LanceHughes
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OP: I just perved your profile. According to you, he's got a year-to-go, making him 20 or 21. You are 24. I think we have two newbies here. Nothing wrong with being so, we ALL started WIITWD with zero knowledge. Having been in the scene for 25 plus years, you've made me look back at my early years to see if there's some "help" for you there.
In those days, there wasn't the internet, but the Leather bars (for gay men) were the place one found the info and the "classes" and contacts. Nowadays, the internet provides a tremendous resource for questions such as yours. That's the good part. The bad part of the internet is that it "allows" such weak, ill-founded situations such as yours. Get some face-to-face time with him before proceeding one step further. Not a few times per month, but more than your current ZERO.....
That all said, I'm wondering just how much experience you have?
Sounds like your I-wanna-be-your-slave is topping from the bottom. He's got you wrapped around his pinkie and has been jerking you. My main answer can be found in this rhetorical question: Who is going to determine whom you take on as a slave? The obvious answer that "YOU get to determine who will be your slave." is the correct one. LOL!
Now, to apply that answer to this situation: I'm sure that you are looking forward to your first-ever slave. The excitement has overcome your level-headed thinking. Back off, Buckaroo! There will be more of them, I assure you. Again.... face-to-face time FIRST before making any such "move in with me" decisions. Take it slowly, and one of the "Gee-I-forgot-that" steps is get some sub-time under your own belt (pun intended.) A slave is a special case. As above, this "dude" doesn't sound very submissive to me, much less potential slave material. You are wise to test him with LD commands. When he doesn't perform the test correctly, MOVE ON! Better to spend your time looking for your next "applicant."
And, BTW, experienced subs are NOT to be cast aside...... I highly recommend baby-Doms (NOT a term of derision, a statement of fact) see what an experienced sub can teach 'em.
Good Luck on your Journey, for that is what it is, a Journey. Would you pick him to go on a journey with you? Sounds like you've made up your mind and the answer is "No."
The question of how to get him out of your life is then paramount. The Victorians had a phrase: "Cut him dead." You can certainly say "I'm going a different direction in my life," and hang up. Repeat in whatever e-mails he sends, etc. He'll soon give up, I promise. Do not get frustrated, do NOT threaten to prosecute him as a stalker. He's an attention whore. In general, Male Doms outnumber Male subs who are looking for a Male Dom. You are a desired commodity. Do not sell yourself so cheaply!
ETA: Note that my current sig line is:
"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn't." - Erica Jong
P.S. Do NOT pay "to move him here" as it says in your OP!!! Wow! I'm surprised no one else saw that , but I admit that I didn't on first read thru either. YIKES! Do NOT let him scam you! He's got you just right where he wants you: You've commanded him to stay there until he finishes school, THEN you'll move him...... nice...... I'll try that myself.... I'm planning on moving to a warmer climate.... Let's see, Florida... okay, find a slave-wanna-be in Florida, and get him to move me there. Easy and FUN as well...... <sarcasm dripping from my fingers>
Again: Good Luck on your Journey!!!
Regards, Lance Hughes
< Message edited by LanceHughes -- 2/13/2010 6:48:45 PM >
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