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agirl -> RE: Having preferences = not obeying? (2/10/2010 4:30:46 AM)
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
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ORIGINAL: agirl
It's not in conflict with obeying.
It's just a waste of time when I KNOW that the fact he asked means that HE wants ME to go. He doesn't want some argy-bargy over everything. That'd be annoying. If broke my leg on the way to the door, he might reconsider........lol
agirl
I don't see it as argy-bargy in the slightest. If there isn't a preference to stay, as there often isn't since my preference is often to obey, I don't say anything. But if there is, I don't see a problem with stating it respectfully and then obeying anyway. For us, it's only a problem if I continue after stating it.
Our relationships just differ, that's all.
Also , it really does depend on the *what*. If he asked me to plant a 12' Yukka in the middle of the garden, demolish the kitchen or buy a motorcycle and learn to ride it ..........I'd say exactly what I thought, he'd expect me to have some opinion on it and want to hear it.
When it comes to everyday stuff, he doesn't want to hear it really. He says *coffee* he expects me to say * ok*. We already KNOW there's no reason that I can't apart from the fact that I probably don't *wanna*. There are times when doesn't care what my preferences are and I know when those times are. It'd be annoying to hear me say * I'd really rather not* year in and year out.
agirl
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