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quietsub13 -> in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 12:47:29 AM)
i have been talking to my Sir for a while and He calls me His girl. At times i want to call Him Master as i truly want to give myself to Him, but He hasn't asked. i ache at the thought of not being able to talk to Him and i dream about belonging to Him. Should i tell Him how i feel or wait?

Aileen1968 -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 12:59:52 AM)
You could always just ask him. Say... "I'd like to call you master. How do you feel about that?" If you hesitate to ask him questions or just to communicate in general, especially over something as simple as this, then you will have a lot of problems in your relationship. Talking and asking questions are not "unsubly"

EbonyWood -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 1:01:15 AM)
Living up to your name? I'm not sure if you're caught up in nomenclature or asking something more. I would talk. Never die wondering.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 1:06:13 AM)
Why would you want to be with someone you hold things back from? Is there a reason other than his seeming cluelessness about this, that you've not told him already? He's not a mind reader. If you want him to know yourself and your thoughts, you'll have to be very candid. The way it sounds is, he's figured out that you're effectively already his ( duh [8\|] ) but doesn't know that you want some more formal acknowledgements of it, or doesn't want you to have them. Without any better information, I'm voting for the former. Guys can be kind of clueless about the level of acknowledgement that girls need, sometimes. He's not a mind-reader and neither are you, right? So spell it out, for him and get his thoughts on the matter so the two of you aren't guessing at each other's thoughts. Pay attention to your own thought process too. Why haven't you just been able to come out and ask him about this, preferring to come here to a bunch of total strangers instead? Does this feel safer? What are you afraid of? If he doesn't want to own you, or whatever- if he doesn't want the same kind of relationship or commitment that you need, isn't it better to find this out sooner, than later?

ranja -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 1:54:49 AM)
Are you going to meet him?

Focus50 -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 3:31:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: quietsub13 i have been talking to my Sir for a while and He calls me His girl. At times i want to call Him Master as i truly want to give myself to Him, but He hasn't asked. i ache at the thought of not being able to talk to Him and i dream about belonging to Him. Should i tell Him how i feel or wait? Hi and welcome to the Forums... :-) What you should do is step back a little for a reality check. Since you haven't said as much, I'm gonna assume you haven't even met him in real life. And believe me, real life is the true measure of how well you relate to someone and whether that feeling is mutual. At the moment, what you seem to have is an attachment to a romanticised notion of who and what this person is - a most common submissive "rookie mistake". It's all very well if this person is pushing the right D/s buttons within you only for you to discover in real life that he's 20 years older and a hundred pounds heavier than he's presented himself. And then there's the missus blah blah.... Hey, it happens all too often to naive newbies so you start by getting "all your ducks in the right order".... If he's so special to you, step one is to arrange a face to face meet - and be prepared if he's suddenly a bit reluctant, too. Some just like it online.... Focus.

ResidentSadist -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 4:40:55 AM)
tell him

DesFIP -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 5:11:02 AM)
If you want to move the relationship to the next step, then why not be open about it. "I really like you. I would prefer we had an exclusive relationship with a certain level of commitment. How do you feel about this, about me? I need to know" But be prepared to be refused and if he tells you he likes you but you aren't his one, then you need to have decided beforehand what your response will be. Will you be okay being all tied up in knots about him knowing he isn't that into you? Do you need a relationship where he feels the same way?

Kana -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 5:31:10 AM)
ask

thishereboi -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 5:32:50 AM)
Have you met him yet?

crazyml -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 6:16:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: quietsub13 i have been talking to my Sir for a while and He calls me His girl. At times i want to call Him Master as i truly want to give myself to Him, but He hasn't asked. i ache at the thought of not being able to talk to Him and i dream about belonging to Him. Should i tell Him how i feel or wait? There's not much I can add to the excellent responses so far - My favourite being Focus50's. But a couple of things.. When you say "At times I want to call him Master" - do you mean that you want to address him as such, or that you want to be committed to him (and he to you in some way). If you mean the former - Speaking only for myself - I prefer not to be addressed as "Master". I don't object to "Sir" but again would never expect or ask a sub to use this form of address; Because (again - speaking only for myself, and with no hint of judgement of other Dom's who like their subs to use these forms of address), I happen to think it's absurd and silly (A Master is a qualified captain of a ship, and a "Sir" can only be created by her majesty the queen ;-) ) - So, and I don't know, there may be a teensy chance that your Dom would prefer not to be addressed in this way. If you mean the latter - I'd like to gently echo the comments of some other respondents, if you've not actually met the Dom in question then I'd ask you to reflect a little more - I'm not saying that you can't have fully comitted D/s relationships that are online only - but just be careful that it's not just a fantasy on his part before you commit yourself emotionally. If you have met, then I'd echo those who've said "Just ask" - I think Aileen1968 is totally right when she says.. quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 You could always just ask him. Say... "I'd like to call you master. How do you feel about that?" If you hesitate to ask him questions or just to communicate in general, especially over something as simple as this, then you will have a lot of problems in your relationship. Talking and asking questions are not "unsubly"

DarkSteven -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 6:18:52 AM)
A Master should make the decisions. And he should know what his sub wishes. Not that he has any obligation to do it.

KnightofMists -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 7:08:50 AM)
quote: Should i tell Him how i feel or wait? Tell what want to tell him... but only if you can accept the consequences of his answer.

osf -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 7:37:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: quietsub13 i have been talking to my Sir for a while and He calls me His girl. At times i want to call Him Master as i truly want to give myself to Him, but He hasn't asked. i ache at the thought of not being able to talk to Him and i dream about belonging to Him. Should i tell Him how i feel or wait? i hardly ever insist on being called something . so when she does she means it or so i hope

GotSteel -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 10:51:03 AM)
You've noticed that people are making assumptions about the nature of your relationship in this thread, that's because you aren't really giving us much to go on. Maybe the posters guesses have been accurate so far but if not you may want to explain a little more about the nature of your relationship and what your looking for in the relationship.

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 11:33:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: quietsub13 Should i tell Him how i feel or wait? No need for chit-chat... just mark your territory by pissing on his leg; he'll get the hint. [;)]

dreamerdreaming -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 2:28:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GotSteel You've noticed that people are making assumptions about the nature of your relationship in this thread, that's because you aren't really giving us much to go on. Maybe the posters guesses have been accurate so far but if not you may want to explain a little more about the nature of your relationship and what your looking for in the relationship. Wow yeah, it was late last night and I was exhausted and totally missed that she hasn't realtimed with him yet. He could easily be some married (or otherwise committed) dickwad who's just stringing her along. My bad. I still stand by what I said, but I'll add this: OP, you never really know a person until you've spent a significant amount of time, over time, (ie. over a period of months or years- not just one fabulous weekend, or a week or two) actually in their physical presence. If I were you, I'd make plans to meet him ASAP. If he can't meet with you fairly quickly, and provide other assurances that he is in fact who he says he is, and is not otherwise involved, I'd take it as a huge red flag. Have you googled him to find out if what he says about himself matches up with what you find? That's not being suspicious, that's just protecting yourself.

OriginallyFromLA -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 2:46:48 PM)
quote: And then there's the missus blah blah.... [sm=wife.gif] [sm=LMAO.gif]

Wolf2Bear -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 2:47:36 PM)
Tell him. How is he supposed to know how you feel and where your mind is at when you don't say a damn thing?

juliaoceania -> RE: in need of a Master's opinion (2/12/2010 9:01:33 PM)
quote: I would talk. Never die wondering. Wise words these are....

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