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What if you met someone and they became very special to... - 2/8/2010 9:24:01 PM

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Come to find out when you bring him/her home that he/she hates animals and you have both a cat and a dog. Would you give them away if you were told to?

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:28:35 PM

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It would depend on the reason they wanted me to give them away and how attached to the animal I was... not all animals are equal....

I am allergic to cats, for example, so I wouldn't want to be with someone that had cats... I don't "hate" them.. I actually like them ok... but they make me get sinus and ear infections...

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:30:54 PM

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Not a chance. My animals are a part of My life.

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:31:59 PM

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in my post i said that he/she hates animals. So that would be the reason you were told to give them up. Some animals i have had i would gladly give them away with any excuse. :)

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:33:54 PM

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My last pet died almost five years ago and i still feel her and miss her. i could never replace her, nor would i have ever given her up.

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:34:08 PM

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If a Dom doesn't like my animals he has no place in my life.

I waited a long time to have animals and i am not giving them up!

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:34:47 PM

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NO.

I grew up with animals, and I love them deeply. We share a kinship- an understanding, that is different than any I could get with another person. Having them around is a blessing, and I am completely incompatible with anyone who thinks differently.

I'd be unapologetic, and wouldn't mince words or waste time with such a person. I'd just be honest, that we're incompatible on a very basic level. That's the kindest thing to do, to make sure you don't waste their time or yours.

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:37:32 PM

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Anyone who hated animals I wouldn't want as a friend, much less a lover...

I do not think I know anyone that "hates" animals.

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:40:53 PM

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i use to know someone who said they hated animals. The truth was they were afraid of them. Big or small it didn't matter.

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:40:59 PM

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I only have a cat and it's actually my daughter's. If he wanted me to give it up..yup..but then again it's because I have no love for this cat lol...I'm hoping and praying the kiddo takes it with her when she leaves!

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:43:53 PM

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Absolutely not a chance.

If anyone had the audacity to tell me to get rid of someone I loved, I'd have a really hard time even being civil to them. In fact, it's unlikely that my reply would be even remotely civil.

Everyone is different, obviously, and it's a very personal choice. But that scenario conflicts so strongly with some of my most basic values that it would be difficult not to lash out.

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 9:46:57 PM

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Come to find out when you bring him/her home that he/she hates animals and you have both a cat and a dog. Would you give them away if you were told to?

According to your profile, you are in a relationship that has existed for quite some time. So I can't help but wonder if you spend a great deal of your time sitting around thinking of questions to ask.

First of all this has nothing to do with BDSM at all.

Second of all, during the time it takes for someone to become "very special" in someone's life, a discussion would be had as to whether or not one or the other had pets and what each's views of pets was.

Someone who "hates" animals is typically suspect in most instances anyway. I have a friend who doesn't like pets, and doesn't want them. She doesn't "hate" pets. When someone goes so far as to "hate" pets, there is a reason, and that reason can be very telling about the person feeling such hatred.

I have no doubt you are trying to find out if a submissive would abandon her pets because some dom told her to. Taking on a pet is making a commitment to care for that pet throughout the pet's lifetime. Any "dom" who would make such a demand of a sub, obviously doesn't care about the committment that was made and is selfish enough to think that the committment should be broken just because he "said so." So then one would have to wonder what other "demands" would be made.

But really if someone becomes "very special" in someone's life and has never even mentioned that they have pets? They probably haven't really communicated or know that "special" person long enough to begin with. Essentially, yes, I'm saying it is a stupid question.

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 10:17:42 PM

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Come to find out when you bring him/her home that he/she hates animals and you have both a cat and a dog. Would you give them away if you were told to?

Nope... I'd chop him/her up and FEED them to my animals; a win/win... well, for us, anyway?!!

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 10:18:43 PM

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i love it!!!!!!!

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 10:33:20 PM

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Come to find out when you bring him/her home that he/she hates animals and you have both a cat and a dog. Would you give them away if you were told to?

While I'm sure there is some situation or two in which I would... I'd have to say the answer is pretty much a no. For one thing, I adore animals. I'm very feline. If someone hates animals, the odds are extremely low that they would have any interest in me and me them.

In addition, when I bring animals into my home, I do not regard them as objects I can get rid of whenever it suits me. I have a responsiblity to them like children. Anyone who wanted me to shirk that responsibility just because they don't like animals is again someone I don't want to be with. It's not like they are asking me to give up my furniture because they hate the colors. These are living things that have bonded with me and me them.

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 10:38:00 PM

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quote:

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

Come to find out when you bring him/her home that he/she hates animals and you have both a cat and a dog. Would you give them away if you were told to?

According to your profile, you are in a relationship that has existed for quite some time. So I can't help but wonder if you spend a great deal of your time sitting around thinking of questions to ask.

First of all this has nothing to do with BDSM at all.

*snips the quote for length*

I have to agree with this. This really is not a BDSM question. It's, again, a life question. At the risk of being rude, OP, perhaps posting less and doing more reading would be a good idea.

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 10:39:34 PM

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Aqua, my darling..that will never happen in our lifetime.

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 10:41:18 PM

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You know me... the eternally bitchy optimist...

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 10:48:36 PM

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I have 3 cats. One is shown in my profile photo. The only way I would ask someone to give up their pet was if they were coming to live with me and their pet didn't get along with mine. For instance, if they had a dog, the dog would likely have to go but mainly because my place is too small for most dogs. If their dog got along with my cats, I would attempt to make it work, but if the dog needed more space than I have, the dog would go, not my cats. Now, if we got a larger place, that would be a different story entirely. The dog would be welcome so long as it didn't think my cats were a snack.

As far as giving up a pet for someone I found dear to me - that would depend on the person/pet/situation. I make it known I have pets, so anyone with a cat allergy trying to get to know me likely will get the shove before my cats do. But, if my mother (who is allergic to cats) needed a place to stay, no matter how much I love those cats, they would be gone. I love my mother more than I love any animal (even when she drives me absolutely nuts most times).

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RE: What if you met someone and they became very specia... - 2/8/2010 10:59:17 PM

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Your post brought up a very cute memory for me. When i was about 16 i had two cats, one was about to months old. She could almost hide behind a can of dog food. Anyway, my dad bought in a six month old shepard and from the minute he walked into the door my kitten terroized him. He would run from her and she would chase he and he was ten times her size. It was adorable. Unfortunately, he could not stay.

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