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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 9:51:48 AM

MsSonnetMarwood

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Are you kidding?
A married man comes to you in the freedom of knowing that YOU know he is not yours.
Because of this ,a married man can open up to you..spill his heart to you...you can be His solace..
If youre looking to be married then date single people.
But please dont let "the morality police"confuse the issues.
When you are with a married man you had better be the best you can be...or he will go elsewhere...
I think it's good for us women...we need to hone up on our "make em happy " skills.
And guess what?
I do not care if you feel the need to tell me how wrong I am..Just shows how lacking you are in your "tolerance abilities.".

Speak for yourself.

I think you added more to Merc's list rather than offer an opposing point of view.

::still chuckling at the thought of having to "be my best so my married lover doesn't cheat on me"::

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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 9:57:40 AM

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Happy to be accused and guilty of being intolerant of liars, cheats, and frauds. The fact that the person is male, female, married, dom, sub, domme, master, mistress, top, bottom, single, one-handed web-surfer, poly, or a bi-sexual switch; doesn't enter into the equation.

i saw the question about married people in general, and not limited to those who are in cheating mode. i understand now that your post is in reference to the latter.

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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 9:59:20 AM

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What really Pisses Me off about Married Cheaters is they're inundating subs/slaves mailboxes w/so much Bullshit that when I send a Letter of Introduction it more than likely doesn't even get a glance... (Yes I'll take some cheese w/that whine!!! LMFKAO)
I also agree that there are too many that are using CM & other Kink sites as places to search for spouses... To Me & I Could be Wr Wr Wr WrWr oh that word, it'd seem like they don't have a clue or Maybe they think they're all that & the Kinkster will change for them wonders if some are that desperate???

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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 10:00:37 AM

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actually you just proved my point about something..no where did i use the word "cheat".
poly is not for everyone..but you go right ahead and pretend to know better..

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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 10:01:02 AM

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What a married woman has to offer the single man.

Sex without commitment.

What a single man has to offer a married woman.

Sex without commitment.

Apart from all the laughs, good conversation, visits to the theatre, restaurants etc. and no laundry to wash, no bickering about money. Basically escapism.

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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 10:02:01 AM

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Opps that Last post of Mine was not actually directed to you Thinks I need to practice on these boards!!!

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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 10:06:50 AM

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2. Because...married...people...have...nothing...to...offer...to...single...people...

I hope I made that one fairly clear.

All a married person has to offer is their sexual appetite. They want their fantasies fulfilled, because their spouse/partner isn't fulfilling them.

I was not put on this earth for that.

Phoenix

This really is a HUGE generalization and certainly not true for everyone. If you are not interested in a poly relationships, then I can completely understand why you made the above statement. Poly is not for everyone. If the married person is cheating on their spouse without the knowledge of the spouse, or the person they are cheating on said spouse with, then yes, again, it is true. But, not every married person in a D/s or M/s relationship is cheating on their spouse. Many look for a sub/slave, Master/Mistress with the full knowledge and consent of their vanilla spouse. Many also have a spouse that is also in the lifestyle and are looking to add to their family. They do have something to offer to someone who is looking for this kind of a relationship. Just because it's not your cup of tea, please don't generalize and make the statement that it's wrong because it's only wrong for you and those like you.

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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 10:13:44 AM

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Was that your experience beth? It is far from mine.

Every relationship has red flags, hazards, and hardships. The single-on-single dating world is a veritable WAR ZONE of negative experiences. Marital relationships aren't guranteed bliss either.

You move in with someone, they change their mind and kick you out.
You love him/her but hate their friends and or family.
He's great in bed but dull to talk to.
He didn't call you when he promised to, so you sit home alone sulking...

etc, etc, etc.......

On the other hand, married w. married can be absolutely, totally, and wonderfully EXCELLENT.

You don't go grocery shopping.

You don't split up chores.

You don't argue over money.

You don't bicker over the children.

You don't "own" the other person.

You have to be accepting of the other's limitations.

Less equals more: denial, separation, being #2 equates to greater highs when together.

"Forbidden" relationships are fun.

You feel more alive.

You feel less "determined" and "fixed."

NRE: You experience new-relationship-energy.

You learn to trust in your spouse in a different way.

You learn inner strength by letting go of what you do not control.

You feel hip and cool for writing your own non traditional rules.

You feel satisfaction in making another person happy.

You become a voyeur to worlds you cannot enter.

If you break up, the other person is not left alone.

......

The list goes on and on.

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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 10:18:21 AM

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actually you just proved my point about something..no where did i use the word "cheat".
poly is not for everyone..but you go right ahead and pretend to know better..

I don't have any problem with poly. However, those married folk that are poly are few and far between as compared to those who are indeed cheating.

I am certainly not here to find a husband for myself...but I don't want anyone else's, either.

The process of ascertaining the truth behind having the spouse's permission to establish outside relationships is far often more trouble than it's worth in my experience.

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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 1:04:17 PM

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This really is a HUGE generalization and certainly not true for everyone.

You are right-it is a generalization. And a generalization is something that isn't true for everyone. That's why it's called a generalization.

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ORIGINAL: jezzabelle
If you are not interested in a poly relationships, then I can completely understand why you made the above statement. Poly is not for everyone.

Your second statement is right on the money, and something I say in pretty much every post I make about polyamory. It's not for everyone. It is for me, and has been my entire adult life.

Married men still have nothing to offer me, whether they are poly, monogamous, cheating or not. I like what Ms. Sonnet had to say:

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I am certainly not here to find a husband for myself...but I don't want anyone else's, either.

She pretty much sums it up.

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ORIGINAL: jezzabelle
Just because it's not your cup of tea, please don't generalize and make the statement that it's wrong because it's only wrong for you and those like you.

What are you, my mother?

Sorry, but I just can't follow your orders. Making generalizations about groups of people with similar demographics is part of what I do professionally.

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RE: Married folks - 3/29/2006 1:28:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: MysticalPhoenix

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This really is a HUGE generalization and certainly not true for everyone.

You are right-it is a generalization. And a generalization is something that isn't true for everyone. That's why it's called a generalization.

Yes, but you did not state in your original message that it was just your opinion. I was just clarifying for the rest that it was just a generalization, one that is only true in certain cases and not true for everyone.

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Married men still have nothing to offer me, whether they are poly, monogamous, cheating or not.

I didn't say they had something to offer you, again, I was pointing out one of your generalizations. Married men may have nothing to offer you, but it doesn't mean they don't have something to offer somebody else.

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ORIGINAL: jezzabelle
Just because it's not your cup of tea, please don't generalize and make the statement that it's wrong because it's only wrong for you and those like you.

What are you, my mother?

Sorry, but I just can't follow your orders. Making generalizations about groups of people with similar demographics is part of what I do professionally.

Phoenix

Nope, I'm definitely not your mother, seeing as I wasn't even alive when you were born. And that wasn't an order, it was a request, hence the please. I don't give orders, I'm a slave that has my opinions and I make sure to state as such when I post something. I don't assume for the masses and I don't put down the choices of others.

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RE: Married folks - 3/30/2006 3:03:35 AM

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Sorry, but I just can't follow your orders. Making generalizations about groups of people with similar demographics is part of what I do professionally.

Phoenix

Then don't do it!

What is your proffession, assistant to the Witch Finder general?

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RE: Married folks - 3/30/2006 7:34:08 AM

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There's just a lot of animosity out there for "married and looking." As you can imagine, there's probably zillions of reasons why folks feel this way.

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