in my current relationship.....the more info the better, right?


Nope. The smartest thing to do is ask your master.




PetofMB -> RE: Master's Insight (2/8/2010 10:46:27 PM)

Thanks to everyone for your advice.....it's much appreciated. It's great to read the views of those more experienced. Thanks for helping the new girl!!



darkmoonkat -> RE: Master's Insight (2/9/2010 3:30:35 AM)

The best advice would be to ask Him how you can be pleasing, then do it - with joy. It's simple, really.



DesFIP -> RE: Master's Insight (2/9/2010 4:30:02 AM)

Pay attention. If he always adds 1 1/2 tsps of sugar to his coffee and just a tiny bit of milk, then notice how he does it and start bringing him his coffee already done the way he likes it. If you have three kinds of jam and he always picks peach, start putting it on his toast for him.

If he picks your underwear and always picks the red sets for you to wear, buy more red ones.

It all comes down to noticing what he likes and doing it.



AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Master's Insight (2/9/2010 12:03:32 PM)

What everyone else has said is golden.

That being said I feel the need to actually answer your question.

1) Do anything and everything you can not to be a burden to him.
2) Try your best serve how he wants you to and remember things the way he does them.
3) Pay attention and learn to antisipate his needs.
4) Respect his wishes even when you don't agree with them.
5) if you have to argue or complain it is usually best to do so in a non-threatening manner.

Hope some of that might help.

As with all things ask you Master if he wants you to do any of the above before you do it.

QSM



osf -> RE: Master's Insight (2/9/2010 3:56:20 PM)

ask him, i have no idea what he expects



robertolapiedra -> RE: Master's Insight (2/10/2010 6:57:09 AM)

Hello PetofMB. Learn to evaluate yourself on a daily basis. You are responsible for the quality of your submission, not your dominant. He is responsible for the quality of his domination not you.  In your mind  always try to be crystal clear about this. Try to know the difference between obedience and compliance. It is better to be happy to be of service than simply complying while gritting one's teeth.

Try to know the difference between what is play and day to day life in your dynamic. Never forget that it is supposed to be fun and satisfying for the both of you. Finally you have equal responsibility in communication, do not put all this weight on your dominant's shoulders. RL



Caine999 -> RE: Master's Insight (2/10/2010 6:33:12 PM)

Communication!



Huntertn -> RE: Master's Insight (2/10/2010 8:03:01 PM)

actually, ther are books out there with ways to better serve thu better service I've ordered one for my sub ,grins



NihilusZero -> RE: Master's Insight (2/11/2010 12:50:15 AM)

1) Obey his commands.
2) Do not undermine his commands by presuming a better result via a different set of decisions.



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